Do Like Beyoncé and Don’t Let People Break Your Soul!
Do you find yourself letting other people bring you down?
I’m resilient and I know it. I’m proud of that fact, and sometimes I use examples from my own screwed up past, to try and help others when they’re going through something.
This is what I was able to do recently, with a neighbor who is going through some rough patches in life.
Neighbors and birthdays and needed words of wisdom
The neighbor that I had to break out some needed words of wisdom for, is the same neighbor I happened to mention around my birthday this past year.
I once spoke about her in a story and told how she helped me take a fun little photo shoot for vanity sake.
Well, it just so happens that her birthday also past recently, so I went to her apartment to have a birthday toast with her.
I knew her young son was with his father, and she’d be spending it alone, and turning up all by herself.
She’s young enough to be my daughter (notice how cleverly I phrased that), so even though we occasionally drink together and laugh and act crazy, I still watch the kind of example I set for her, as a more mature woman (See, clever again).
Anyway, here’s the point of all this. While we were drinking, clowning around, and trying not to gossip about the other neighbors in the building, she pretended to have a good time, but I could tell something was bothering her.
Eventually, she dropped the facade and let me know what was on her mind. A situation with her ex was depressing her.
Apparently, not only was he giving her a hard time about child custody, but he was making her feel bad about herself in the process.
After allowing her a moment to unload on me, and get her burdens off her chest, that’s when I took control of the conversation, and later the playlist.
First, I shared a few words of wisdom, from a more mature woman’s perspective.
I said all the right things about how the extent of her self worth isn’t based on what he (her ex) thinks of her, or anyone else for that matter. It’s about what she thinks of herself.
While we talked, I took her smartphone and scrolled through the titles on Youtube, until I found what I was looking for.
I played “Break My Soul”, one of my favorite songs from the newest Beyoncé album, and the two of us got up and had a two women dance party that would put any Tik Toker to shame. What a release that was!
My neighbor instantly appeared to cheer up, and this time it was for real.
Music is one of the best remedies when you need a dose of encouragement
As far as I’m concerned, music is one of the very best remedies you can find, when you need a dose of inspiration, motivation, and most of all, encouragement.
Personally, I have no less than ten songs that have made serious impacts on my life when I needed it. I guess I’ll be adding Break My Soul to the list.
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