5 Ways to Curb our Deeply Ingrained Lack Mentality
Lack mentality is so deeply ingrained in us, we hardly know we are doing it
We are creating our perception of our experience every single second.
Each thought we think about what is missing in our lives creates a vibration that produces more of what we don’t want or are trying to avoid.
Our thoughts are powerful creators — in fact, they’ve created all the circumstances we find ourselves in right now — whether we judge those circumstances to be positive or negative.
Why are thoughts so powerful? Because they create beliefs. And beliefs are the source of all action and alignment.
Going into 2021, I find myself so much more aware of my inner conversation about my perception of the world. So many thoughts used to go unchecked or unexplored. Now, I delve in and ask how I can have a better relationship with my ‘point of attraction’ as Abraham-Hicks coins it.
When we find ourselves overwhelmed with what seems to be missing, it helps to have a lighthouse to guide our way.
Here are 5 ways to curb our lack mentality and reset our sights on abundance and support:
1. Start saying “Thank you” more.
As I go through my day, I have a simple phrase I repeat: Thank you.
If something goes well, I silently say, “Thank you.” If something goes not so well, I silently say, “Thank you.”
Saying “Thank you” shifts our focus from discontent to curiosity. It toggles our internal landscape and changes the vibration we are attracting. And it’s so simple! As we say “Thank you” more, we start to attract more to be thankful for.
Try it! Say thank you when your kid acts up, thereby opening yourself up to a solution. Say thank you when the traffic is light and you arrive early. Say thank you when you’re not feeling great and watch how the energy of the words transforms your physical state of being — even just a little!
Saying “thank you” also creates surrender and allows solutions and answers to surface. When the resistance to ‘what is’ stops, our mind is free to think outside the box. Our fight/flight has calmed down and now we can get creative about what to do next.
2. Offer your gifts — all of them.
We all know the feeling of giving someone we love a gift and anticipating their reaction, joy, and excitement while they open it. Their experience is made better by the gift they just received.
Most of us may never know the powerful impact we have on others, especially when we are offering our light in any way. Something magical happens when we take the focus off ourselves for a bit and share something that has meaning to us.
Start sharing your gifts more — all of them. It doesn’t matter what they are, it matters that you perform them with joy.
A lot of people have probably experienced being ‘in the flow.’ In these moments, problems disappear, solutions start to surface and the world seems a little lighter. There is an ease to the way our day unfolds or how a worry vanishes.
Because we feel so good, our perception shifts and we start to notice all the stuff that is working. The more we notice, the more we attract to feel good about.
Sharing our gifts creates a domino effect of good feelings in US, thereby releasing all the yummy chemicals in the brain and allowing us to take even more aligned actions.
Offering more is a win-win situation.
3. Be grateful for and acknowledge discounts, coupons, and refunds, no matter the amount.
When most folks think about abundance, physical money is the first thing that likely pops into their minds.
We must make peace with our relationship with money, which is an energy just like everything else.
When we focus on the other ways money shows up, we align with the vibration that allows us to attract more of it. Saying “Thank you,” for the $2 coupon or the half-price muffins empowers us to be better attractors. It says that we have faith that the Universe is truly on our side and wants us to feel supported and safe. Because it does.
Make this step fun! See how many coupons and freebees you can create just by appreciating and holding that feeling throughout your day. I bet they will show up in unexpected ways that will make you feel giddy with excitement to keep creating more!
Take a tally at the end of each week or month and see how much you saved or didn’t have to spend. Then, name a few things you could spend that money on. It doesn’t matter that the money is not present, it matters that you create the feeling of purchasing the thing or service you desire and holding that vibration.
Creating the feeling in your body aligns you with that vibration to attract more.
4. Clear your energy at least twice a day.
We as humans are energetic beings. Because of this, we pick up other people’s energy as we go through our day.
Think about walking into a room where you know people have been talking badly about you — you can feel it. Conversely, think about walking into a room where people have been talking lovingly about you — again, you can feel it.
As we interact with other people, our energies mix. Because energy has no will of its own, we have to direct it away from us if we don’t like how it feels.
It’s simple. Sit, get present and do a body scan. Maybe you feel sadness or anger you know doesn’t belong to you at this moment. Identify it, name it and say, “This isn’t mine, I release this back to Source (or whatever word helps you feel connected).” Really feel it leave your field. Energy must go where you tell it — it can’t just stick to you without your permission.
Knowing this will bring you a sense of personal empowerment unlike anything else. To realize you can direct energy around you is something most folks are completely unaware of — they just accept the vibration they’ve picked up as their own.
You are so much more powerful than you have been told.
5. Take an inventory.
Because of our innate survival instinct, we have been trained to focus on lack or what isn’t here.
This gets us in trouble every time.
Lack mentality is so pervasive and systemic, that we don’t even know we are doing it. It is so ingrained in us to focus on what isn’t there versus what we want to create beyond it.
The best way to combat lack and switch perspectives is to take inventory.
Do you have a roof and walls around you? You’re rich.
Did you eat today? You’re rich.
Do you have access to clean water? You’re rich.
Do you have even one person who loves you? You’re rich.
Are you physically healthy? You’re rich.
Are you a parent or a caregiver? You’re rich.
Do you provide a home for animals? You’re rich.
Can you walk? Eat? Breathe? You’re rich.
Do you have a bank account no matter what the value? You’re rich.
Do you have things that others view as a luxury? You’re rich.
Do you realize you are an energetic being with the power to create anything you want in this life, regardless of how much you think you’ve screwed it up so far (you haven’t by the way)? You’re rich.
Are you reading this with eyes that can see and experience this world? You’re rich.
Try these steps for 30 days and notice how you feel!
Remember: a belief is just a thought we think over and over again. Think of some new, more empowering thoughts and watch them quickly become your new belief and guidance system.