A Window to the Past, or a Door to Pain?

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o may no longer be with us, make it easier in the grieving process or harder? That is a tough one in my mind.</p><p id="ba97">I would think it could be easier for some, they have a lot of memories to look back on and put a smile on their face. Then again looking at the picture could make someone sad and hard to even look at a picture of someone they miss. I guess it could really depend on the person.</p><p id="f582">I think for me seeing all the good times would make me smile, but it would take time to get to that spot. I don’t think I could even look at one picture for some time.</p><p id="26d0">It has been 4 months since my best friend passed away. I pass his house on Mondays when I go to the doctor in my old town where he used to live. My eyes still fill with tears. I have his memorial card picture up by my father’s ashes and my favorite pug’s ashes. I do not look much, but that picture is not too hard to look at as far as my grieving goes.</p><p id="3e25">I was not able to go up to his casket and could not even stay. I paid my respects and just had to leave. I did not want to remember him in that box. I was not going to sit and just look at him in that box, I just couldn’t. I may not have been right in some people’s eyes and I am sorry for those who feel that way. That was just one memory I did not want to have.</p><p id="dabb">What are your thoughts on this? Curious about what others feel about pictures and lov

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ed ones who have departed.</p><p id="974d">©Kerrie Gutierrez-Diaz 2023</p><p id="1b83">Here are a couple of other excellent stories I think you might like:</p><div id="d959" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/diamond-ring-oh-ring-of-fire-71e100e1ed97"> <div> <div> <h2>Diamond Ring, Oh Ring of Fire!</h2> <div><h3>Not a sight for the naked eye. Mr. “Bigly” are you listening?</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*dHcbgiy2ZtSi1utVn_Zhrg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="8cc0" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/historical-enigmas-revealed-unraveling-the-mysteries-of-ages-past-cf84cc9dce92"> <div> <div> <h2>Historical Enigmas Revealed: Unraveling the Mysteries of Ages Past</h2> <div><h3>A Journey Through Time to Decode the Secrets of the Past</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*ltT3mMUG185hjGD3)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

A Window to the Past, or a Door to Pain?

I have been pondering this question for a little while now. Want to gather some opinions. ⚠️(Caution may be a hard subject for some, talks about losing a loved one)⚠️

Years ago people were lucky if they could afford even a cheap camera. Even 30 years ago, none of my friends were walking around with cameras, we just stayed outside from morning till night and not once thought of a camera to remember a moment. If it was a birthday or something special that would have been different. One time, around the early 90s I had got a hold of a Camcorde for a birthday party and had not seen once since.

Today everyone has a cell phone and can take pictures and videos of anything and everything. It’s second nature to walk around with a phone.

Years ago you a memory of a loved one, was usually in your head, or if you were lucky you could have one or two photos that were well worn.

So this got me thinking. Does having all these photos of a loved one who may no longer be with us, make it easier in the grieving process or harder? That is a tough one in my mind.

I would think it could be easier for some, they have a lot of memories to look back on and put a smile on their face. Then again looking at the picture could make someone sad and hard to even look at a picture of someone they miss. I guess it could really depend on the person.

I think for me seeing all the good times would make me smile, but it would take time to get to that spot. I don’t think I could even look at one picture for some time.

It has been 4 months since my best friend passed away. I pass his house on Mondays when I go to the doctor in my old town where he used to live. My eyes still fill with tears. I have his memorial card picture up by my father’s ashes and my favorite pug’s ashes. I do not look much, but that picture is not too hard to look at as far as my grieving goes.

I was not able to go up to his casket and could not even stay. I paid my respects and just had to leave. I did not want to remember him in that box. I was not going to sit and just look at him in that box, I just couldn’t. I may not have been right in some people’s eyes and I am sorry for those who feel that way. That was just one memory I did not want to have.

What are your thoughts on this? Curious about what others feel about pictures and loved ones who have departed.

Here are a couple of other excellent stories I think you might like: