7 Things to Remind Yourself When Someone Challenges You
You may wish to make a fresh start in any field of your life, such as starting a new relationship or psychotherapy, joining an educational program, writing a book, losing weight, or whatever!
Or, you might just get out of a difficult phase of your life, a loss, a separation, mourning.
At the moment you turn a new page in your life, and make a fresh start, someone -usually “yours”- comes and challenges you; your potential, your abilities, your chances of success… In short, he tries to put you on a psychological tripod and leave you there, on the floor, wondering where this came from.
But it does not have to be that way! Never let anyone disappoint and discourage you, for any reason!
Here are 7 things to keep in mind, when someone challenges you:
- People who criticize you have different ideas, values and give a different definition of “success”. In the end, they are jealous of your free spirit, which is not imprisoned in norms and barriers. They show contempt for you, as by criticizing you and your potential, they find an “excuse” for their failures.
- A person who judges you has his psychological limitations: he is probably a mentally miserable, and narrow-minded adult. So, you should probably feel sorry for him and not you! These are people who operate based on lack, weakness, insecurity, stress, negative thoughts, and catastrophizing. They cannot see life positively and optimistically, so they try to “punish” you for managing to move forward. When they tell you that you will fail, they judge based on their failures, and not on what you can achieve…
- Remember that it is just their opinion and how they see things and life… It is their problem and not yours! Learn to value yourself and evaluate your abilities objectively, without waiting for the opinion of others. Remember that the potential of every human being is unlimited, so it is up to you to use it, for your benefit. And in the end, you take responsibility for your actions! You do not need someone else’s consent…
- You deserve a lot more than some people think. Cultivate self-knowledge: accept both your strengths and weaknesses, so that you can move forward taking advantage of your qualifications. And of course, try to correct your weaknesses.
- It is impossible to satisfy them all! Τhe important thing is to satisfy yourself and live according to your standards and specifications.
- Keep in mind that you will encounter controversy, as soon as you dare to do something out of the ordinary. Τhe first reason they cite, to support your “given failure”, is that you “do not have the skills and the required potential”. But no one can even know their potential, let alone that of another person! It is not worth getting carried away by such a conversation… You firmly believe in your value, and the work you will do to achieve your goals.
- You do not need anyone’s permission or moral support to start and achieve what you consider important to you and your happiness! So do not wait for someone to say “well done my child” and take you by the hand on the path you have chosen…
The mentality of evolution assures us that, through our mistakes, we can improve and approach life dynamically to achieve our goals.
Κeep your map and chart your course. Do not expect anything from others. You have bravely chosen to evolve into the person you want to be, without questioning your worth and goals!
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