7 Steps to Ending Grueling Struggles and Achieve Your BIG Success

#7. Repeat, repeat, repeat: It’s not over until you win.

Life could be difficult.

But can I tell you something?

Life, when approached the right way, is easy and you get results.

You have tried many approaches before now. Some with big promises but couldn’t deliver on those promises. You thought an end has finally come to your struggles with failure... In the end, the struggle is still as real.

But hear me out:

I didn't bring you an article to read but a solution to the problem that’s caused you sleepless nights.

I’ve good news for you, you can get your freedom back and live the life of your dream. Your freedom is just a few steps away.

Let’s dive right in.

1. Conduct a detailed self-analysis of your life.

"The unexamined life isn’t worth living." — Socrates

Self-realization is the beginning of self-actualization. You can't manifest beyond what you know about yourself. Knowlege sets the limits between what you can do and what you are capable of.

You can live like a subject for years until you know about your royalty.

Such was my case and how I experienced a turning point some years back:

With a pen with a blank page before me. I divided the page into two columns. The first was labeled “My asset” and the second “My liability.”

On the asset column, I wrote every single item I thought was of support to me: my parents, siblings, my pastor, my friends ( I wrote their names), my library ( about 75+ books at the time), my bike,... Anyone and anything that I could be of help should I be in need.

On the other column, I wrote everything that wasn't important or relevant to my future: having a girlfriend, some friends that were always busy talking about girls, sex, and traveling out of the country to hustle,... I wrote them in that column.

As I read through the list, I realized something: “I have more things going for me than I'm aware of!”

There and then I made a decision: “If I still end a failure, in the midst of all these supports, it's my fault.” From that time, I took the challenge to design a success path for myself and pursue it.

One of the outcomes of that decision was publishing a book at 19. A plausible feat that got my pastor so excited and use me as a reference in some of his Sunday teachings.

Until you know who you are you may never act like it. It’s only if know you are a lion, you roar like one. If you don't know you can be free from failure, you may never work towards it.

So your first step to freedom is this: know who you are.

2. Thoroughly examine the nature of the situation

You can't prevail over a situation you’re yet to understand. Even with well trained and armed soldiers, you still need to study the geography of the target area before you launch an attack. Your success depends on it.

An unplanned attack is a risk - most end in defeat.

Seek to know what went wrong.

How come you ended up in this kind of rut despite the chances of having a fantastic future? What discipline have you taken for granted? Which steps did you take that's taken you here?

Whose counsel did you listen to? What wrong habit have you been indulging that's kept you in this rut this long?

Write down your answers. Hidden in those insights are the answers - a step to get you out of that rut. Armed with that knowledge you're only a few steps from gaining your freedom.

Good knowledge of the circumstance is a requisite to manipulating it to your advantage.

3. Define the Life You Want to Live.

Do you want to live a great life? Good. Start by defining what 'a great life’ means to you.

The truth is, what you can't define you can't find. You can't hit a target you cannot see. Get a journal and write it down.

You don’t have a journal?

Well, if you're serious with life, and about gaining your freedom from perpetual failure you'll have a journal. Let it be a world where your dreams first become real.

Stop dreaming in your head alone. Give your dreams a two-dimensional existence in your journal. At least that’s a good place to start. The closer your dreams are to reality the more you believe you can make them come true.

You can’t hit a target if you dont know what it is. — Tony Robbins.

Does it include having more money? How much. Be specific. Write the figure and past it somewhere you can often see it.

Does it include having a pretty spouse? What complexion, height, body built,... You own the right to have a taste. Be vivid in your details.

Remember the clearer you define it, the powerful the effects it has on your psyche. This is very significant for one reason:

What the mind focuses on, it works day and night to make a reality.

4. Describe the path and count the cost.

If you can't define where you're going, you will end up where you don't want to be. Life is coded. If you do it the wrong way, you get the wrong results.

Be strategic. You already have a picture of your ideal life. Now is the time to design the path that can get you there.

What do you need to start doing that you've not been doing before now? What new habits should you start developing? What new skill do you have to learn? What kind of books do you need to read? What kind of people do you need to associate with?

Do you know why that is important?

“You’re the same person in five years time as yo are today except for the people you meet and the books you read. — Charlie “ Tremedous” Jones.

Also, count the cost. Every value comes at a price. What are you willing to give up to gain your freedom and live your awesome future?

My advice: gradually trade-off those things you wrote down in your liability column for more time to cultivate your new skills and develop yourself. Including watching Netflix all day, playing video games, partying and coming home drunk,... Everything and anyone that doesn't respect your time or wastes it.

Time is your most priced resource. You can’t afford to waste it.

5. Pursue your dreams at the cost of some relationships.

Do you know why you're where you are today? Two things:

Because of the company you keep and the books you read. Those are the greatest influence on your future.

A lucky man is not the man that's found a briefcase with thousands of dollars. The lucky man is the man that's found good company in the journey of life.

The right friendship and relationship are the bridge to people and places you never dreamed you would meet in your lifetime. If you decide to swim it may take you your whole life. The water may be too cold and difficult to swim in. With the right friendship, you will have a bride that will take you there.

The harm of wrong association is as profound - but in the negative sense. Life will be a tale of misery. Broken marriage after being an alcoholic, serious health challenge following chronic smoking.

The wrong association is the easiest route to shipwreck in life.

Decide to trade some friendship to pursue your goal. Friends that waste your time. Friends with habits that put your future at risk.

You can't follow them and not do what they do.

In this article, Aimee Groth has this to say:

“When it comes to relationships, we’re greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions.”

“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most your time with. — Jim Rohn.

Sanitize your life. Only invest your time and effort in people and activities that will have significant returns in money, knowledge, or relevant pleasure. Give up anything that can't add to your future.

6. Contest for your freedom in the higher realm

I live in a country where people believe (correctly) the interference of higher powers in the affairs of men.

Somethings are beyond your human control and influence. They are under the influence of some Cosmic forces. If it were all by effort, many people living at the mercy of circumstances would have been living the life of their dreams. Some failures in life have a supernatural undertone.

You don't want to drive a nail into the wall with a stick of carrot, do you?

Some failures in life are just a supernatural intervention away to huge success.

“This kind goeth not but by prayer and fasting.” — The Bible

If you believe in God, pray for His guidance and help. Genuinely serve God and watch Him take care of the battles you can’t win by your physical powers.

7. Repeat, repeat, repeat: It's not over until you win

There's water in the rock. Sure. But it won't come out in your first strike. You're not Moses. So be patient with life but keep your part of the deal.

Your first strike may not even make any obvious difference. It's the deceptive nature of success to discourage you. Many indeed back off when they get that stony dead response.

Do you really want to get out of this rut?

So don't give in. That's life's way of testing the faith of men. While the tough ones persevere and thrive the weak withers and are rooted out.

When the going gets tough, the tough do one thing different from the weak: they continue the race. In the end, it's not the strongest that wins, but the ones didn't concede to defeat.

If you take these pieces of advice to heart and do the few simple exercises they prescribe, I can tell you this: an end has come to your struggles. All you need to do is keep pressing. Your freedom is just a few persistent efforts away.

Cheers!

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