6 Ways To Make Men Feel Less Intimidated By You

“Why Do Men Feel Intimidated By Me”

I didn’t quite understand it but thought nothing of it

Then this question came back up recently and I wanted to look more into it

Why would a man feel intimated by a woman

According to psychology today, men’s fears of women show up much differently at home or in intimate relationships than they do elsewhere. Men’s fears of women are most likely to be stimulated in any situation in which men encounter a woman who has more authority than they do.

This may show evidence of a woman being more stronger, competent, or self-confident than he may be.

Being intimidated by someone can mean different things, how the person feels, either in a physical way, mental way, or even financially.

One of the ways to spot if he feels intimidated is if he speaks indirectly to you, he may show all the signs that he’s in love but may not be clear on what he wants.

From my experience this is how that felt, The guys I talked to were very upfront about liking me but were not always clear about their real intentions, they would shower me with “You are so beautiful” or “You are pretty” (which is typical), and the connections weren’t there, and the heartfelt conversations were not there either.

Which may be the reason the conversations end up being kinda awkward at first.

How do you make a guy feel less intimidated by you

There are many ways to solve this problem and I’ll discuss some of them here.

Smile More

Smiling can have many benefits, it communicates things that can’t be said verbally.

Go ahead and talk to them

This one is a struggle for me because I would prefer them to speak to me first, however, what we get during that first impression may be different than how the person really is later on during the conversation.

Be Down-to-earth

When I talk to men, I try to open up about myself, I’m learning though to not give away too much information about yourself to someone early because people have a way of taking advantage of your weaknesses.

Be Positive

I think this is pretty obvious, speaking positively is something that is not unheard of in this day in age, I will say that in the past I would tell guys all about my negative experiences and never really talked about the positive ones, and this honestly would turn them off, So yes be positive.

Show them you care

Empathy, empathy, empathy, can’t stress it enough, something I learned best when doing customer service, when you show empathy, it shows them you care about their concerns or issues and when you take the time to listen to them and their stories, the guy I talked to a few months had the best conversation, because we listened to each other, If I had judged or belittled him he probably would have been turned off by that.

Compliments

I think this one kinda goes with the first impression thing, I mean a compliment can go a long way, but I’d say don’t just compliment his looks but more of his character and personality, because looks can be very deceiving, and from my experience with the very few men I’ve come across They may look good or be very attractive, but they may really only be searching for one thing from you, and believe me it’s not always genuine so I’m learning to not only go by his looks even though this is still a huge struggle. (It will come with age and wisdom)

Now I’m not saying these concepts will change the way he feels about you because honestly, we can’t change how people feel about us, however, the way the response is to him will be more important in the long run anyway.

The intimidation can also stem from a fear of rejection or a fear of being rejected, which is pretty relatable, I mean I would feel afraid of being rejected too, in fact often times I am, which is why I usually don’t approach men at first.

I’m afraid of how he would feel about me, the way I look, the way I talk, and too many other things going through my annoying brain that just don’t make sense.

So I think the only way to really break the spell is to just speak to him first and make him feel comfortable, he may not feel as intimated by you once you open up.

Cry with him, tell him stories about you, from my experience I cried on the phone with a guy I talked to, and he felt so much more comfortable and opened up, it was like a light being lit in a large, dark room.

He was really surprised that I was crying with him and expressing my feelings openly, and that’s not easy to do with someone you are not comfortable with yet.

So yeah, opening up to him and getting vulnerable is a gift in itself

I look forward to doing this more often when dating or experiencing this life with men, and hopefully, this question doesn't come up again.

If this question comes up for you just know you may really be what he’s looking for and just may need to make him comfortable and want to be around you.

There is a book that’s helping me communicate better and you can check it out here if you are interested, it talks about a few of the concepts listed above.

Trust your gut first then let your brain guide you…

-Ziara

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