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busing me on the phone call in a very loud manner of how I would have told them. I was coming, all of this hit me very emotionally. Having my anxiety to its limit, I went and sat in the blazing heat on the school grounds where I would always use to.Feeling the misery, and the despair — the emotional outcry that followed in my heart, a few tears were shed. I called my faculty mate, they were about to leave. He asked me, “what’s up if you want we can turn around and pick you up!?” — I said, “never mind, I was just asking whether you have safely exited the city on your journey.” He said to me, “Be well! take care!” I said the same and then cut the call.I had forgotten a very profound lesson in life, which I experienced about the essence of friendship. It happened to me a decade ago in the same manner, that was happening to me at that moment. The depressing moment of being stood up for people who want you there but can’t spare a moment of warmth for you — who traveled and left everything for them.I called an old roommate of mine, he told me that he is in hospital shift. He will get free and pick me up until then. I called another buddy, he took me to his apartment. We stayed there, and he gave me a room to stay and food to eat. He asked, me what’s up. I hugged him in tears and told him the whole story. He was shocked, and he tore a few tears while he hugged me firmly. I told him “you know how much I took care of them and they can’t even spare one moment for me. Let alone talk to me.”He said, “its how things go around here, now. When you left everybody broke apart — no one talks to anyone anymore. They just stopped caring and talking.”I stayed there, in his apartment till the evening my roommate got free. He then booked an uber and sent me his way. I hugged and told him, “Thank you for being there, when no one listened.” — I treasure him and all he is because he cared enough to answer the call. I said, goodbye and traveled to my old friend’s apartment.I met him, and he was surprised that I came. I told him about the convocation and the things that followed. Of how my heart was crushed into a billion pieces by the ones whom I believed were my friends. I got a few calls afterward of a few friends from which I actually expected will stay. They agreed to meet, I met them and then we had a blast. I told them what had happened, and what transpired.They said, to be — the same thing that my other friend had told me. Of how everyone has become this miserable wretched person that only tends to care about themself.A selfless person is a lamb to the slaughter in front of these people.I recommend it after my experience. Expectations are a natural response when you are trying to make a surprising change to other people’s lives. When the same people shun you, is perhaps the hardest thing one can experience — neglect and rejection but most of all walking all over your feelings.I stayed there in that city, for 7 days. I didn’t let the first day get to me. So I stayed there for a few days to give everyone a chance if they want to meet — they didn’t. And I shortly after left the 6th day for home. Coming back, I fell ill and was hospitalized for a few days. As the mental fatigue, I experienced

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from that experience took a toll on my physical health as well.I bid goodbye to my few friends who came and showed up. But I promised myself to never fall from the same stone twice. Although, I actually did fall after a decade. I learned a fundamental lesson from that experience to never keep expectations from others, even if it meant from the ones you love.As we as human beings obsess on fragile things that tend to break in the most unexpected of moments. It can cause us a lot of mental and physical harm. In my case, I was able to get back to health but I chose to never put myself in harm’s way.Expect less, and give more to those who value you — those who matter. Learn to give without gain, and you shall find peace.I am at peace, after that experience. Though I did get calls from people who tried to make excuses. But I changed my contact number after that, as the mental fatigue that sent me to the hospital beds gave me a hard lesson that I learned for the last time. We tend to throw ourselves at people, we love. We try our best to take care of them and we do expect they will be there to catch us when we fall.It is a human sentiment, and everybody feels this even if they say they don’t — they do. The best way to learn is to experience it a few times until the senses kick in only then we can reflect and learn from such experiences.Though my experience gave me a ton of lessons that I believe can teach anyone a thing or two about keeping low expectations. But also keep the least amount of especially those that you love the most. As the dagger that comes from the ones around you hurts deeper than the one that is stabbed by your enemy.I have forgiven myself and those people who belittled betrayed my trust and my love that was treated like the most insignificant thing there is. I have moved on from that, it serves as a lesson — advice that I give the people who blindly trust even the people around them to not keep blind expectations from those whom you love.It does hurt a lot, fear does take over sometimes. But I am here to assure you that life becomes easier when you accept your circumstances. It is better to forgive and never forget. Move forwards and use those experiences to make better choices. At the end of the day, it is the most peaceful thing that you can do. Though we can never forget what we do for others when it comes from the deepest etchings of our heart.It is better to live with hope than to writhe in the agony of expectations. I have lived both, and living with hope is perhaps a much better fit to a sweeter life where you get surprised very often with good outcomes that come with great lessons. Life is perhaps the sweetest of gifts that we have been bestowed with.We should take care of ourselves more than ever when we experience such hardships. Try, try, try our level best to be there for someone who comes for you. Because they are what makes this life truly a blessing to be in. True companionship serves to those who experience hardship.The best of friends are those who are there when you really need them, and I found mine during my hardship among the ones who claimed to be mine.Live and let live. Peace.Thank you for reading.</article></body>

A Friend in Need Is a Friend Indeed

Yet there those who neglect the ones, who love and care for them with all their heart — Only in hardship do you realize who is your friend, and who is not.

On the 23rd of May of 2018, I decided to travel back to surprise my friends. I had left during one summer of 2017 and switched campuses in between. I couldn’t come back because of a few family problems. I lived in a guest house for 3+ years that was allotted to a few people from the university professors and a few students during my stay.

I had to come back, as my family needed me during those years so I decided to study on another campus that was closer to home. When I came back home, I saw my family members, some of them were getting older. I didn’t want to regret something so I decided to be in their company and decided altogether to switch my university campuses all together.

I had perhaps many friends that I treasured and many whom I that took care of for those 3 years. I had fostered friendships that lasted even when I left that city. They always would call and ask me when I would visit them. I would say that I need to get some free time and I will hopefully visit them in time.

In May of 2018, I decided to guide my faculty members as there was a convocation being held on the main campus of our university. So I decided to travel with them. This was a surprise that I wanted to give my friends or so I had thought, what awaited me.

When I reached there, I got them inside and guided the members. Then I called an acquaintance of mine that I love and adore. I have known for a decade or two. I love her to bits. I called her up, she was at the university. I had initially come with baggage if I had to spend a few days there with my friends. So I told my faculty mates to leave me behind, they asked me “will it be ok?” I said, “it will be.” — he was worried about me for what might happen as the day was very grim for us.

I met her, she was surprised — we sat together and talked. I just listened to her as I always did. After a while her director whom she was filming with, she was a film major and they were going to travel to a set. She left with a hug, that felt like a goodbye but a hard one at that. As she was walking to the car, A voice from the inside wanted her to stop and stay but I didn’t extend myself waving goodbye as she sat in the car and left.

That moment of her walking away is sung in my memory and my heart. If only she had stayed behind. If only — they had picked the call.

Afterward, I went to university courtyards and sat there. I called my friends — some picked up the call and made excuses while I stood near the bus terminals waiting for them to pick me up. With my bags in hand, in the scorching heat of 45 celsius — I stood there for an hour or two and then came back inside.

I called a few other “friends” — one didn’t pick up and one started abusing me on the phone call in a very loud manner of how I would have told them. I was coming, all of this hit me very emotionally. Having my anxiety to its limit, I went and sat in the blazing heat on the school grounds where I would always use to.

Feeling the misery, and the despair — the emotional outcry that followed in my heart, a few tears were shed. I called my faculty mate, they were about to leave. He asked me, “what’s up if you want we can turn around and pick you up!?” — I said, “never mind, I was just asking whether you have safely exited the city on your journey.” He said to me, “Be well! take care!” I said the same and then cut the call.

I had forgotten a very profound lesson in life, which I experienced about the essence of friendship. It happened to me a decade ago in the same manner, that was happening to me at that moment. The depressing moment of being stood up for people who want you there but can’t spare a moment of warmth for you — who traveled and left everything for them.

I called an old roommate of mine, he told me that he is in hospital shift. He will get free and pick me up until then. I called another buddy, he took me to his apartment. We stayed there, and he gave me a room to stay and food to eat. He asked, me what’s up. I hugged him in tears and told him the whole story. He was shocked, and he tore a few tears while he hugged me firmly. I told him “you know how much I took care of them and they can’t even spare one moment for me. Let alone talk to me.”

He said, “its how things go around here, now. When you left everybody broke apart — no one talks to anyone anymore. They just stopped caring and talking.”

I stayed there, in his apartment till the evening my roommate got free. He then booked an uber and sent me his way. I hugged and told him, “Thank you for being there, when no one listened.” — I treasure him and all he is because he cared enough to answer the call. I said, goodbye and traveled to my old friend’s apartment.

I met him, and he was surprised that I came. I told him about the convocation and the things that followed. Of how my heart was crushed into a billion pieces by the ones whom I believed were my friends. I got a few calls afterward of a few friends from which I actually expected will stay. They agreed to meet, I met them and then we had a blast. I told them what had happened, and what transpired.

They said, to be — the same thing that my other friend had told me. Of how everyone has become this miserable wretched person that only tends to care about themself.

A selfless person is a lamb to the slaughter in front of these people.

I recommend it after my experience. Expectations are a natural response when you are trying to make a surprising change to other people’s lives. When the same people shun you, is perhaps the hardest thing one can experience — neglect and rejection but most of all walking all over your feelings.

I stayed there in that city, for 7 days. I didn’t let the first day get to me. So I stayed there for a few days to give everyone a chance if they want to meet — they didn’t. And I shortly after left the 6th day for home. Coming back, I fell ill and was hospitalized for a few days. As the mental fatigue, I experienced from that experience took a toll on my physical health as well.

I bid goodbye to my few friends who came and showed up. But I promised myself to never fall from the same stone twice. Although, I actually did fall after a decade. I learned a fundamental lesson from that experience to never keep expectations from others, even if it meant from the ones you love.

As we as human beings obsess on fragile things that tend to break in the most unexpected of moments. It can cause us a lot of mental and physical harm. In my case, I was able to get back to health but I chose to never put myself in harm’s way.

Expect less, and give more to those who value you — those who matter. Learn to give without gain, and you shall find peace.

I am at peace, after that experience. Though I did get calls from people who tried to make excuses. But I changed my contact number after that, as the mental fatigue that sent me to the hospital beds gave me a hard lesson that I learned for the last time. We tend to throw ourselves at people, we love. We try our best to take care of them and we do expect they will be there to catch us when we fall.

It is a human sentiment, and everybody feels this even if they say they don’t — they do. The best way to learn is to experience it a few times until the senses kick in only then we can reflect and learn from such experiences.

Though my experience gave me a ton of lessons that I believe can teach anyone a thing or two about keeping low expectations. But also keep the least amount of especially those that you love the most. As the dagger that comes from the ones around you hurts deeper than the one that is stabbed by your enemy.

I have forgiven myself and those people who belittled betrayed my trust and my love that was treated like the most insignificant thing there is. I have moved on from that, it serves as a lesson — advice that I give the people who blindly trust even the people around them to not keep blind expectations from those whom you love.

It does hurt a lot, fear does take over sometimes. But I am here to assure you that life becomes easier when you accept your circumstances. It is better to forgive and never forget. Move forwards and use those experiences to make better choices. At the end of the day, it is the most peaceful thing that you can do. Though we can never forget what we do for others when it comes from the deepest etchings of our heart.

It is better to live with hope than to writhe in the agony of expectations. I have lived both, and living with hope is perhaps a much better fit to a sweeter life where you get surprised very often with good outcomes that come with great lessons. Life is perhaps the sweetest of gifts that we have been bestowed with.

We should take care of ourselves more than ever when we experience such hardships. Try, try, try our level best to be there for someone who comes for you. Because they are what makes this life truly a blessing to be in. True companionship serves to those who experience hardship.

The best of friends are those who are there when you really need them, and I found mine during my hardship among the ones who claimed to be mine.

Live and let live. Peace.

Thank you for reading.