A Lot Can Change In A Year
Sometimes we just don’t notice it.
How can a year become the best yet worse one of your life? Well… not of my life, but if I could describe 2021, I would say some of my favorite memories were made this year, yet there are moments I don’t want to relive, and I wouldn’t wish them on anyone.
Each year brings us new lessons. 365 days haven’t passed for nothing. Even if day by day things may feel like they are the same, and that nothing has changed, I can assure you that you aren’t the same person you were in January. Weird right?
That’s because change is a constant thing. Change happens day by day. When you add the tiniest bit of extra creamer to your coffee, you went from someone that had it dark and bitter, to someone that now likes it light and sweet. From that one time you tried to add more color to your eyes while doing your makeup, now you take a bit more to get ready.
Life Doesn’t Need a Big Monumental Change to Feel Different
Whenever we tell ourselves that we want to change who we are, that we aren’t aligned with the person we picture ourselves as, we try to change one hundred percent of us overnight. Sometimes we feel stuck, like nothing feels different, or new. When in reality that could be your new self starting to wake up and realize that they have a blank canvas they can work on now.
We tend to get so overwhelmed with wanting to change our routines and add six new habits at once that we self-sabotage within the first week of this “new version” of ourselves.
We aren’t supposed to throw our old selves away in a day and start anew. We still have parts of or old selves ingrained in us, and that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing.
When trying to change, we need to try, and fail, and try again. We need to be okay with falling back to old habits, because that old part of you isn’t ready to let go, even if you are. Sometimes we just need a proper closure of ourselves. Kind of like a break up. We are saying goodbye to someone that was with us for a long period of time. We are attached. Letting go is a process.
Don’t punish yourself for feeling like you haven’t changed, because chances are, when you look back at your January 2021 self, you’ll notice the differences from your December self. Trust me, the differences are there. Embrace them. Love them. Be with them. If there are things that you still want to let go of, give yourself permission to do so. Be patient with yourself, it won’t all happen overnight.
Give yourself the closure that you need to detach yourself from the person you no longer want to be.
Lots of love,
Lya