A Nasty Breakup

If people are so in love, why do they end up hating each other?

Were we really in love at all, or was it lust?

When we’re in lust, we often gloss over the negative stuff because our brains are flooded with dopamine and adrenaline.

This passionate love/lust can fade as we get to know a new partner and transition to an attachment that companionate love.

For better or worse, we really learn about each other.

Some relationships that last for many years, but the people may grow in different directions.

To work through the “DOWNS” requires communication.

Yelling at each other is a nono. Address the issues and be calm and fair.

Ground Rules are a must.

If you decide on monogamy, honor that. Trust is huge. For an open relationship, honest is how it works.

Let’s say you have been through heartache and pain. If your partner comes back, you still won’t be able to love them completely. Watch your feelings then and decide if you want to give it a second chance. This will determine if you want to stay on or move on.

It’s not just words, but actions that matter. If your instinct is to walk out on a cheating partner, see if he or she is willing to change after you confront him or her.

Trust your feelings.

Pause. And breathe. Small arguments are bad reasons to break up and pack it in. If there have been more pros than cons, and it’s just a phase in your relationship. Have a heart-to-heart talk.

Think about the value your partner adds to your life. Despite the occasional fights, does he or she make your life better?

Does your partner still bring out the best in you?

If you do go separate ways, it does not need to be nasty. You did love this person at one time. Being friends can be a plus.

Thanks for reading!