A Message for My Ex-girlfriend

The journey of letting go

You see, guys, you’re going to go through your fair share of dating—whether that is with guys or girls, long-term relationships, long-distance relationships, or the ones that end with a nudge wake-up call asking you what you want for breakfast.

You see, back during the past few years, I’ve been loved, dumb, stood up, rejected, and had the moment where I just hated love and didn’t want anything to do with it.

A message of liberation

“You look so happy without me,” I’d think. I’m not saying this as a diss; I’m not saying it’s a backhanded compliment; this has nothing to do with how I’m feeling—whether alone, lonely, or loved. This is all about you.

I can expect that you are thinking I’m going to say I miss you, and sadly, you’d be mistaken because I didn’t miss what we had. I’ve moved on for once in my life. But, as you wish, I’m finally happy. I’m actually happy to be me. The moment that you told me I should go out and find myself and become happier, well, I did. It was partly because of you, but also because you made me realize that I deserve so much more than you for me to be happy. I deserve me.

So, from me to you, I want you to listen closely to this next line. This isn’t about finding someone new; this is just about you looking so damn happy because you finally found you.

You see, guys, sometimes it’s okay to let go.

You’re going to sit there and think that you were the one who loved them too much and caused them to leave. If that’s true and you were the reason why they left, then why would you want them to be with someone that they don’t love? You deserve somebody to love you for you and be honest. Do they deserve somebody to love them for them?

Finding happiness after letting go

As of right now, I am in a very, very happy relationship. For the longest time, I didn’t let myself be happy while they were until I finally let go of the past and accepted the fact that I couldn’t stop someone from falling out of love with me. It was tough, but it was the exact painful line that I needed to understand.

Once I realized that, which was really tough but necessary, it was the exact painful line that I needed to understand. So, guys, I never want to see you TP’ing, egging a house, or bashing one of your exes online. They broke up with you, and that is the greatest pain that they will feel. You are the greatest person that they will never experience, and that is the best revenge or retaliation that you could give them.

Navigating breakups

And when the breakup comes, I know it will be cringe-worthy and awkward, but I’ll be here for you. Just remember, stay you, stay beautiful. Breakups are hard, but they’re meant to happen. You don’t want to be stuck in love with someone who’s not in love with you. It’s hard to let them go, but it’s probably one of the most important things to do.

So, stay beautiful, oh, you guys. Until next time.