A Logical Proof of Your Perfection

This is absolute

“Perfection: having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be”

Oxford Dictionary

What if it’s true? What if you actually are without fault? What if you are completely deserving of love and acceptance just as you are right now? For many, this sounds far-fetched. For others, this idea that “everybody is perfect just as they are” is used to justify laziness and complacency. But I assure you, there are perfectly logical reasons to believe this; and, it goes far beyond half-assed justifications.

A few days ago, I was in a particularly deep meditation. One of the various goals of meditation is to detach from your identity. This means to separate from your normal stream of thoughts and view them simply as an observer. You may understand and appreciate that the thoughts come from within, but you ought to avoid allowing yourself to attach to the narratives that you paint out. These narratives come in many different forms: planning, value judgments, feelings, beliefs, memories, and much more. By letting these steal your attention, you get wrapped up in the story of your identity. These narratives separate you from objective, undisturbed peace.

In this meditation, I decided to zero in on my precise goal; that is, to detach from my limited identity and to be at peace without distraction from desire, fear, or anger. With a clear mind, I identified a narrative that consistently drains me of my energy and sense of well-being. It sounds something like this: “I need to be sexy, productive, and successful in order to be worthy of existing, worthy of love, and worthy of acceptance.” Naturally, in this meditation, it became clear to me just how full of shit I must be to believe this.

We all feel this lack of self-acceptance to a certain degree. Most of us, whether we admit it or not, feel that we are not enough. This accounts for people’s tendencies to escape this world through television, food, video games, sex, drugs, and lies. Much of this behavior stems from an implicit feeling of insufficiency. We don’t feel like we deserve love. Therefore, we fail to nourish ourselves with self-love when in reality, that’s all we really need to be happy. We seek happiness in hollow, meaningless things that make our brains pump dopamine. If we could all understand how utterly faultless we are in the deepest sense; if we could only understand the magnitude of the beauty contained within each and every one of us, humanity as we know it would transform.

I beg of you not to misconstrue my words into thinking that you can do whatever you want. The truth is, you can and you will still be worthy of love; however if you really understood the nature of your perfection, you would understand that you are not alone in this perfection. All people deserve to be happy. A true understanding of your own worth inevitably leads to an understanding of the worth of others. In order to see this, you will likely need to reframe your understanding of the world. So, like always, I must ask you to at least try to abandon your perspective for the time being.

Radical Acceptance

The first step to becoming acutely aware of your perfection is understanding that your perspective means nothing; neither does mine and neither does anyone else’s. Meaning in this universe is synthetically fabricated. Humans impose value, hierarchies, and conceptual understandings onto reality. Any value judgment, any metric of measuring self-worth, and any feeling of insufficiency means nothing in the face of the universe’s inherently indifferent nature.

For those of you who believe in some religious, all-powerful, conscious deity ruling this universe with black-and-white moral judgment awaiting all people, this may not resonate. If this applies to you, that is more than okay. You probably do not need me to convince you of your perfection. Your holy book likely tells you that you are made in your God’s or gods’ image in one way or another. Most holy books make this implication.

Personally, I don’t think the universe is this simple. Earth has been around for about 4.543 billion years. Life has likely been here for about 3.7 billion of those years. Homo sapien sapiens have been around for only 300,000 of those 3.7 billion years (about 0.008% of that time). Morality evolved slowly, sporadically, and with high variability. There was never a point at which humans were collectively enlightened with some universal moral law.

Humans, even up until the last few thousand years, have practiced sacrifice, cannibalism, domination-based politics, massive and prolonged oppression based on inconsequential differences, slavery, and an alarming amount of warfare. Life on earth has been violent and tribal for too long for me to believe that there is some god out there who cares enough about right and wrong to at least share some universal code by which humans ought to live.

And so, it makes sense to me that looking out at life from an objective perspective is similar to looking at life from the perspective of the universe as a whole. This perspective is passive, nonjudgmental, and unimposing. In a certain sense, this perspective can be described as no perspective.

It’s obvious that there is no right or wrong in the universe from this vantage point. Beyond our human interpretations of this universe, there are no needs, desires, or values. There is no moral code underlying its physical foundation. No change is necessary. No change would even be favorable! Nothing is better if it is one way or worse if it is another. Nothing can be done to make anything in this universe any better or worse than what it is right now. Nothing could possibly be more optimized. Nothing could possibly be more valuable. Everything simply is. Everything in this universe is absolutely, unequivocally perfect.

We constantly lose track of the big picture, objective perspective. We stay in our bubble of culturally assigned value that leaves us feeling incomplete. We live in a world of materialism and meritocracy. Consumerist standards prompt people to crave possessions, so they work under the impression that the more they work, the more material they will receive. On the other hand, people crave recognition and find that the best marker for this is material acquisition. We are told day in and day out that we must work to be something other than what we are right now until we approximate certain standards. In objective reality, no person is more valuable than you regardless of how much more attractive, rich, or famous they are. You are just as important, just as good, just as right, and just as worthy of being here as Jeff Bezos or Kendall Jenner.

As of right now, it may be the case that this idea of an objective reality only holds the status of “idea” within your mind. Perhaps there is no reason why this particular idea should impact your experience of life more so than any other idea you hold. If you have other ways of seeing all of humanity as worthy of love, respect, and happiness, then good for you. This proposition of objectivity ought to remain an idea to you so long as your current paradigm does not cause you to look down on others judgmentally. For those of you who are reluctant to dedicate yourself to a religious system, I recommend you keep reading.

It is likely that what I am saying to you will be as insignificant as any other self-help adage unless it is consistently fortified into the form of a conviction. This can be difficult in light of the fact that we don’t exist within this objective, universal perspective. We live within our egos. We look at the world from the perspective of “I” and assign value in our lives and in our experiences accordingly.

Despite this, the adoption of this meta, post-egoistic perspective has happened billions of times throughout the course of human history. Almost all people who claim to have “seen the face of God” or “encountered the great beyond” have pierced through the veil that is identity and experienced this incorporeal grandeur. I have experienced this as well and I assure you that you too are not exempt from the possibility.

Psychedelics serve as a tool by which we can experience ego dissolution, thereby bathing in this absolute, radical acceptance of ourselves and the world around us. The experience of ego dissolution is worth pursuing because these experiences act as a mechanism by which you can transform the truths of objective reality into convictions. I cannot, however, recommend this without experienced, professional supervision. Psychedelics are powerful, life-changing substances that must be handled with great care.

Even without this mystical encounter, the aforementioned truth of objective reality is graspable. Learning to distance your awareness from your identity through meditation can be indispensable in the pursuit of self-love and self-acceptance through objectivity. It requires no faith to believe in the existence of this pure objectivity. Can you not see it just by reflecting? Can you not will yourself to authentically feel inwards and see when an idea comes from your biased, bounded, defensive identity versus when it comes from pure, equanimous, objective awareness?

The desire to bring more self-love into this world has dictated every major decision I have made since I first realized the utter bliss that exists within this notion. It is an incredibly motivating factor leading to an empowered, energetic, meaningful, happy, and selfless life. What’s missing so far in this dialogue is what motivates me to action. If I am practicing objective and radical acceptance, why wouldn’t I just accept the suffering of all of mankind? Why would I ever put in any work to make the world a more hospitable place to the rest of the people in it? Why would I ever feel the need to put in work to grow into my strongest and most capable self? Explaining this in light of the discussion so far would take far too long for a single article. I’ll have to save that one for another day.

For now, thank you for taking the time to read my article. I hope you practice some of what I shared. It makes sense to me. Additionally, aiming to integrate this huge-scale mentality into yourself has a spiritual component to it. Modern western society is spiritually starving and, if you choose to pursue the acquisition of this mentality, I think you’ll be well on your way to discovering much of what the spiritual lifestyle has to offer.