7 Habits That Will Keep You From Moving On After A Narcissistic Breakup
Guard yourself; you are also important, even if no one has ever told you so
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be puzzling because everything is about them, and deciding to move on differs from other relationships. It can be harder to move on even though they mistreated you. Breaking up can make you feel drained, aggravated, and scared.
If you are the one to initiate the breakup, your ex will likely come after you. Therefore you need to be prepared not to fall back into their trap or be affected by whatever they throw your way.
What is a narcissist?
Narcissistic are people who lack empathy. They love being admired and validated by others. They believe they’re perfect and better than everyone else.
Here are seven critical signs you must avoid to recover and move on from a narcissistic relationship. Staying away from these will help you feel strong and maintain your stance.
1. You always justify their behavior
You probably stayed with the narcissist until you became fed up because you continuously excused their behavior.
You may have blamed yourself, minimized their abuse, or tried to interpret their tales to comfort you.
This is likely to happen after you have ended the relationship.
Remind yourself of the reality of why you ended the relationship. Do not be tricked by your mind.
It is better to avoid contact unless you share children or family with your ex. Block their number and all social media profiles.
2. Blaming yourself for what happened
Perhaps your friends and family warned you about the man or woman you were with, yet you ignored them.
Now that you’ve recognized the narcissist for who they are, you will likely feel guilty, ashamed, and self-blame.
Forgive yourself. Narcissists are adept at seducing and manipulation.
It could be that you have self-esteem and codependency problems that you may need to look into.
3. Becoming afraid of the narcissist
The narcissist does not like to feel defeated. Therefore, they will threaten you if you initiate the breakup. However, do not be scared.
Be precocious and protect yourself at all costs to help mitigate your fear.
If you must interact with them, always have someone present with you to prevent being gaslighted.
Also, keep copies of written forms and report verbal threats if any occur.
The sooner you practice this, the better.
4. Isolation and not finding support
Finding support to get back on track is crucial — people who will listen to and validate you.
People who will reassure you that you’re not out of your mind and remind you that your confusion is due to being gaslighted.
Seek help from an experienced therapist who knows about NPD and NPD abuse.
Join support groups and read books that will uplift you and motivate you.
5. Neglecting self-care
Neglecting self-care can make you feel unrelaxed and worried and give you a lack of strength to face challenges.
Make your health a priority by exercising and eating good quality food.
Exercising will prevent your body from shutting down.
It will make your heart pump and allow oxygen to your brain.
6. Staying in contact
Stop communicating with them, especially if your ex-partner was also physically abusive.
Block them on all social media platforms.
Narcissists lack empathy and reciprocity, so they become manipulative in a relationship.
By avoiding them, you’ll be able to heal better and perhaps faster without them trying to manipulate you.
7. Not reflecting on why you had to move on
When you find yourself ruminating, or your ex wants to come back, remind yourself of the reasons you ended the relationship.
List the reason on a sheet of paper, then write down why it is crucial for you to move forward.
This will motivate you and facilitate moving on.
Perhaps your ex-husband constantly puts you down for how your head is naturally shaped.
You can write down, “I deserve someone who will love me the way I am and not make me feel bad about the way God created my head.’’
The more specific you are, the better.
conclusion
A narcissistic relationship can make you wonder if you ever deserve to be in a healthy relationship due to perpetuated degrading by your partner.
Indeed there are men out there that will treat you right.
However, before hopping back into another marriage, it is recommended that you make sure to reconnect with yourself worth.
Whether you spend 30 years or one year with your narcissistic ex-partner, be thankful you’re now taking control.
Life can be challenging but also full of surprises. And opportunities. Be optimistic that you will find A man or a woman who will truly love you for who you are.
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