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5 Things That I am Letting Go Of in 2021

Response to a December prompt in Coffee Times

Greetings readers,

2021 is about to end. We are going to welcome 2022 too soon.

This post is in response to the December prompt hosted by my friend Yana Bostongirl

The prompt is “What I am letting go of in 2021?”

Letting go is a hard thing to do. At the same time, it’s one of the necessary things to do in life. We are carrying a lot of burdens on ourselves. Why can’t we set ourselves free is the question that I always wonder about.

“Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.”

-Melody Beattie

Letting go and forgiving someone is the hard thing to do in life. However, without doing these things you can never set yourself free.

It’s okay, let it be.

You don’t need to be right all the time. Accept it, and move on. Letting go is hard, but keeping all inside is more dangerous.

I am letting go of my past

Past is past. However, my past always affected me a lot in my life. I always complained about it that why did it happen to me. I am letting go of all my past relationships and the people who gave me pain. All those past failures and mistakes that I made.

“Why let go of yesterday? Because yesterday has already let go of you.”

-Steve Maraboli

Why you should waste your time on what is already gone?

This year I decided, to start fresh. I know I can’t change my past but I can change my present by not focusing on my past. So, this year I promise myself to stay in present.

Perfection is a myth

I always tried to be perfect. No matter, what I am doing. Therefore, I had a fear that what if I am not able to do it properly? What if I will fail?

“Perfection’ is man’s ultimate illusion. It simply doesn’t exist in the universe. If you are a perfectionist, you are guaranteed to be a loser in whatever you do.”

– David D. Burns

This year I decided to let go of my perfection and always try my best as I can.

Let go of anger and bitterness

I am trying to love more than wasting my time hating someone. I don’t want to spread negativity.

“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.”

-Joan Lunden

Anger does not just destroy you as a person, but it will also affect the people around you. To get control over my anger, I have started doing yoga and meditation. It’s helping me a lot to stay calm in any difficult situation.

This year I am letting go of all the frustration that I have with myself and my life. I am changing my perception to give a new year a fresh start.

Judgments

I learned that if I don’t like to be judged by others. Others also don’t like to judge me. I don’t want to waste my time looking at others’ lives and making assumptions about their lives.

I don’t want to be a judgmental person anymore. I don’t have any right to decide for others. Rather than looking into others’ lives, I will start looking for my life more in 2022.

Toxic people and relationships

Toxic people are a big problem in my life. Earlier, I was too affected by the comments of these kinds of people. However, I am trying to let all the toxic people and relationships from my life.

You don’t need to waste your time and energy on people who don’t value you. You don’t have to be affected by the comments of the people who are just spreading negativity.

Make yourself free from them and start fresh.

Let go of the things that don’t matter to you anymore. I know it will be hard in the beginning, but once you will do it. You will be able to set yourself free.

Takeaway

If you want to move in your life, you have to let go to create a space for new things to happen in your life.

Letting go will bring change in your life and help you to be a better version of yourself.

I hope you enjoyed this piece.

Thanks, Yana Bostongirl for hosting this great prompt. I enjoyed writing about it.

I also want to thank Winston for creating Coffee Times.

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