A Simple Way to Find the Path to Your Dreams

Take a look before you leap blindfolded toward your dreams

Do you ever wonder why you don’t achieve your dreams?

Or feel you know what you want, but you can’t put it in words?

Have you ever felt frustrated that no matter what you do, your dreams never come true?

You are not alone. After years of working as a Communication Consultant, one of the major problems I found, with almost all executives, is not communicating their ideas but expressing what they want.

Here is a simple technique to help you find the answers and understand the three steps of how to set a clear path to your dreams.

And yes, I know you are probably thinking, “Here goes the same old same old stuff I’ve heard before,” but as André Gide once quote:

“I have already said everything that needs to be said. But since no one was listening, everything must be said again.”

Let’s get to the point and make it as simple as possible with a simple 1–2–3- or the Triple D approach.

The triple “D” starts with “Dreams”

Let’s start by defining what you want.

It might look simple, but it is the most complex part of all the process.

The first “D” in our trifecta is for “Dreams,” everyone has one, and many people stay thinking about them all day long.

People never value their dreams. They assume it is a safe place where we can linger while we escape from our routine.

But in reality, they are the fuel for your success. The problem is that, like in any car, if you push too much gas, the engine will flood, and it won’t start; dreams work the same way.

Do You get the point?

Push too much gas in the engine = car won’t run. Too many dreams at the same time = results won’t come.

Ok, but what is the correct amount of fuel?

Like in any car, it depends; that’s why there is the MPG or miles per gallon sticker on your windshield. To establish the correct amount of fuel that your vehicle needs to run according to the manufacturer’s specifications.

And also, the reason why a Honda Civic has a 36MPG, while the Ferrari Portofino only has 18MPG, but you probably will trade all the MPGs for the WPMs (Wows! Per Mile) you’ll have while driving that sucker with the top down on the highway. Besides, we are talking about Dreams, who cares about the Price.

That is correct; Dream with B.I.G. (Best Inspiring Goals) in mind.

Don’t settle for a house, dream of a mansion. Why just a have car to around when you picture yourself driving in a Ferrari. Or not just a vacation in Hawaii, but owning your place in the Caribbean.

But, wait for a second, dreams like gas also have a price, and it fluctuates every day, according to the conditions, the offer, and the demand.

And that is why different dreams have different prices. The bigger the goal, the more you’ll have to pay, which brings us to the next point: The currency for dreams.

The R2D2 approach to defining your dreams

Dreams are expensive, they play hard to get, and they slip from your hand if you don’t grab them by the nuts and bolts.

And the only way you are going to do so is by Rending them into pieces. Small parts you can swallow without choking yourself to death.

Next, you’ll Rate each part according to the value you assign to each. Let’s say you want a Ferrari. But what model do you want? Do you want two or four doors? (Yes, there is one, the Ferrari GTC4Lusso) Will a convertible suit your dreams?

About the house of your dreams. How many bedrooms and baths? Do you want a country house or a beachfront mansion, or maybe in NY or LA?

You get the point, be clear. You will need it for the next issue.

Now is time to Divide all those little pieces of your dream puzzle and place them into groups, just as if you were going to assemble a 10,000 puzzle of your favorite place.

You first put aside all the corners, all the pieces on one color on one side, and other colors apart. Now you separate the segments containing buildings from the ones with sea or mountains.

And only then will you “Decide” where you want to start by assigning value to each group.

There you have it, the R2D2 approach, to define the value you place on every part of your dream.

Each part has a unique value depending on the importance you place on each piece. Do you want two or four doors in your Ferrari or maybe four rooms in your beachfront mansion?

And now that you know how much is each element of your dream is time to pay for them.

The second “D” is for “Desire”

Desire is the only currency available to pay for your dreams.

It is what kicks our ass out of bed in the morning and makes us go to work.

It is that little voice in our heads telling us we have to take the courage to step from our safe place and say hello to someone we like. Furthermore, it is that powerful force that stops us from reaching for that piece of chocolate cake, and instead, you grab an apple.

People don’t buy “weight loss products.” because they like them. They crave to look at great bodies in the mirror, energy to run and play with their kids, and health to live longer.

No one spends 10 hours a week at the gym because they like the struggle. They work their butts off for the desire to look like Thor or play the part.

They want admiration and have the desire to have status. That’s why people buy luxury cars, watches, and clothes. Not only that, but sometimes also, deep down, they desire to be envied by their peers.

It is that dark voice inside our head telling us we want something even if we would deny it in the open, like date someone hotter than your ex, have a better car or greener grass than your neighbor, or get a better job than the last you were they fired you.

Desire is the power, the grit, the force that moves your sorry ass towards your dreams.

The third “D” is for “Declaring”

Who do you want to convince if you are not?

You are the first one you have to persuade, and there is no way around it. Either you say it out loud, so you can hear it, or it will remain a prisoner of your fears and indecision.

What is the case of desiring something if you don’t declare war against anything standing in your way? Often, the winner’s determination decides the greatest, not the army's size or the terrain.

Those who break every barrier in their way and continue the journey are those who will cheer success. The rest, the weak, those who turn away from an obstacle, are the ones that return saying it wasn’t possible, there is no way, no one can do it. This is not for me.

Why should life grant you your dream if you don’t fight for it? Life is a gentle teacher that will give you as many opportunities as you need. But it’s also a challenging and harsh coach that will demand the best out of you before granting you the victory.

In Conclusion

Nothing worth having comes easy.

— Theodore Roosevelt.

If you want the perfect DDD, work hard every day, but before you jump out of your seat and throw yourself towards your dreams, be sure that the road you’re going to take is the one you really want.

No one but you will ever know how much you want something, how deep does this desire runs under your skin, and the price you will pay to get it.

Prepare yourself for the battle of all ages, the one you must not lose, the only one that is worth fighting for.

The prize might be far out of your reach, but it is damn worth it.

You will be the ultimate winner. And the trophy, the recognition that it was all well worth it, no matter the effort.

You are the only real obstacle in your path to fulfilling your dreams.