A person’s misfortune in middle age begins when he is 20 years old

There is a saying I often read when I was young: “The old man is still ambitious, but his ambition is to reach a thousand miles; the martyr is still ambitious in his old age. ”

This is indeed the case in life. We always understand too late. At the age of 20, we don’t know what we want, what we should do, and what kind of person we want to be. It is only in middle age that we begin to slowly wake up and become an old man with great ambitions. Ji .

We follow the rules of society, go to college and graduate, listen to the advice of our elders and choose a “ stable “ job, and when we are 30 years old, we follow the wishes and arrangements of our family, marry someone and have children…

This seems to be the process for most ordinary people to reach middle age.

It is only after middle age that I realize that I have spent too much of my youth in vain; that a “stable” job will still face a mid-life crisis; and that living with a person who has different views will make the world become gloomy.

But these don’t just start in middle age. All the misfortunes and difficulties have been foreshadowed since we were twenty years old.

A person’s misfortune in middle age is actually doomed when he is 20 years old.

01 The reason for being poor and abject in middle age is because I started to choose to be miserable in my 20s.

If you fail at work when you are young, you will definitely not make money.

Most of those who don’t master professional skills, work hard, or even change jobs frequently will only receive the lowest salary in the industry.

In the awkward middle age, if you don’t have any skills or core competitiveness, you will be slowly eliminated by this society and you will not be able to make money.

If you mess up your life planning when you are young, you will get a middle-aged life full of helplessness and anxiety.

Many people go to work to wait for get off work, and then enjoy the comfortable time after get off work, but never consider what life is for.

When people reach middle age, when their peers live the lives they like, they find themselves becoming more and more anxious and unwilling.

If you fail to save money when you are young, you will be destined to live a life of extreme poverty in middle age.

When I was young, I never thought about how much money I wanted to earn, nor how I could escape poverty. I could buy whatever I liked and eat whatever I wanted, no matter how much I spent or how much I could save every month.

Once you reach middle age, you realize that raising children requires money, family living expenses require money, and honoring parents requires money.

Life without savings is as uncomfortable as being squeezed from all directions. Middle-aged people without savings will also live an extremely poor life.

The poverty and abjection of middle-aged people have already begun to brew when they are in their twenties.

02 Loneliness in middle age is due to the failure to properly screen the other half of life at the age of 20

Many people once complained about a widowed marriage. After getting married, they found that their lives were even more lonely.

In real life, only a handful of people have truly happy marriages, but complaining about the spouse staying up late playing games, having dinner with friends, or not being able to do housework without taking care of the children is a common occurrence in life.

There may even be a day when you feel that you two have different views and can never get along when talking. At that moment, you begin to realize the loneliness in life.

But have you ever thought about and planned for such a marriage? Or were you compromised by the environmental trends of the year under the influence of age and parents?

Loneliness in middle age is doomed when you are 20 years old. When choosing a life partner, you must be careful and think twice at all times.

03 All the physical discomforts experienced by people in middle age are caused by the lack of self-discipline in life in their 20s.

Staying up late looking at mobile phones, attending dinner parties, or working overtime. We always think that staying up late is fine when we are young.

It was only in middle age that I discovered that many diseases were related to the late nights I used to stay up.

You can skip meals because you sleep in, you forget to eat and sleep because of work, you deliberately go hungry because you want to lose weight… you think skipping these few meals is no big deal.

When the disease really comes to your door one day, you will regret that you took eating so lightly.

I don’t want to move when I feel tired. I sit for a long time to complete my work. I feel that exercise wastes time and choose to filter it out.

Later, when I gained weight in my middle age, struggled to lose weight but found it difficult to lose fat, and lost vitality in my limbs, I finally realized how important it is to exercise regularly.

If you stay up late when you are young, you have to accept physical discomfort in the future; if you don’t eat well, you have to accept physical weakness; if you don’t exercise regularly, you have to accept the bulky and stiff body in middle age.

When people reach middle age, many physical discomforts are caused by their youth.

At any time, you must eat well, exercise appropriately, go to bed early and get up early. A good body is the greatest asset in middle age.

04 The midlife crisis that people often face after middle age is enjoying too much comfort in their 20s.

In the past two years, the word “ layoffs “ has often appeared in life.

Some time ago, I saw a female programmer who searched for several months before finding a satisfactory job after being laid off. At the age of 30, she had already discovered that good job opportunities no longer favored her.

When you are in your 30s, you will find that being over 35 is a threshold . This society seems to be declaring to everyone: We do not need people under 35 years old.

At the age of 30, when we feel that our life has just begun, the society has already begun to try to eliminate us.

If we enjoy the comfort of a “stable” job from the beginning, we will easily become part of society’s elimination in middle age.

Don’t always enjoy comfort when you are young. Try things other than “stability” and explore your potential in other areas. Only then will you resolve the crisis in middle age.