7 Ways to Be More Confident
Confidence is attractive and can help you live your life to the fullest.
Having confidence in yourself is a great way to live your life to its fullest potential. When you have confidence in who you are, you aren’t afraid of taking reasonable risks, you aren’t afraid of rejection, and there’s just something about you that lets others know that you are secure in who you are.
Confidence is attractive and sexy. It can help you get a better job, a better spouse or even better opportunities. The best part of being confident is the way it will make you feel. You’ll feel almost unstoppable at times, and you’ll know that you can do anything you set your mind to and that you are worthy and deserving of goodness in your life.
Seven ways that you can be a little more confident in your daily life:
1. Know who you are
The first step to being more confident is to know who you are. What about you makes you special and unique? What skills and talents do you have? What do you enjoy doing? What is your identity?
Once you are solid in who you are, you’ll be more likely to have confidence in yourself. Remember, we all change and evolve over time and so do certain things about, us such as our likes and hobbies, but you have core values and personality traits that will stay pretty consistent throughout your life. Figure those out, and you know yourself better. Also, feel free to check out this Quiz: How Well Do You Know Yourself to see how far along in your journey of self-discovery you are.
2. Accept who you are
Once you have figured out who you are, the next step is to accept it. You don’t have to be completely happy with your life; you may have wanted certain things that you never got, or maybe you weren’t given a fair start to life, but there are still plenty of reasons to smile. There are plenty of reasons why we can be accepting of ourselves. At the end of the day, you are stuck with yourself, so you might as well like yourself.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.” — Serenity Prayer
3. Have a secure foundation
Having a secure foundation gives you something to fall back on if you go through a hard time or if things don’t go your way. For example, if you have great parents, you know that they will still love you no matter what if you mess up. That is a secure foundation that allows you more confidence because you are free to live your life, and if you make mistakes or mess up, they will still be there for you.
Where does your secure foundation come from? Who or what in your life is a never-changing source of love that you can always count on? Some people will say their relationship, and others will say God. God is a great secure foundation as He is never changing and will always love you, just like the loving parents in the example.
Once you have a secure foundation you’ll have confidence that no matter what happens you’ll still be okay.
4. Dress to impress
It’s simple but true when you look your best, and you feel your best. Take a few extra minutes to get ready the next time you go out. When your hair and makeup are on point or your clothes fit you perfectly, you can’t help but feel a little extra burst of confidence. It’s like you know you look good. Sometimes people even tell you that you look good.
If you’re looking for a quick and easy confidence boost, pull out your best outfit or buy yourself a new one. Add your own unique style to it. Try a new hairstyle or makeup. When you look in the mirror, be happy with what you see. That confidence will show.
5. Don’t let what other people think to bother you
You’re never going to be able to please everyone, so go ahead and stop trying. There will be people who love you and some who don’t. If someone doesn’t like you or says mean things to you, don’t let it bother you. Obviously, you are allowed to have feelings, and the situation may bother you, and you can address the situation in an appropriate way.
However, sometimes there isn’t much you can do about it, or you may go home and still be thinking about it. Don’t let yourself do that. Deal with it and move on. It hurts your confidence when you start thinking about negative things people say to you, especially if you start to believe the things they say. You may have to let go of a few people who aren’t really good for you, take this Quiz: Are the People You Spend Your Time with Good for You? to help you figure it out.
6. Remember the good things people say about you
Once in my Bible study, we did an activity on the spiritual gift of encouragement. Basically, we each had a sheet of paper with our names on it, and we passed the paper around, and everyone wrote something encouraging on it. I did the same thing at work once too during a team-building activity; everyone wrote nice things and encouragements on a sheet of paper, and we got to keep them at the end.
I still have the paper from my Bible study, and on occasion, I’ll see it and reread it. It helps me remember all the kind and encouraging things my friends said about me. I get to see how other people see me, which can be a lot more positive than I see myself sometimes.
Surround yourself with good people who will encourage you. People who will speak life into you and who want to see you succeed. And when you are feeling discouraged, remember the good things they said about you and how much they care for you.
7. Live your best life
When you are living the life you are meant to live you tend to be happier and more confident. This means living your life to its fullest potential in all areas of your life. In your best life you are healthy, have abundance and are surrounded by love. You will be doing things that make you feel like you have purpose, and that is fulfilling.
Living your life like this makes such a difference, and you are more likely to have much more confidence than you would if you were living a life you don’t enjoy.
When you are living the life you are meant to live you laugh more freely, love more people and have more confidence.
