A Case of Good Parenting
The drastic step a mom took to save her daughter
A mom in Brazil decided — after checking her daughter’s TikToks and other Social Media posts — to delete the accounts. Why? She found the posts average at best and exploitative and damaging to her daughter’s mental health.
‘I don’t want my daughter growing up thinking she’s a star and then falling flat on her face. I don’t want her getting her self-esteem linked to likes on her platforms. It’s unnatural, unhealthy, and gives a totally skewed sense of self-worth.’
Somehow, she managed to delete her daughter’s accounts, unequivocally ending the influencer career of her 14-year-old daughter. Bottom line: For the Brazilian mother, internet fame is dangerous for a teenager’s self-esteem. I’d really like to know how she got the passwords to delete the accounts. Neat trick.
Drastic — I love it
It is a drastic educational measure that Fernanda Rocha Kanner has taken. In order to protect the well-being of her 14-year-old daughter, she deleted her Tiktok and Instagram accounts. Under the pseudonym Nina Rios, the daughter had accumulated 1.7 million followers there.
Self-Esteem
In an interview with the Brazilian TV broadcaster Fantástico, Kanner said that she considers the influence of social networks to be unhealthy. In particular, the impact of fame on social media damages young women’s self-esteem. Her daughter should learn and realize her online fame does not reflect her real personality, her mother said.
On Valentina’s channel — the influencer’s real name — her mother found around 30 almost identical selfies and short dance videos that anyone can imitate, in Kanner’s opinion (mine too btw). It is “sad” that such content is enough nowadays to become an Internet star. Her daughter shouldn’t become a circus monkey presenting polyester clothing from China. What a rad mom.
A Return to the Platforms is not planned
As Valentina said in an interview with Fantástico, she was initially angry with her mother after the deletion of her accounts. Sounds like an understatement to me — I can’t imagine how that went down. Angry, tantrumy teenagers are scary.
Oh, Valentina dear, I deleted all your accounts.
In the meantime, Valentina seems to have understood her mother’s intentions, because the 14-year-old is currently not interested in returning to internet stardom. But she didn’t rule out a comeback — she will decide for herself. Do I sense a flare-up of rebellion? Regardless, it was a super brave move on the mom’s part. Brava Fernanda Rocha Kanner. I hope it helps her daughter and that maybe some parents use this as a good example. Internet fame is bullshit and so ephemeral.