7 underlying traits of “Happy” people

Let’s get straight in.

Please Note : Happy people are referred here as they, them.

1. They have learnt to deal with failures and rejections, fame and wealth.

They have mastered this art by — not taking things personally.

They know how to remove themselves from the line of fire or fame.

Behaviour: They remain emotionally balanced when faced with failures and rejections or showered with awards and accolades. Also, they often stand totally disassociated with their titles.

They know they’re not defined by these events.

Outcome: This trait not only gives them a constant sense of security but also sets them on the path of success.

Every failure becomes a learning and not a loss. A good example, Elon Musk.

2. They see life “as is”

They are not delusional nor do they live in a parallel universe.

Their motto — It is what it is.

Behaviour: They are very realistic and often less idealistic in behaviour. They speak the truth and the ground reality with much ease and absolutely no emotion attached to it.

They acknowledge the physical and mental limitations and do not let the mind promise what the body cannot deliver.

Outcome: They make great life coaches.

3. They are not control freaks

They have learnt the difference between the inevitable and that which we can control.

n other words, they have understood the fundamental truth of life that pain is inevitable but its impact on us is in our control.

Behaviour: They do everything a narcissist wont. They do not feel the need to win every single time, including at a cost of other person losing.

They remain grounded even while being in the eye of the storm. They react better than others and more so reasonably in situations like a pandemic, recession, a crisis, etc.

Outcome: They are a jackpot of a friend and/or a life partner.

4. They are emotionally intelligent and emotionally mature.

They’re not driven by their emotions. They harness their reflexes well. They don’t ride the emotional roller-coaster 24/7.

Behaviour: They appear balanced in situations that otherwise demand a strong display of emotions.

This doesn’t mean they don’t feel as much as others do. They just don’t magnify it and absolutely do not take an emotion with them into the future.

Outcome: They’re more likely to recover faster after a personal or a financial setback than others, since they don’t get stuck in time. They move with it.

5. Their measures of success are independent.

The measures of success are not always contemporary.

They are not running the rat race in societal or peer pressure but have set independent benchmarks for themselves.

Behaviour: They don’t seek constant validation from the world. They are capable of measuring and evaluating their strengths and weaknesses on their own.

Outcome: Self-improvement is their way of life and also their end goal.

They live closer and true to their core.

6. They simplify life

They’re in a constant and compulsive need to make life simple for themselves and for everyone around.

They under-complicate and unpack problems like none other.

They Marie-Kondo their brains and organise their emotions like one organises their pantry or wardrobe.

Behaviour: They display a high level of cognitive abilities, a deep clarity is often observed in their thought and speech, they effectively break down and communicate complex concepts with ease, they demonstrate critical decision making capacity and cryptic problem solving capabilities.

Outcome: They make life look easy and less daunting. They’re an asset to have in your workplace or in personal life.

7. They don’t chase happiness, they choose it.

They are not going door to door finding it.

They find a sweet spot, a happy place and stay there.

When life throws a curveball and they go astray they know the short-cut to bring themselves back to their spot.

Behaviour: They are happiness and positivity generators, lighting up a dark room. Since their happiness is self realised and self attained, they illuminate it.

Outcome: This trait saves them from constant stress, anxiety and fear associated with the chase.

It’s them who build healthy relationships, raise happy families and constantly contribute in making this world better.

Other (Bonus) Traits :

• They don’t categorise, they‘ve zero biases of age, colour, gender, status, etc.
• They’re good listeners and observers.
• They don’t react, they respond. They are seldom rude.
• They’re confident and trust their gut.
• They’re articulate.
• They can self-regulate.
• They know how their habits shape their reality.
• They forgive, forget and know how to (fully) move on.
• Last one’s my favourite:

They don’t overthink it, they just live — with immense gratitude.