5 Uncomfortable Signs You’re Becoming The Person You’re Meant To Be

You've actually made a lot more progress than you thought.

You have a dream.

You have a dream to become someone, to achieve something, to create something. Maybe it’s all three, but either way, you have an idea in your head of what you want your life to look like and who you want to be eventually.

I know this because I have a dream. I dream of being a published author, having financial freedom, having a family, supporting my mother, moving to NYC, and living a life I’m proud of. Those are my dreams and aspirations.

For all of that to come to fruition, I’ve had to do a lot of reflection and invest a lot of time into my business. And, as the months have been going by, I’ve noticed that I’ve been feeling a little… uncomfortable. I’ve been going out of my way, struggling with making difficult decisions, I’ve lost friendships, I’ve had to say no countless times, the list goes on.

If you’re facing discomfort, or you feel like you’re doing all the right things, but it just feels like you’re stretching yourself in ways you never have before, then it’s a sign that you’re moving in the right direction.

This is the time you have to open yourself up to new experiences. You’ll start to notice the beauty in change — the power in getting out of your comfort zone.

You need to recognize the uncomfortable signs you’ll be experiencing so that you don’t lose focus in the midst of your mission.

You’re Obsessed With Your Future

You’re excited about your future. You own it. You know that everything you’re doing right now will inevitably lead you to the life of your dreams.

You might be uncertain, or even occasionally doubtful, but even in the face of adversity, you take life one day at a time and put forth your best effort.

Writer Serenity Gibbons says in Entrepreneur,

Obsession gives you courage. You ditch the cowardly lion act and become courageous. When you’re obsessed, you have the courage to get started. You have the courage to pick yourself up after falling, and you have the guts to stare fear directly in its face.

When Conor McGregor conquered the UFC, he said in a documentary,

“This is an obsession. Talent does not exist; we are all equals as human beings. You could be anyone if you put in the time. I am not talented; I am obsessed.”

Obsession is an entrepreneurial fuel when it’s directed at the right things. It’s your chance to think about all of the things you’re currently doing and identify what will help your future or potentially hinder it.

I’m obsessed with my future. I meditate on it daily, I visualize it, I write about it. This helps me stay focused, and I never take my eyes off the prize.

People who say things like, “live in the moment” yet are too afraid of chasing after their dreams, or say they’ll “eventually” do it are just stalling. You can live in the moment all you want, but living in the moment and not doing what you need to do to build your dream life won’t get you far.

You’ve Created A Successful Routine For Yourself

You have a routine that works for you.

Your morning routine consists of rituals that better you and set you up for a successful day, week, etc.

Tom Corley, accountant, and financial planner, surveyed over 200 wealthy individuals, mainly self-made millionaires, on their daily habits. According to his research, nearly 50% of self-made millionaires get out of bed at least three hours before their workday actually started.

The majority of them utilize their free time to work on personal projects, exercise, or plan out their day.

“Getting up at five in the morning to tackle the top three things you want to accomplish in your day allows you to regain control of your life. It gives you a sense of confidence that you, indeed, direct your life.”

My morning routine used to consist of watching Friends and drinking coffee. I’d go to the gym and then, at some point, start writing. My word count barely ever made it to 1000. I was struggling creatively and lacked focus.

The change to start waking up earlier wasn’t uncomfortable, but forcing myself to read rather than watch TV or exercise first thing rather than scroll through social media was difficult.

I started utilizing time-blocking to amplify my productivity, and ever since then, my routine has stayed consistent, and I’ve become intentional and productive with my time.

You’re 100% Independent

Instead of relying on others for help and support, you solve problems on your own.

You have a “can-do-it” attitude, and you’re ready to take on whatever challenge comes your way without stressing about whether or not you’ll be able to handle it.

According to writer Darin L. Hammond on Lifehack, being independent boosts your self-confidence and self-esteem.

An increase in self-confidence means that you trust yourself to be competent in the situations you confront, and a boost in self-esteem gives a positive outlook on yourself. Learning independence instills confidence because you believe in the knowledge and capacities you possess to deal with any challenge.

I moved out when I was 16. Despite paying my own bills, I was not independent. I didn’t trust myself, I didn’t trust the knowledge I had, and I would constantly rely on friends or family to help me make difficult decisions.

When I moved to Los Angeles at 20, things changed. I started becoming my own person, who was capable of formulating her own thoughts and opinions rather than always asking someone else for theirs.

I developed emotional independence.

Emotional independence is the ability to manage your life and your stress levels, even under difficult circumstances. This kind of independence is accomplished by building who you are from the inside out, not the outside in. — Psychologist Ilene S. Cohen

You’ve developed an inner resilience. You’ve built up your sense of self on your own; you don’t depend on the people around you to make you happy or ask them how you should think or act.

You accept yourself, and you’re always working on becoming the best possible version of you that you can be.

You’ve Cut Out Unnecessary Relationships Because No Company Is Better Than Mediocre Company

Negative relationships will distract you from becoming the person you’re supposed to be, while positive relationships will support you in your journey.

Understanding the difference is critical to personal development.

I’ve always been an introvert, but being an introvert doesn’t mean you don’t have any friends at all, which is why I still made time for the people I did have in my life.

However, I quickly came to the realization that while they were good and quality people, their goals didn’t align with the life that I was trying to build for myself.

While I woke up early every day to get to work, they would all sleep in until noon then hit me up to get breakfast with them or go shopping. While I utilized my weekends for errands and catching up on work, they wanted to party and get wasted.

Most importantly, while I was trying to become a successful, more resilient, and intelligent individual, they were content with living an average life with little to no desire to improve themselves.

In the words of Jim Rohn,

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The people you spend the most time with shape who you are.”

You’re not telling your friends you don’t want to ever see them again. Instead, you’re learning how to say no for the first time.

Billionaire Warren Buffett noted that very successful people had one advantage over the merely successful: They said “no” to almost everything.

You Value Your Time

Time is our most valuable commodity. Unlike money, you can’t earn more time.

Unfortunately, the majority of us waste time as if we’ll magically earn it back one day. We waste time being “busy” rather than productive; we waste time on people who suck the energy out of us.

We spend weekends doing nothing, afternoons scrolling through social media, mornings watching reality TV, which according to a Nielsen report, US adults are watching over 5 hours of television per day on average.

We’re all guilty of wasting time. However, once you start acknowledging that time is precious, and you start utilizing it in the best way possible, that’s when you know you’ve uncovered something others have yet to realize.

You’ve suddenly stopped saying “yes” to everything. You stop allowing external things like Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter to constantly distract you from your work.

You’re intentional about the way you spend your time; even your “free time” is used to advance your overall purpose in life.

I’m guilty of believing that I have all the time in the world. I stayed up late, put off work because “I’ll do it tomorrow,” and would often lounge on the couch midday despite having things on my to-do list.

When you get to a point in your life where you feel like the puzzle pieces are finally coming together, time becomes your biggest and most precious assets. You refuse to give it to anybody, and you refuse to waste it.

Growth is uncomfortable.

If you would have told me that to become the person I’m meant to be, I would lose friends, analyze 10+ different productivity methods, start meditating and journaling about my future, I would have called you crazy.

Growth only happens when you learn to shed the skin you’re in and lose the habits that aren’t pushing you forward so that you could blossom into who you’re meant to become.

You get no results for a while, things get uncomfortable for a bit, others will look at you weird. But, you adapt to these changes and you come out of it 10x better.

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