9 Signs You’re A Strong Person
And how it helps you deal with life
Have you met someone who handles the stresses of life with ease? Do you wonder how they became that way? They have the following characteristics of a strong person. If you have these traits, then you are strong too.
They keep their emotions under control
When something bad happens they try to keep calm and don’t get hysterical.
They know that losing control of their emotions during a difficult situation is not in their best interest. They assess each situation that comes up, seek guidance if necessary, and plan their next move.
They wouldn’t dare send an email to someone in a fit of anger. They are wise enough to know they would later regret it, so they don’t press that send button.
If something upsets them, they’ll wait until they calm down, and then decide how to respond logically. They analyze all sides of an argument and then come to a rational conclusion.
They are not the kind of people who make major life decisions based on emotion. They list all the pros and cons and then arrive at a decision. These are the ones who always come prepared with a plan B.
They don’t get upset about things out of their control
Strong people don’t waste their time getting upset over stuff they have no control over. They know it’s just a waste of energy.
There are many situations in life we have no control over. We can’t control the weather, or what other people do. We can only control our own actions or how we react to a problem.
“When we change, the world changes “— Daisaku Ikeda.
If the one you love is an alcoholic, you can’t stop them from taking a drink. What you can do is ask that they go to rehab, remove every last drop of alcohol from the home, and attend Al-Anon meetings. You can urge them to quit their habit, but ultimately they are the one who decides whether to drink.
You can’t change someone else. You only can change how you react to them, or if ultimately, you decide to keep them in your life.
They go with the flow
When someone is strong they know how to deal with change, and go with the flow of life.
They realize that everything in life changes and nothing stays the same. Some things are simply out of our control.
They deal with the change and activate their plan B.
Many embrace change, and know that often it’s the door opening into a new and exciting future.
They face their fears
Strong people have fears just like the rest of us, but they’ve learned to face them. They’ve realized when you face your fears, you overcome them. It helps you to grow to be an even stronger person.
Often when we face our fears, we move into a new challenging, and exciting time in our life. Opportunities come to us only because we faced our fear.
For example, a woman feared flying. She would give a list of reasons not to fly.
But one day she realized she wouldn’t get to spend valuable time with her daughter who lived thousands of miles away.
She braved her fear, stepped onto the airplane, and flew out to see her daughter. It was a wonderful trip. She traveled to a place she dreamed of seeing all of her life. The best part were the memories of times she spent with her daughter, that she’ll treasure forever.
They don’t take things personally
When someone offends them, strong people don’t take it personally. They realize that it is more about the person who did it, and not really about them.
For example, if someone is in a bad mood, and scowling when they’re walking by, a weak person would spend the rest of the day obsessing that the scowl was directed at them. Not a strong person. They’d assume the other person is having a bad day. They don’t automatically leap to conclusions and make it about them.
They see how that person treats them over time and don’t make assumptions.
They don’t live to please others
Strong people realize that their life is in their own hands. They don’t diminish themselves and make their life about another person.
While a weak person would lose themselves in their partner, that doesn’t happen with the strong. They can love others deeply while keeping their own identity. They know their own value.
They don’t blame others for their problems and take responsibility for their own actions.
They don’t allow people to abuse them, and never play the victim. These are not people who wallow in self-pity. Strong people have the power to walk away from toxic people.
They learn from mistakes
Strong people make mistakes just like you and me, yet they always learn from their mistakes.
Albert Einstein said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, yet expecting different results.”
Strong people have learned that lesson. They deal with the painful truth and move on. They refuse to stay stuck in the past.
They focus on their goals
One of their strong traits is their ability to focus. The strong set goals and steadily work to achieve them. They are so busy working enthusiastically that they have no time to dwell on their setbacks. They’re optimistic, yet realistic.
They don’t expect immediate results in their startup and stay persistent to overcome obstacles. They’re willing to put in the hours to get what they want and delay their gratification.
They don’t waste energy on negativity or gossip
Ever been around a gossip? The negative energy will drain you.
Yet, strong people don’t waste valuable time gossiping about others. They’re busy working towards their goals and getting results. They’re not interested in spreading rumors or negativity or engaging in petty conversation with people.
They would rather focus on their own plans for the future while being supportive of others. They keep positive connections with people and help others. Staying on good terms with others is always a good idea.
Conclusion
If you have many of these qualities above, then congratulations, you are a strong person.