5 Ways to Have More Sex With Your Partner — A Nympho’s Guide

I have had almost sex every day for the past seven years

Shit happens. Sex gets put on the back burner. That’s normal. But sometimes sex gets put on the back burner and left there till it’s evaporated.

We ask ourselves, why isn’t she/he ever horny? Why do they get 30 headaches a week? Am I that bad? Etc. Being bad isn’t always the reason, but being good isn’t either.

If sex feels like a chore, or it seems your partner isn’t down to get down unless it’s a blue moon, then there are ways to change that.

I am a nymphomaniac; while that’s hot in Hollywood, it’s not so much in real life. I have a lot of sex. A lot. Here is my potent advice on how to encourage more sexual desire between partners.

1. You need to up your game

Just because you’re getting denied, doesn’t mean you’re bad in bed, you just need to up your game.

Foreplay

One of the main reasons I hated sex with my ex was because foreplay was non-existent. Maybe he would eat me out for 5-minutes, but he went down there like a velociraptor who was starved. Not cool. Or hot.

Take your damn time – read this

Sex is epic, but what makes it epic is getting her super wet, or getting him rock hard. Being amped up and drooling for an orgasm is what you want.

Life has a way of creating quickies. Let’s fuck quick before work, eh? I’m tired; want a quickie?

It’s expected, we want to have an orgasm when we can, but the occasion doesn’t always grant us a long fuck session. But guess what? One unique, sensual, mindblowing sheet soaking sex session is better than five mediocre quickies.

• Caress their body for a while; tease their hotspots.
• Get sexy for them.
• Play music, light candles.
• Make them wait.
• Explore their body.

Pay more attention to their body. Rub their thighs, kiss, and lick their hot spots. Make them want you. Be sensual.

If you want them to want sex, make sex something to enjoy. Read that again.

2. Stop asking

Nothing is more unattractive than asking for sex. Seriously. My husband is a boss in bed. He’s why I write about sex because it’s incredible.

When you ask for sex, you take away the magic.

A way to initiate sex without asking is to be alluring. Spend some time preparing throughout the day. Leave sexy notes, tease them, flash them some skin. Make them want it.

Don’t ask for sex. Make sex happen.

3. Attention!

You can’t be non-existent all day and then expect to play in the bedroom.

People like attention. A study was done in 200; the results suggest that the amount of attention captured by sexual stimuli is a stronger predictor of a person’s sexual desire level than the valence of the emotional responses elicited by such stimuli.

Aka, the amount of sexual desire has a lot to do with positive sexual interactions. It can be linked to how much emotional attention one receives.

Many lovers engage in “pillow talk” after sex. More self-disclosure after sex is associated with increased closeness and relationship satisfaction.

Having more sex can bring couples closer together on a sexual and emotional level. That’s why being socially intimate is essential for sexual, emotional, and even physical growth in your relationship.

4. Bring it back, baby

After dating for a while, we tend to murder spontaneity in cold blood. Why do I need to impress them anymore?

With my old partner, while we were together for seven years, sex is addictive. One, because I have hypersexuality disorder, two, because we kept it interesting. We enjoyed finding ways to please each other throughout the week. Such as dates, daily teasing, and watching porn together.

Just because you get comfortable doesn’t mean you should get lazy. Would you enjoy sex if it was monotonous and ritualistic? No. What’s fun about planned sex. Nothing. At. All. If I have to pencil you in or wait till the game is over, I don’t want it.

Be spontaneous like when you first met, be spicy, turn up the heat. Get home and surprise them with a sex toy or a hot bath with a massage after.

Creativity gets you everywhere.

5. Old habits

Sex should be fun, not something “to do” when dating. It shouldn’t be expected; it should be wanted.

From the amazing book, The normal bar, here are some interesting findings.

People who have bad sex lives all do this.

• Spend very little time together during a typical week.
• Become job-centered (him) and child-centered (her).
• Talk mostly about their huge to-do lists.
• Seem to make everything else a priority other than their relationship.
• Drift apart and lead parallel lives.
• Are unintentional about turning toward one another.

People who have extraordinary sex lives all do this.

• They say “I love you” every day and mean it.
• They kiss one another passionately for no reason.
• They give surprise romantic gifts.
• They know what turns their partners on and off erotically.
• They are physically affectionate, even in public.
• They keep playing and having fun together.
• They cuddle.
• They make sex a priority, not the last item of a long to-do list.
• They stay good friends.
• They can talk comfortably about their sex life.
• They have weekly dates.
• They take romantic vacations.
• They are mindful about turning toward.