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6 Mutual Masturbation Tips That Will Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

There is something incredibly hot about watching your partner masturbate or masturbating in front of them.

If it really a common fantasy that men and women have to watch someone else or be watched during sex or self-pleasure.

In this article, we are going to discuss Mutual masturbation and How you can spice up your sex life and relationship by masturbating with your partner.

Masturbation is often a topic of shame and extreme taboo which is why you’ll find most men and women hiding the fact that they masturbate from each other.

I actually used to hide the fact that I masturbated in a previous relationship that was a pretty long-term relationship and it wasn’t enjoyable at all to hide that from him.

It also made me feel like shit when I found out that he was masturbating to porn in secret.

I am a firm believer that we need to embrace our sexuality and take masturbation or stuff pleasure as I usually call it whether solo or partnered out of the darkness and into the light of love, pleasure, and true acceptance.

You don’t need to hide your pleasure from yourself or your partner anymore.

Because chances are sharing your masturbation experience with one another will turn you both on even more.

What exactly is mutual masturbation and isn’t.

Masturbation usually an activity that is done solo.

Mutual masturbation simply means that you are masturbating in the presence of your lover or your partner or multiple partners.

You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship or in a committed relationship with anyone in order to enjoy mutual masturbation with them.

Typically all or both parties are stimulating their own bodies while watching or being present with the other. This can be,

• Right next to each other in your bed,
• Sitting across the room from one another kind of watching each other.
• Over Skype
• Over the phone.

There are tons of variations and ways to play with mutual masturbation. But I wanted to share some amazing tips with you and how you can get started and bringing masturbation into your sexual relationships.

I’ve done mutual masturbation over Skype, in the same bed, or in the same room, in a car, while driving, and while a passenger.

— I don’t recommend doing that for safety reasons if you do be really careful.

But those are just some examples of ways that I’ve played with mutual masturbation.

1. Embrace and Know Your Body

But let’s start by touching on what it takes to build the arousal confidence and connection for mutual masturbation even before you take your clothes off and start pleasuring yourself in front of your lover.

The key for a woman to really be able to do this with someone else especially if it’s in person is that she has to feel safe.

This is why I always recommend that every single woman develops a regular self-pleasure practice and gets to know her

Own body, Her p*ssy, Her pleasure and her own orgasms firstly.

If you’re not used to masturbating or pleasuring yourself begin to touch yourself at least two to three times a week for about 15 minutes.

Set a timer if it helps you.

If not more and just find out what turns you on this will help you focus on your pleasure during your mutual masturbation experience and not get caught up in trying to please them with your actions or your sounds or your moves.

The more you know about your own body and pleasure the more you can return to it when you feel like you’re out of touch with your pleasure during the experience.

This also enhances confidence in your ability to pleasure yourself which really is what mutual masturbation is all about.

It’s really sexy to watch one another.

But it’s also about each of you enjoying your own bodies, being in the presence of one another while you were doing that sharing the experience together.

Mutual masturbation is not about you showcasing your sexy skills to your partner or acting like a porn star to turn them on at the expense of your own pleasure.

Unless this is something that you have specifically communicated and agreed upon together.

2. Communicate

This leads me to the second tip which is to communicate that you want to try masturbating together first, even before you begin the experience.

Sounds simple enough.

I’m sure but how do you bring this up to your lover if you already have a fairly active and healthy sexual relationship. Then you can suggest mutual masturbation to them right after you finish having sex.

You can say something as simple as

“I did really enjoy that. Do you know it’d be really hot,

Watching each other masturbate, Self-pleasure in front of one another, In the same room.”

— or insert whatever feels good for you.

If it helps, you can send them the link to this post and you can read it together or have them read it so that you can both be on the same page when it comes to your experience.

You want to be clear about what your expectations are and what their expectations are.

Really communicate with them beforehand so that there’s no disappointments, unmet needs, any boundaries crossed.

If you have any boundaries just make sure to set them beforehand.

If you find yourself feeling really nervous and you just don’t have that great of a connection to your partner sexually, go back to tip number one.

3. Get yourself juiced up.

Because your own pleasure is yours and your responsibility.

It’s not your partner’s responsibility.

Once you feel confident in your own self-pleasure abilities, you can just let them know that you want to try something new or that you have this fantasy of both masturbating together and then just go from there.

Let’s get into the hot and heavy tips for practicing mutual masturbation with your lover.

Decide how you want to do it.

• Do you want to try the phone first so you build up confidence?
• Do you want to try it over Skype?
• Do you want to do it in person right next to each other lying on your bed?
• Do you want to watch each other from across the room?
• or something else entirely.

See what feels good and go with that.

Next by building passion, sexual energy, and arousal between the two of you. This is a really good time for,

• Passionate kissing,
• Breathing together,
• Maybe starting out with whole body oil massages,

— Not designed for the climax of course.

Or something else that just really gets you both turned on together.

Once you’re ready to begin masturbating assume your chosen positions and begin to touch yourself in whatever way feels good.

Whether you’re using your hands or a toy of some sort of a combination of things. Maybe,

• You’re lying side by side next to each other on your bed,
• You’re sitting on the other side of the couch,
• You guys are in the shower,
• Sitting,
• Standing across some room from each other,
• It’s over the phone or Skype.

Just assume your positions and get started.

4. Exhale & Inhale

The most important thing is to remember to breathe.

Breathe deeply the number one thing that will make your mutual masturbation super hot and orgasmic shared experience is for both of you to utilize your sexual energy by leaving it up into your body.

Both of you can breathe down into your genitals and imagine that you are raising your sexual energy into your brain on the inhale and back down to your genitals on the exhale.

Allowed this to be incredibly fluid. Allow your breath to become orgasmic.

Speaking of orgasm try not to make this a goal-oriented experience.

Of course, it is so sexy to watch each other cum but it shouldn’t be about rushing into orgasm or even about climax at all.

Masturbating together can be an amazing experience for,

• Enhancing connection,
• Building sexual desire,
• Increasing intimacy

while sharing your sexual energy and pleasure.

But it’s not really about the climax. I encourage you to allow each sensation, each touch, each stroke, sound, and breath to be an orgasm in itself.

5. Focus On Yourself, Not Him

This is important. So listen up. If you are a woman chances are it is really easy for you to get lost in trying to please your partner with the way,

You touch yourself, How you look, The sounds you make,

Whatever else you can think of that you’re trying to focus on pleasuring them as opposed to yourself.

I am going to encourage you to really train yourself to stop worrying about what they think or what you look like.

I guarantee you that if your lover is getting to witness you in your raw pleasure and beauty while they are all so caught up in their own pleasure, they won’t give a damn about what your body looks like or whether you’re trying to please them through your own pleasure and movements.

It’s about you enjoying your own body and pleasure but not for their sake necessarily.

Honestly, men typically have an easier time with this just being and enjoying the experience for what it is. Because they are so single-focused on the c*ck that is in their hands or whatever, it is that they’re doing to pleasure themselves.

When you find yourself worrying or trying to really turn up the dial on things that you’re doing for the sake of their pleasure as opposed to yours.

Close your eyes for just a moment.

Go inside of your body and breathe into your sexual energy, your p*ssy, and return back to your pleasure.

6. Spice things up

• Do you want to use different lube or warm coconut oil?
• Do you want to insert a Jade Egg or use a crystal dildo on yourself?
• Can you bring into your mutual masturbation experience to really spice it?
• Do you want to passionately make out while you stroke yourselves together?
• Can you use your senses more or bring in different props like blindfolds or sex toys?
• Can you use sound to enhance your own orgasmic sensations?

Let this be a playground for mutual masturbation and trying out new things.

I hope you liked it. Don’t forget to follow me. I am sending you so much love,