6 Pointers To Avoid Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissists are the most unavoidable kind

Besides a few instances where having a relationship with a narcissist is inevitable and comes by default, such as if they’re your parents or siblings, being in a relationship with a narcissist should be avoided at all costs.

Do you know what the irony is? Narcissists are the most unavoidable kind. They know how to impress people and what kind of charm works for whom. One might likely fall for them in a rush and then suffer later.

Apple might look shiny on the outside but could be rotten on the inside.

So here are a few do’s, don’ts and pointers to avoid falling into narcissistic relationships.

DON’TS

Fall For The Charisma

The biggest narcissistic tool to trap you into being their victim is their charm. They’ve developed this over time on a trial and error basis and could be alluring.

They care about what image they’re putting out in public and are very conscious about their self-image. And many people fall for it. They might be seductive, classy, elegant, or chivalrous, but all of these are just temporary facades in front of you and the public.

Upgrade your standards, and stop valuing charisma so much. Instead, look for the real virtues like politeness, genuine generosity, compassion & respect.

Fall for their Riches & Intellect

Narcissists have a great scope of being rich. The charm is their way to go. However, besides the talent, what goes into building a rich life could be shady.

Ever looked at the extravagant life of celebrities and couldn’t help but aw at it? Most of us did. But ever wondered how they must’ve got there & how they’re treating people below them?

We often adore people who are more intelligent than us. Being knowledgeable is just sexy. Despite being so educated, a narcissist wouldn’t value other human beings. They lack empathy and respect towards anyone.

This is what you’ve got to look for.

Pointers

Watch How They Behave With You When Things Don’t Go Their Way

The narcissist would try to find a good time to show their true selves to you the first time. And that’s the only time you shouldn’t let it slide.

Name-calling, yelling, shaming, accusing, and showing aggression. To show these, they need an excuse, and it could come any time.

They’d just yell at you and justify it by saying they had a bad day, so the agitation. Watch how they behave with you when things don’t go their way.

I am The Best, and You Know What I Own You

This is another kind of behavior to look out for.

Entitlement.

Narcissists believe they are entitled to all the respect and authority as if you owe it to them.

Everything has to be done as they prefer, and your freedom is lost somewhere. You just do what and how they ask you to do.

You don’t usually notice it but be aware when you sense your freedom of choice is being stolen.

Do’s

Set Boundaries

A hallmark trait of narcissists is invading the boundaries of their victims. Before they victimize you, they test if you are likely to be their victim.

To test this, they try to cross boundaries, which may invade your privacy, call you names, and accuse/gaslight. They see how you receive this negativity. Once you let this negativity slide without consequences is a green signal for them to abuse you.

When they cross the boundaries or do something that makes you uncomfortable the first time, just let them face the consequences, even if it is the first time. If they value you, they’ll stay.

Believe You’re Great, Stand Your Ground

When your beliefs about yourselves are not strong enough, you can be manipulated easily. If you don’t strongly believe you’re good, you can fall for the manipulation & gaslighting of a narcissist. They will bring you down.

They can easily trick you into believing you are worthless, or you are always wrong, or you’re ugly, or anything to crash your self-esteem. They might portray you as if they were doing a favor being with you, and you just obey whatever they say.

This could happen smoothly without you even noticing until you strongly believe that you are self-sufficient. Whatever they say to demean you mustn’t affect you in any way. You should simply be laughing at their misery and how hard they’re trying to pull you down.

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