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ak up? Maybe he didn’t get the text. Should I send another one? No. I don’t want to be that needy girlfriend?”</p><p id="49b2">The unanswered text triggers many questions and thoughts. It’d be tough and irrational in the heat of the moment to attempt to positively answer or change each thought.</p><p id="eed2">Whereas if you learned to recognize, process, and release the Fear file from your cabinet, the accompanying documents would be disposed of as well.</p><h2 id="1b2c">2.We act based on our feelings</h2><p id="acfa">I worked at Starbucks for 8 years. Honestly, the most difficult job I’ve ever had.</p><p id="c0bd">From non-stop lines, complaining customers, and annoying coworkers — Starbucks tested my patience every shift.</p><p id="ce8a">In the middle of a rush at 5 am, I felt my anger swell with a line of drinks waiting to be made.</p><p id="db4c">I usually would’ve let my anger get the best of me and acted irritable at a customer or said something nasty to a coworker.</p><p id="11aa">But instead, I relaxed my fury, and my thoughts and actions followed.</p><p id="88b0">Interestingly, I began seeing the job more positively because I let go of the anger clouding my perspective.</p><p id="9caa">Thoughts create emotion; emotion triggers a response.</p><p id="84ce">In other words, there’s a linear chain: thoughts, emotions, action.</p><p id="5a78">If the middle of the chain is removed, the other links won’t be functional.</p><p id="9c03">Working through our feelings allows us the space to evaluate and determine our thoughts and actions.</p><h2 id="1d02">3.Trauma release</h2><p id="5e67">Trauma gets stored in the body, getting triggered by external events.</p><p id="46eb">Once the trauma detonates, it explodes and captures your inner and outer world.</p><p id="57fa">Once you release the emotions from the body, you simultaneously release the accompanying triggers resulting in more beneficial responses.</p><h2 id="00f8">4.Self-discovery</h2><p id="7f1a">As we began to get comfortable experiencing our feelings, we will become intrigued by their origin.</p><p id="66e6">“Why am I feeling this?”</p><p id="e626">“Where is this coming from?”</p><p id="0ede">From a place of soft curiosity were able to question and change our perspective

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to benefit our lives.</p><h2 id="844f">5.Empathy</h2><p id="3fe1">Suffering is suffering, whether it’s yours or another’s.</p><p id="5f58">The awareness of your ache will allow you to recognize the same pain in others, fostering healthier and more pleasurable connections.</p><h2 id="b2f5">6.Build courage</h2><p id="6ef6">We don’t fear our thoughts or potential events; we fear the feelings associated with them.</p><p id="bb78">The courage to face inner fear will birth grit to tackle external fear.</p><h2 id="e068">7.Presence and resourcefulness</h2><p id="447c">Emotions arrest our awareness and detain us from the present moment.</p><p id="44a0">Breaking free from our captures gives us the ability to observe, absorb, and connect to our surroundings.</p><p id="cbb6">Presence awakens our intuitive powers that athletes, artists, leaders, and our ancestors have used to propel their performance and survival.</p><h1 id="c318">How To Handle Feelings</h1><p id="3e96">“Negative” emotions — grief, shame, anxiety, fear, anger, pride — aren’t easy emotions to accept and process.</p><p id="123f">You can’t accept what you’re not aware of, so step one is to notice the what and where of your feelings.</p><p id="f11d">“What am I feeling?” Or, “how am I feeling?”</p><p id="5bcc">Then, “where am I feeling this in my body?”</p><p id="9dd3">When you’re anxious, your shoulders begin to rise, your heart beats faster, your jaw clenches, your movements become hurried, etc.</p><p id="e6a7">Relax your body’s reaction to your emotions, and the feelings will be released.</p><p id="e648">With practice, you’ll resist your emotions less and live life more fluidly.</p><h1 id="2780">They Won’t Kill</h1><p id="e5b6">Your feelings will not kill you, so there is no reason to avoid them.</p><p id="847d">But your emotions do determine your level of confidence, the values and goals you choose, and your ability to be resilient and succeed.</p><p id="0f2a">Breathe into your body.</p><p id="b552">Relax.</p><p id="6158">Intuitively choose the best thoughts and actions for yourself and others.</p><p id="ad04"><a href="https://mailchi.mp/588438a6b6cb/insideout">The Inside & Out</a> email list will help you achieve your internal and external goals.</p></article></body>

7 Reasons To Focus on Feelings Instead of Thoughts

1.One feeling contains many thoughts

Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work

The first self-help book I read was Awaken The Giant Within By Tony Robbins.

My favorite part of the book is the section on the structure of beliefs. Robbins states beliefs are like the top of a table, and thoughts are the legs that stabilize the table.

The second nonfiction book I read was Feeling Good by David Burns. The book teaches readers how to use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT has you change and alter thoughts to help you “feel good.”

Initially, I loved the idea I could control my thoughts and emotions. I felt empowered and independent.

But soon, my enthusiasm was replaced by self-judgment, anxiety, and rigidness.

It wasn’t until I read Letting Go by David Hawkins that I learned “positive thinking” wasn’t as effective as feeling awareness.

Focus on Feelings Rather Than Thoughts

Here are 7 reasons you should focus on feelings instead of thoughts:

1.One feeling contains many thoughts

Feelings are like one folder within your filing cabinet. Many documents (thoughts) compose the Fear file.

Also, it’s challenging to locate, state, and alter thoughts because they appear in large amounts and rapidly.

If your boyfriend (or girlfriend) doesn’t respond to a text that they usually respond to, you may be thinking, “Oh my god. What’s wrong? Why isn’t he responding to my text? Is he mad at me? Did I do something wrong? Is he alright? Are we going to break up? Maybe he didn’t get the text. Should I send another one? No. I don’t want to be that needy girlfriend?”

The unanswered text triggers many questions and thoughts. It’d be tough and irrational in the heat of the moment to attempt to positively answer or change each thought.

Whereas if you learned to recognize, process, and release the Fear file from your cabinet, the accompanying documents would be disposed of as well.

2.We act based on our feelings

I worked at Starbucks for 8 years. Honestly, the most difficult job I’ve ever had.

From non-stop lines, complaining customers, and annoying coworkers — Starbucks tested my patience every shift.

In the middle of a rush at 5 am, I felt my anger swell with a line of drinks waiting to be made.

I usually would’ve let my anger get the best of me and acted irritable at a customer or said something nasty to a coworker.

But instead, I relaxed my fury, and my thoughts and actions followed.

Interestingly, I began seeing the job more positively because I let go of the anger clouding my perspective.

Thoughts create emotion; emotion triggers a response.

In other words, there’s a linear chain: thoughts, emotions, action.

If the middle of the chain is removed, the other links won’t be functional.

Working through our feelings allows us the space to evaluate and determine our thoughts and actions.

3.Trauma release

Trauma gets stored in the body, getting triggered by external events.

Once the trauma detonates, it explodes and captures your inner and outer world.

Once you release the emotions from the body, you simultaneously release the accompanying triggers resulting in more beneficial responses.

4.Self-discovery

As we began to get comfortable experiencing our feelings, we will become intrigued by their origin.

“Why am I feeling this?”

“Where is this coming from?”

From a place of soft curiosity were able to question and change our perspective to benefit our lives.

5.Empathy

Suffering is suffering, whether it’s yours or another’s.

The awareness of your ache will allow you to recognize the same pain in others, fostering healthier and more pleasurable connections.

6.Build courage

We don’t fear our thoughts or potential events; we fear the feelings associated with them.

The courage to face inner fear will birth grit to tackle external fear.

7.Presence and resourcefulness

Emotions arrest our awareness and detain us from the present moment.

Breaking free from our captures gives us the ability to observe, absorb, and connect to our surroundings.

Presence awakens our intuitive powers that athletes, artists, leaders, and our ancestors have used to propel their performance and survival.

How To Handle Feelings

“Negative” emotions — grief, shame, anxiety, fear, anger, pride — aren’t easy emotions to accept and process.

You can’t accept what you’re not aware of, so step one is to notice the what and where of your feelings.

“What am I feeling?” Or, “how am I feeling?”

Then, “where am I feeling this in my body?”

When you’re anxious, your shoulders begin to rise, your heart beats faster, your jaw clenches, your movements become hurried, etc.

Relax your body’s reaction to your emotions, and the feelings will be released.

With practice, you’ll resist your emotions less and live life more fluidly.

They Won’t Kill

Your feelings will not kill you, so there is no reason to avoid them.

But your emotions do determine your level of confidence, the values and goals you choose, and your ability to be resilient and succeed.

Breathe into your body.

Relax.

Intuitively choose the best thoughts and actions for yourself and others.

The Inside & Out email list will help you achieve your internal and external goals.