7 Worst Pieces of Advice of All Time
A “must avoid” list!
In our lives, advice is a reoccurring theme that finds us one way or another.
Whether it is our family, loved ones, or someone online, we are offered advice very often.
But sometimes this advice can do more harm than good, and so today I’d like to share with you the 7 worst pieces of advice of all time, and these are:
· 1-Money is the only metric of success · 2-Failure is a permanent mark you must avoid · 3-Pleasing others is a nice behavior · 4-You are meant to be one thing, so choose it well · 5-You are meant to live to work · 6-Acceptance is safety · 7-Strong ones can never be broken
1-Money is the only metric of success
There is no denying the importance of money in our society, yet I believe it is often misused as being the only metric of success.
As the popular saying goes, money is not a goal, it is only a tool.
You can be rich but feel trapped in a life you hate, but on the other hand, you may be living a humble life where you have chosen the path you want to follow.
So although gaining financial success is a great experience, it is not the only metric to determine one’s success in life.
2-Failure is a permanent mark you must avoid
I was reading a book by Napoleon Hill that is called Think and Grow Rich, and one of my favorite lines in the book goes as:
“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when overtaken by temporary defeat.”
Many of us run away from failure more than we run towards our dreams, and this leads to a misalignment in our lives. We fear it as if it marks us permanently, and as much as we fear it, it gets scarier.
So making peace with failure, and starting seeing as a stepping stone can help us to be brave actions in taking the steps to build the life of our dreams.
3-Pleasing others is a nice behavior
Most of us enjoy giving gifts, rather than receiving them because it is nice to see the people we love happy and pleased. But the difference between being nice, and pleasing others only to please is often overlooked.
While being nice is an act of kindness we choose to do, pleasing others only to please them can lead to one sacrificing their own needs to keep others happy.
Therefore differentiating between these two, and avoiding doing the latter can help us to build healthier and more balanced relationships.
4-You are meant to be one thing, so choose it well
At school we are directed to choosing a good university, then a career path that puts us into a box that is labeled under a profession. But we are not objects that can be defined once, and as long as we live we change and grow.
So although choosing our career path is an important process, it is not choosing who you are, and who will be.
5-You are meant to live to work
Living to work is a concept that has taken over most of our lives, and it keeps on being practiced as it is passed down through generations. But human lives are not resources to be used until it is not possible to do so.
So instead of this, adopting the mindset of working to gain financial freedom, and to live one’s life is much better of a perspective to choose. This is because making it a priority to live life to the fullest can help us to make decisions aligned with that, and lead a life where we live it truly.
6-Acceptance is safety
I was recently watching a video by the channel called “Freedom in Thought”, and in that video, it is said that looking for acceptance by other people is searching for security, and how it actually is a prison to be in. This is further explained as:
“You’ve traded the whole of your life for security. What is left to secure?”
So believing that we find security in the approval of others is an illusion that is essential to avoid.
7-Strong ones can never be broken
To be strong is a nice character aspect that we all love to be defined as, yet sometimes it can be restricting. When someone is labeled as strong, they may feel the need to go the extra mile to appear like that in any condition.
In truth, to be strong is not to be never broken, but it is to rise up when one falls down and see light after the darkest of nights.
By letting go of the belief that strong ones can never be broken, we can let ourselves live our emotions, and then heal from them in healthier ways.
Final thoughts
In life, choosing the right advice to listen to, and avoiding the ones that might harm you is essential to lead a life richened by the wisdom of others.
That’s why today I’ve shared with you the 7 worst pieces of advice of all time, and these were:
· 1-Money is the only metric of success · 2-Failure is a permanent mark you must avoid · 3-Pleasing others is a nice behavior · 4-You are meant to be one thing, so choose it well · 5-You are meant to live to work · 6-Acceptance is safety · 7-Strong ones can never be broken
Thank you for reading.
-E.K.