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6.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="2234">For the most part as a kid, my mom and dad were happily married and provided for the family life in a meaningful way. We always had dinner as a family growing up. I think that the culture of having a stable, loving environment around food influenced the most going into my adult life.</p><p id="63a5">I learned about proper etiquette at the table as an adult. I certainly would never use my phone at the table when I’m in a group in a social situation. My partner and I definitely abstain from using our phones when we eat even when the table element is largely absent in our current setting.</p><p id="1198">We know that food is a great way for us to connect and bond in a meaningful way. Meal time is a time that neither one of us is on our screens and where we just sit, enjoy the food, and have a conversation while we’re eating. I find it extremely irritating when someone who’s keeping company with us is way too distracted to pay attention to the moment.</p><p id="4fb3">I have had to tell people at the table when we’re in a social situation to put their phones down or away when they’re around us. I have a pet peeve around that as much as my mom did whenever we had anything other than just ourselves and our plates in front of us at the table. I don’t know if it’s an Asian family thing but you’re not allowed to leave the table without permission for any reason other than an emergency.</p><p id="9c28">There was a time when I was a little bit older when my mom would allow me to bring my homework and my books to the table if I was in the middle of studying but I als

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o had to be engaged with the family. I couldn’t just bury myself in my schoolwork.</p><p id="6ca9">I’m grateful for having an example of how a functional dinner table works in a family. I know that many people for one reason or another don’t get that. I was very fortunate to grow up in a family that was stable for all of my childhood and where my parents stayed together for the sake of the children.</p><p id="534e">Even though things fell apart with my parents’ marriage in the end and we didn’t find out how dysfunctional everything was until we were older, we always had that time as a family sitting together and being present with each other. My mom was such a good cook and always had plenty of food for us to eat at the table as a family too.</p><p id="d5ee">As an adult, I also follow the example of my mom and continue that tradition with my partner but also make sure that we can always provide for ourselves in terms of having enough food. That’s why I’m extra grateful when we can not only afford to eat enough but when we can just enjoy each other’s company.</p><p id="2e1e">Day 9:</p><div id="84ee" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/someone-i-admire-day-9-2c4762b53088"> <div> <div> <h2>Someone I Admire — Day 9</h2> <div><h3>I admire a very special person</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*4f26xcguRVnF3CENPAgQaQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

the SELF-REFLECTION WRITING CHALLENGE

A Happy Childhood Memory That Influenced Me Today — Day 10

I had a (mostly) happy childhood so there is a lot to draw from

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Dr. Tracy Davis has a great writing challenge that I’ve gotten through a third of the way. She has made me think of some things I definitely appreciate looking inward to find inspiration in writing responses to these excellent and thoughtful prompts. Now as I turn the first corner of the challenge, I look back on my childhood and think about the memories that influenced me in a positive way.

For the most part as a kid, my mom and dad were happily married and provided for the family life in a meaningful way. We always had dinner as a family growing up. I think that the culture of having a stable, loving environment around food influenced the most going into my adult life.

I learned about proper etiquette at the table as an adult. I certainly would never use my phone at the table when I’m in a group in a social situation. My partner and I definitely abstain from using our phones when we eat even when the table element is largely absent in our current setting.

We know that food is a great way for us to connect and bond in a meaningful way. Meal time is a time that neither one of us is on our screens and where we just sit, enjoy the food, and have a conversation while we’re eating. I find it extremely irritating when someone who’s keeping company with us is way too distracted to pay attention to the moment.

I have had to tell people at the table when we’re in a social situation to put their phones down or away when they’re around us. I have a pet peeve around that as much as my mom did whenever we had anything other than just ourselves and our plates in front of us at the table. I don’t know if it’s an Asian family thing but you’re not allowed to leave the table without permission for any reason other than an emergency.

There was a time when I was a little bit older when my mom would allow me to bring my homework and my books to the table if I was in the middle of studying but I also had to be engaged with the family. I couldn’t just bury myself in my schoolwork.

I’m grateful for having an example of how a functional dinner table works in a family. I know that many people for one reason or another don’t get that. I was very fortunate to grow up in a family that was stable for all of my childhood and where my parents stayed together for the sake of the children.

Even though things fell apart with my parents’ marriage in the end and we didn’t find out how dysfunctional everything was until we were older, we always had that time as a family sitting together and being present with each other. My mom was such a good cook and always had plenty of food for us to eat at the table as a family too.

As an adult, I also follow the example of my mom and continue that tradition with my partner but also make sure that we can always provide for ourselves in terms of having enough food. That’s why I’m extra grateful when we can not only afford to eat enough but when we can just enjoy each other’s company.

Day 9:

The Cb Movement
Childhood
This Happened To Me
Writing
Food
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