7 Ways to Take Note of Who Respects Your Boundaries.

Summary

The article discusses the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries, the challenges one may face when others do not respect these boundaries, and strategies for integrating boundary-setting into both personal and professional life.

Abstract

The content emphasizes the significance of personal boundaries and the common experience of encountering resistance from others when enforcing them. It acknowledges the difficulty of standing up for one's boundaries but underscores the value of doing so for personal growth and healthy relationships. The article particularly addresses the complexities of maintaining boundaries within family dynamics and the potential for pushback from family members. It also provides practical advice for entrepreneurs on how to balance professional responsiveness with personal boundary preservation. The author shares personal insights on the rewards and challenges of setting boundaries, including the possibility of a reduced social circle and the mental fortitude required to maintain them.

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The author believes that it is crucial to enforce personal boundaries despite potential resistance from others.
Standing up for one's boundaries is described as a difficult but rewarding endeavor.
It is suggested that people who do not respect one's boundaries should not be part of one's life.
The author expresses that family members may challenge boundaries but can learn to understand and respect them with clear communication.
The article posits that being available 24/7 is unsustainable and that setting limits on availability is necessary for personal well-being.
The author advocates for the separation of business and personal communication to maintain boundaries effectively.
It is the author's view that clients who respect the business owner will not expect immediate responses outside of business hours.
The author acknowledges that not everyone will respect one's boundaries and that this realization is part of the process.
The article suggests that setting boundaries may lead to a smaller social circle, which is seen as a natural consequence of prioritizing oneself.
The author admits that the process of setting and maintaining boundaries can be mentally taxing but encourages persistence.

This is part of the story that no one talks about. This can be one of the hardest parts from my experience!

Once you start enforcing your own personal boundaries, you will realize that not everyone in your circle is going to be respectful of them. There’s always at least one person that thinks they get a pass and don’t have to respect your boundaries.

You are the only person who can determine who and how you enforce your own boundaries, but don’t give up on your boundaries. Standing up for your boundaries is hard but so rewarding once people get used to it.

You may lose people in your life because they don’t respect your boundaries and that’s okay. People who don’t respect your boundaries and those who don’t want to listen to your why behind them aren’t meant to be in your life anyways. The goal, or at least in my mind, is to grow a circle of people who respect me, my boundaries, and want to grow as people together. You don’t have to all be going in the same direction by any means. To support one another in growing in your own ways and directions is the goal.

I had family members challenge my hard when I deleted social media off my phone.

They can’t imagine a life without social media and they were genuinely bothered that I wasn’t a Facebook message away anymore. There’s sometimes that a message on Facebook goes a couple weeks without a response now. I’m only on social media to run my businesses now and for marketing purposes and only if I’m on my computer too.

Know that some people will either understand it or be frustrated with it.

It’s a learning process for those that haven’t evaluated their own boundaries. When I told my family I will have firm “Do Not Disturb” settings on my phone to protect my quiet time some took it easily and others challenged it. But did they challenge it to be malicious? No, it was only because they wanted more context as to why.

Know that some may want an explanation because they want to know a bit more about your life, it doesn’t always mean they’re being disrespectful. But there will be at least one that thinks they’re the exception to the cause and finding a way to make them realize that they aren’t is a bit tricky at times.

How to Run a Business with your Boundaries:

Here are a few tips for how I implement my boundaries into my business practices. It’s important to be present for your clients and give 120% to them, so how do I maintain boundaries while providing an excellent service? Let me tell you:

I have an auto email response so clients know when they can expect a response from me. This includes a 24–48 hour notice in case I need a buffer of time along with during what times they can expect responses from me.

Don’t mix your business phone number with your personal phone number. If this applies to you, I recommend getting a business phone number so that your personal and business life remains separate.

You don’t have to reply within seconds of a message. Clients understand that you’re running a business, working on projects, and managing your life. If you don’t respond for a couple hours that’s okay. Clients that respect you won’t expect a response outside of your business hours.

Hard Takeaways that Come with Setting Boundaries

You’ll learn that some people will not respect your boundaries and that’s okay. A hard realization, but it’s okay. Take it with a grain of salt, note it, and move on. You don’t have the demand that respect from everyone because not everyone will respect you.

Your circle might get smaller. This could be friends, colleagues, business connections, family, etc. Putting yourself first always can be a bit controversial to people who don’t do that for themselves. Know what type of people you want in your inner circle and how you want to navigate this.

It can be mentally draining. Working on yourself in the long run is very important, but it does come with it’s own set of challenges. You’re breaking patterns that have been around for months or even years. Once you start changing people will challenge you on it and you might even second guess yourself. Keep pushing!

7 Ways to Take Note of Who Respects Your Boundaries.

This is part of the story that no one talks about. This can be one of the hardest parts from my experience!

What if Family Doesn’t Respect your Boundaries?

I had family members challenge my hard when I deleted social media off my phone.

Being available to people 24/7 can be a deadly game.

Know that some people will either understand it or be frustrated with it.

How to Run a Business with your Boundaries:

Hard Takeaways that Come with Setting Boundaries

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