This Girl Is Getting Roasted For Her 13 Boyfriend Requirements On Twitter

I like them, though

This tweet got 10,000,000 views.

Originally when I saw this I rolled my eyes.

Here we go again. Somebody is sharing their ridiculous requirements for a partner on Twitter. Just the $300-$500K in total compensation part is a bit ridiculous, and the fact it’s second on their list after height is kind of pretentious.

Let’s not downplay that.

She got roasted in the replies by people. You can check out the tweet (linked in the photo above) if you want to see for yourself.

When I sat back to think about this list, though — like really think about it — I couldn’t find anything morbidly wrong with it.

It’s a girl who’s sharing a picture of her dream boyfriend. What’s wrong with having standards for a partner — especially men — who’ve been known to suck at life more often than not?

Sure, some of her requirements are a little pretentious and show a lot about what kind of person she is, but there’s a lot of stuff to love about this list, too.

Besides, this is her dream boyfriend.

Like some Prince Charming character that probably doesn’t exist and she knows it. But still, the act of putting this out into the universe is good for her and MEN in general. Let me explain why.

Knowing What You Want Is A Pre-Requisite For Lasting Happiness

I’m reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People right now. Habit 2 is to “Start with the end in mind.”

If you want to start a restaurant, for instance, what’s your fairy-tale ending? Is it to start a franchise? Is it to have the best food in the area? What is it?

We need to know the ending we want before we start, or else everything we do will be a waste of time.

This girl is defining that ending for herself.

That’s good.

Standards Make People Better

Imagine if every woman held high standards for men? Let’s put away the ridiculous $300-$500K compensation part for a second because that is unreal.

Let’s say every woman had standards that basically ensured they’d end up with a good man who treated them well.

If all the shitty men out there couldn’t land a partner, they’d have no choice but to improve themselves. They’d have to get better.

Wouldn’t that be a rising tide that lifts all boats, then?

A lot of men suck because they suck, but a lot of men also suck because women keep letting them get away with their B.S.

I think having a set of standards for a future partner — whether you’re a man or woman — is a good thing. And let’s say you have ridiculously high standards where you, currently, wouldn’t be able to attract your ideal partner.

Well, that means you’ll have to get better, too.

Enforcing standards might just be a win-win for everybody.

Let’s talk about the downside though.

Who Makes The Standards, And What Are They Exactly?

Let me zero in on the big problem I had with this girl’s list: the $300-$500K requirement.

Let’s say that people all around the United States had a standard that their ideal person needed to make $100,000 per year. And let’s say that these standards somehow succeeded in creating a population of people who made $100,000 per year.

Let’s imagine them for a second.

Do you think people like this would have a lot of free time? Do you think they’d have the emotional capacity to be “rlly funny but a bit weird—and a good listener” while the requirements of their work beat them down into the ground?

As someone who’s been obsessed with work the last few years and made 6 figures himself, you’re not going to find many people who have the time to be a really good partner while making $300,000 per year.

It’s just not possible, and if it is, there’s probably a handful of people like that on the planet. Good luck finding them.

You see what I mean? If we’re going to enforce standards on potential partners, which I like, they need to be good standards that don’t contradict one another.

They also need to be standards that increase the well-being of everyone involved, not run them into the ground.

I understand I’m writing from a utopian vision here. I know it’s not possible for everyone to have the self-awareness to create standards. But if more people do, slowly but surely, I think this world will actually get better.

I just think we need to have the right standards.

And screw it, I do like a lot of the ones Cooper shared.

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