5 Transformational Life Lessons You Can Learn From Pain
Lifelong or an episode, pain is an extraordinary teacher
My first bout with sustained pain came a decade ago when a herniated disk brought my life to a standstill. Over the 18 months of recovery, I learned important lessons that transformed my life.
Here’s what I know about the lessons and how they serve me now and can serve you too if you’re ready for your own life to transform.
1. The power of choice
When you experience pain that doesn’t go away in a few weeks, you’ll come face to face with how you’ll choose to live with it. You can accept pain as a part of your life and decide how you will live each day. Or you can choose to give up and passively resist any chances to find happiness.
By choosing acceptance, and knowing that you are making a conscious choice, you can shape your day-to-day experiences and mood.
If however, you give up, which is also a choice, you release the potential to look for new ways to enjoy and participate in the world. This leads to further feelings of being out of control and powerless and onto a path to depression.
The power of choice, especially acceptance of current circumstances is empowering. It’s not about passively waiting for things to improve, but rather a starting point from which to build. Acceptance of what is, puts you in control and increases your happiness.
2. Adaptability
When you exercise acceptance of your situation, you will also learn how to adapt to each day. Sometimes you will wake up with less pain, and that may open an activity that you haven’t done for a while.
Since pain is unpredictable, you learn to change your plans because you don’t know how long or when you’ll next be able to enjoy it.
Adaptability is about seizing the moment, seeing your chance, and taking it.
Similarly, if you have a day planned and your pain is on the uptick, you learn how to adjust your day. You make allowances and do what you can, learning over time that “this too shall pass.”
3. Mindfulness
In a world that celebrates busy and go, go go, pain slows you down.
Mindfulness is the focused act of observation. You bring your mind to the present and practice quieting your thoughts of the future or past. A wonderful way to bring this into your world is through nature. Immerse yourself in the sights and sounds, focus on what is within your immediate area, and learn to release attention to current troubles or problems.
This skill, as you can imagine is beneficial in your everyday life. Mindfulness is a proven technique for stress reduction and helps with anxiety. And it’s a pretty damn good way to manage emotional or physical pain!
4. Gratitude
Since pain attunes you to your body and movements, it also brings you into the now. And what better place to appreciate what you’re grateful for?
Gratitude seems obvious if your pain is decreased, but there’s also so many other things where gratitude and appreciation can be expressed. From those who help make your life easier, to technology that lets you connect to others, to beautiful music.
And yes, it can be the mundane or the silly. The antics of your pet, the corny joke your partner tells you, or the clean sheets greeting you at the end of the day.
Gratitude is an attitude and a proven method to improve your mood and sense of well-being.
5. Self Love
Pain shines a light on the ways you haven’t treated yourself with the love you deserve. Have you been over-giving? Consistently put others’ needs before your own? Have you choked back expressing your needs or even taken the time to learn what they are?
Learning to love yourself even when, or especially when you are vulnerable is a powerful gift of acknowledging your worth. As you become more attuned to who you are and what you need, you can craft a happier and more satisfying life for yourself.
Final thoughts
While it might seem a stretch to think of pain as a gift, it has, if you let it, transformative lessons that will change the course of your life.
I recently contracted Omicron and it brought the back pain back, along with a reminder of how these lessons have changed my life for the better.
Regardless of whether you’ve ever experienced the type of pain that brings your life to a halt, these 5 lessons — Choice, Adaptability, Mindfulness, Gratitude, and Self Love will benefit you in every area of your life.
The best way to begin is by applying these lessons and living into your glorious potential. Do that and you’ll discover the many ways that improving how you respond to your circumstances changes not just your life, but all those you interact with. And that’s an outcome worth having.
