Advice | First Impressions
5 Tips On Making A Positive Impact
When you meet someone, for the first time
Over the years, I have been an acquaintance to thousands of people. I have met and became friends with them sometimes on the spot. Impressions always matter, and I believe some somethings foster an effective impact on people when properly applied by reading the signs.
What one needs to aspire for is making a long-lasting impact, that helps them remember you even if you don’t meet them afterward. This is done through honing yourself and wearing yourself proudly as well as other significant factors that contribute towards its success.
I believe in myself, on how I meet other people as well. When you meet someone, you have to treat them as they really are. You have to read them and find what they hide therefore giving them the room to come out. Because every one deep down wants to belong, wants to be accepted. You have to show them that they matter, through actual compassion and genuine love.
Here are perhaps somethings when properly executed do make a positive everlasting impact, on the people you meet.
1. Have an Enthusiastic Spirit
When I meet people for the first time, be it a stranger. I control my energy in the room. This is perhaps a no-brainer, You have to seem enthusiastic, so much so that you are able to make them as well. They should feel energized, you know when you’re taking and you can feel this current in someone’s voice when they’re talking with full interest.
“Always Remember to take your Vitamins: Take your Vitamin A for ACTION, Vitamin B for Belief, Vitamin C for Confidence ,Vitamin D for Discipline, Vitamin E for Enthusiasm!!” ― Pablo
You have to channel that out using your own. When you meet someone, shake their hand firmly and give them a hug. I usually hug people, when I meet them. It shows a lot of compassion and also helps to signals the environment as a peaceful sign that you are welcoming and compassionate.
This affects the other person as well, now be in mind you have to read the room. If it’s quiet, then you have to channel from one person, swapping to the next slowly adding more and more people into the mix as you move along so that the people you need to impress can easily see how you have won the room.
2. Show Humility
Sometimes Enthusiasm can become a double-edged sword, it doesn’t sit well with most people. In such scenarios, whenever you are conversing with other people. Joking about yourself, or something funny that you do can help you reach a mile a minute. It helps to foster the impression of a comic.
Everybody loves a comedian, until the joke is on them.
Remember to not sound cocky, showing humility helps you with maintaining a good impression. Plus, when they will laugh with you on your joke. They will also realize to make one about themselves, as well. Because when you show people that it is okay to be silly, they will be silly along with you.
“You will do foolish things, but do them with enthusiasm.” ― Colette
Sometimes, it’s just a slip of the tongue and they might even say remotely embarrassing and at that moment tap their shoulder to make them feel good, by saying “Nice one, followed by laughter.”
Another reason, why it’s always good — it shows your nature that you are willing to compromise yourself to ease the room. People do realize this, and perhaps might say, you’re a funny dude — I like you.
3. Give them the room
Remember it’s not about you, it’s about them.
Most of the time, if you show an over-enthusiastic spirit it kind of dampens the room with your energy and tires the other person out. They might even stop paying attention to what you are saying and start to look at their mobile screens.
This is perhaps an early sign, to give them the room.
When you do this, they are perhaps startled and will try to communicate with you in a broken manner, this is where you come in. You have to finish the sentences by throwing a few breadcrumbs so that it makes an end meet. This will perhaps even give you and them an Aha moment to share.
Remember, this method comes with practice. Most of the time, when people are given the room to talk — they find it hard so you have to improvise and help them open up.
A simple reassuring tone does the trick.
You have to communicate with them in a reassuring kind tone so that they calmly open up and will definitely start to become more connected with you on a deeper level.
4. Ask about the weather
This is a no brainer, most of the time — there comes a moment where you need to break the ice. Because both people can talk about themselves and what they really like. Using this question will help you put all hands on deck, and row the boat together.
It is an open minded, open-ended question. It can go anywhere with ease, as long as you know where you are sailing.
Asking about the weather can be anything that can ease and moreover create an opportunity for you both to discuss something trivial that you both can discourse with ease. Choose something that can get both of you talking. Something that’s happening, or talk about the music if its there.
Most of the time, I meet people. There is music in the air, or so they say but doing this asking this question. It helps you to divert the focus from yourself or themselves towards something that they can talk about without a judgemental perception. They can easily open about what they really like about the weather, or they can about how it’s affecting them.
“Questions open a space in your mind that allow better answers to breathe.” ― Richie Norton
This shows that you pay attention to your surroundings as well as the person you are talking about if you execute it perfectly. Because at the end of the day, this is going to stay — whatever you try to ask, be open-minded, and be free about it so that it makes a positive impact.
5. Arrive First, Leave Last
Arriving on time, before is something that is always appreciated but sometimes arriving a bit too early can be your downfall and tire you. So always keep in contact with other people whom you are going to meet. If it’s a stranger that you just met then that doesn’t really matter.
But if you are meeting someone for the first time, then it definitely matters that you arrive early. There was once I waited 6 hours to meet someone, Be in contact with them all the way.
“Be steady and well-ordered in your life so that you can be fierce and original in your work.” ― Gustave Flaubert
Arriving first sets your mood, by how you are going to engage the other person. It also boosts your self-confidence and furthermore shows promise.
On the other hand, leaving last is always a sad way to end a meet-up with someone. Especially, when the day has gone in such a harmonious way. The goodbyes are always hard. So When you show them to the car, or when they are about to leave. Always give them a comforting light hug.
It’s hard to leave last. I have known that perhaps thousands of times. But it shows that you will be there with them, even if they aren’t there. Before, they leave — exchange contacts so that you are able to keep in touch. That shows a promising impact that the person will definitely remember you, and they know how to find you.
Notify me, when you reach home so that I know that you are safe and sound.
And thus when they have left. Send them a message, with how you felt during the day, and tell them to contact you when they reach home to assure you that they reached safe and sound. Afterward, you should leave too. This will show that you care about their safety and security thus fostering an impact that will leave an everlasting impression off of you on their mind.
Thank you so much for reading.
Stay Blessed and Stay Safe!
With Love ❤️
