8 Stages You Go Through After Facing The Dark Night of The Soul
#8. Welcome to The Twilight Zone!
“From a certain point there is no turning back. That is the point to reach.” — Frank Kafka.
People think that when you hit rock bottom and go through the dark night of the soul, it’s all rainbows and little flowers.
Spoiler alert: It’s not true!
In the dark night of the soul, you die (metaphorically), and then you are reborn.
And it hurts like childbirth.
That’s why I want to share with you the 8 phases I went through after the dark night of the soul that nobody talks about.
- The mirror moment. After hitting rock bottom and moaning like a wounded and wild animal in the fetal position in your bed or on the floor of your room for days, you bite the bullet and do not let your past and guilt continue to occupy all your present. You look yourself in the eye in front of the mirror and say, “Enough is enough!” It’s as if a spell that had you pinned in a deadlock in your life is broken. Then you pack up your pain and your unresolved traumas and come out of the dark den in which you had isolated yourself from the world like a hermit wolf who distrusts everything and everyone.
- The rebirth of the phoenix. You are reborn from your ashes, but you are burning inside. It is as if your soul was literally inflamed and your body imprisoned it. You can only get out of this stage by 1) doing what you know you have to do and you don’t feel like doing (sport, diet, sleep well) and 2) stopping doing what you know you don’t have to do (vices, and bad habits) but you feel like it.
- The dissatisfaction zone. In this stage, nothing satisfies you. Everything is salt water: relationships, jobs, pleasures. You drink and drink, but you only get thirstier. In this phase, you discover that you must make others happy to be happy. To have something, you have to give it first, even if it sounds contradictory, and that new attitude is what starts to quench your thirst.
- The Glitch in the Matrix. As you begin to do things that your former self would never do — forgiving, giving without expecting anything in return, practicing detachment — your mind expands, and your consciousness becomes intertwined with reality and modifies it. Your subconscious begins to heal your reality. And that creates a rift in the Matrix and changes your destiny forever.
- The double life. Although everything starts to flow, you keep your spiritual awakening a secret because you don’t want to scare your family and friends. But deep down, everyone realizes that you have changed. Mainly because you were the one causing problems before, and now you are the person they turn to solve them.
- The damaged fruit season. You stop hiding, and that stirs up the hornet’s nest. And many people you consider friends try to sting you with their envy and resentment. But since they can’t make your life miserable, they start to treat you like a stinker, as if you were damaged fruit, and they leave your side because they have discovered that they can no longer manipulate you. They are no longer interested in you because they can no longer exploit you as they did before. At this stage, you get a little lonely.
- The ukulele period. In this phase, your life is like a summer camp: at first, you feel a bit lonely because you don’t know anyone, but gradually, you start to make friends. It’s not that you will begin to sing Kumbaya Kumbaya, my Lord, around a campfire, but you connect intensely with the people you attract into your life.
- Welcome to The Twilight Zone! Your life is filled with uncertainty, signals, serendipities, and magic. Everything evolves at a speed you’re not used to, and you begin to feel dizzy. Things that used to take years of effort to achieve, in some cases, materialize almost instantly, and that’s scary because the bad thing about dreams is that they come true, and some become nightmares. At this stage, you have to watch where you are focusing your attention because, right at this stage, the actual game called life begins.
After the eight phases, you will have to actualize your value in all areas of your life. You are probably worth much more than you think because of the limiting beliefs you carry from your previous life.
Remember, actual value is also made up of accumulated experiences.
A virtual hug
AG
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