Summary

The article discusses common insensitive and homophobic comments and questions that the author, a gay man, frequently encounters from straight individuals.

Abstract

The author expresses frustration over intrusive and discriminatory remarks made by straight people, highlighting six specific comments that range from questioning his masculinity to implying that homosexuality is a choice or a sin. He emphasizes the discomfort and offense these remarks cause and calls for respect and understanding of the LGBTQ+ community. The article serves as a call to action for straight individuals to reflect on their behavior and to avoid making assumptions or judgments about gay people's lives and identities.

Opinions

The author feels that equating being gay with not being a man is ignorant and dehumanizing.
He is offended by invasive questions about his sexual preferences, viewing them as inappropriate and irrelevant.
The author criticizes the double standard of expecting LGBTQ+ individuals to hide their sexuality in public while heterosexual displays of affection are accepted.
He asserts that homosexuality is not a choice, emphasizing that it is as inherent as heterosexual attraction.
The author challenges the notion that being gay is morally wrong, arguing that such beliefs are rooted in homophobia rather than valid personal opinions.
He rejects the idea that homosexuality is a sin, stating that God's love is inclusive and that homophobic attitudes are ungodly.

6 Things I Hate To Hear From Straight People

Have you ever been in an awkward situation where someone makes a very stupid comment about who you are or about what you do? Or a situation that somebody makes a super rude question? Well, that happens all the time to gay guys.

There are so many questions and comments that straight people usually make that make me feel extremely uncomfortable. I decided to choose the 5 that drives me crazy the most. If you are that type of person who chooses to say these dumb shit, don’t forget to avoid them next time you talk to a gay person.

6- You’re not a man

OMG. How many times have I heard this? Probably a million times. The last time I heard someone say that was last week. One of my former co-workers read the article which I talk about when I came out of the closet. When we worked together, I wasn’t out yet. So, he reached out to me after he read my coming out story, and said he was disappointed because he thought a was a man. Not gay. According to him, a gay man isn’t a man. What are we then? A dog? A lion? Yes, dumb bitch. If a guy is gay, he is still a man. Being gay just means that I’m attracted to other men.

5- Do you always fuck or are you the one who gets fucked?

Why do straight people love to ask gay guys this question? Do you all want to try different positions? Are you curious or what? If someone asks me this question, I get super pissed off. One day my boss asked if I’m a top or a bottom. Then, my response was: “Why? Do you want to have sex with me?”. He apologized right away because he noticed I hadn’t appreciated such question. If you don’t intend to have sex with a gay man, do not ask them this question.

4- I’m ok that you’re gay. Just don’t be gay in public

Ok, sir. You can be straight, just don’t be straight in public. Don’t hold hands with your girlfriend in public. Don’t come to the park with your kids and your wife. Don’t kiss her on the lips or even on the cheeks. Don’t show any kind of affection in public. Don’t talk about women. This way we will equally hide who we are. Because so far, it’s only been my job to make sure I don’t show I’m gay.

All the time we hear homophobic comments like that. It’s frustrating. It’s stupid. It’s rude. It’s homophobic. What do you expect of us? The idea that gays shouldn’t be gays is always reinforced by society.

3- Why did you choose to be gay?

Maybe because I watched Lady Gaga perform live on TV, and I thought it’d be a good idea to give it a try.

How many times do we have to say that we don’t choose to be gay? We are born this way. Why did you choose to feel attracted to people of the opposite sex? We don’t choose to be sexually, physically, and emotionally attracted to people of the same sex. It is what it is. So, learn to respect us.

2- I don’t think it’s right to be gay. And you should respect my opinion.

Bitch, opinion is when you prefer vanilla ice cream over chocolate ice cream. Saying things like that isn’t an opinion. It’s homophobia. I’m always sick of homophobic and racist people who think that their attitude is a matter of opinion. No, it’s not. And if it is, you need to change it. You can’t have an opinion that dictates somebody else’s life. How would you feel if we did that to you? Not, good, huh?

1- You’re going to hell

Wait, what? You said that God created all creatures, which includes me. And that we are in his image. Then, knowing that I was born this way, which means that God made me this way, I will have to go to hell? Wait a minute. We go through injustice throughout our entire life, and even after death, we will have to deal with it too? How come God makes me gay and decides to send me to hell?

Well, this concept has NOTHING to do with God but with you homophobic people. God doesn’t make mistakes, and he loves me the way I am because there’s nothing wrong with me being a gay man. Your homophobic attitude will send you to hell. The way you choose to treat us will send you to hell. If there’s anybody that’s going to hell here is you who choose to mistreat us and hurt us with your homophobic comments.

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