5 Things Emotionally Mature People Have in Common

Scale your mind with the maturity barometer, now!

Do you believe there’s a specific age when maturity sets in? — Is it 40,50,70? It’s impossible to tell.

“Mental maturity has nothing to do with age, just as wisdom has nothing to do with knowledge.”

— writes, Nurudeen Ushawu.

Yet, the world is full of old folks acting childish and teeny-tiny children speaking maturely. That’s when you analyze maturity comes to those who seek it.

However, a few things can speed up your maturity: reading books, developing social skills, cultivating empathy, meditating, etc. But you still need a calculator to measure if you’re qualified for the “maturity club” or need more grind.

So, below are 5 signs to measure your emotional maturity score. Also, here’s a calculator for you to analyze your maturity level.

More than 3 score= Mature

Less than 3 score= Immature

-(Give yourself (1 point) with each identical habit.)

Good news: you can be in the “mature club,” but you never tested out. So, let’s begin the testing.

1. You stay professional (1 point)

No matter what happens, staying professional is the finest choice.

You name it:

While communicating
Dressing
Dining

There are countless ways where “staying professional” help you. That’s because when you act professional, you no longer sound “illiterate” or “negative.”

Suppose:

Question: You received a colleague’s text and had to cancel the plan.

Answer: So instead of texting a big paragraph, you apologize and promise to come next time.

E.g., “Hi John. I’m sorry I can’t make it today. I apologize for the inconvenience. Hence I promise we’ll make a new plan sooner.”

This text provides: problem+ pardon+ solution.

How to apply?

If you feel professional writing is (hard), follow this simple method:

Remove extra words from your text — write concisely.

So when you’re emailing a colleague or an employee, use shorter words with impacted reach. Apply the same method when you dress up and eat. Less fancy.

Stephanie Coughlan, Founder of Image Intelligence advice: You can apply professionalism in your attire by wearing “neutral colors.”

For dining etiquettes, you can grab a few feasts and not fill up the whole plate. Adding extra (too early) only adds to waste.

The next thing you’ll know, professionalism has become a part of your life, and it’s no more a phobia.

2. Having humility and laughing at yourself (1 point)

Vivian Manning-Schaffel, a Journalist, writes:

The ability to laugh at yourself is not only a healthy attitude — it’s a healthy attribute.

Laugh so hard that even the people who hate you can’t stop chuckling with you. True.

Did you:

Fall? Slip?
Forgot?
Said something wrong?

Instead of holding onto your ego, just laugh. And say: “I apologize I’m not in my senses right now since I was short on Coffee today.”

This way, you become innocent and show people your (innocent) human side. You don’t have to be rigid. Laugh at yourself before anybody does. Clear the air!

How to apply?

We live in difficult situations where we don’t know the right approach.

Laugh or chuckle?

Blow up the air using your smile and a short statement referring to your action. Charlamagne Tha God reminds us: manners will take you where money won’t

The same applies to smiles. So, be kind and humble if you’re an employer or an employee. Address your responsibilities while being courteous and charismatic.

Over the years, I never knew how “a simple laugh” could pull me out of complex situations. But since I know it now, I’m relieved and carefree, every time of the day.

3. You enjoy each season (1 point)

The 4 weather seasons are: winter, summer, spring, and autumn.

But we forgot the other seasons:

Other seasons: rich, poor, bankrupt, soon to be rich, under the roof, mortgage.

I feel the above seasons make our hands tied. Of course, why wouldn’t they? Every day is not the same.

Sometimes, we’re poor, occasionally rich — and so much more. The cherry on top is when you’ve started a new business and what tomorrow will bring. According to 2022 stats, our financial conditions change more often than we usually think.

But one thing is for sure. Each day, you’re close to a new season. If you’re low on money, believe it will not be the same forever.

Therefore, money will return. Time won’t.

A mature person realizes that if they’re short on money, it’s not a good idea to torment. It’s not a good idea to yak with your friends and family, either. Difficult times can happen to anyone. It’s a good thing you’re getting away with it earlier.

Financial seasons come and go. Don’t let a situation make you regret your whole life.

How to apply?

First,

you need to accept that every day is a blessing.

Remember that you’re here to do something. You’re here to get name and fame. Are you afraid of one single day? (Damn!)

You’re better than this!

Don’t let short-term problems affect your long-term mental health. If you feel things are overwhelming, try to detach from problems and return to them later.

If you feel you have many problems, start solving them calmly—one step at a time.

Sit in silence and re-think.
You know your *flaws & traits* better than anyone else.

4. You appreciate little efforts (1 point)

Another word for this tip is: stop expecting.

When you expect from people, you’ll get hurt. Even, though humans can’t fulfill their own imaginations, let alone other people. For example, when you make food while looking at a recipe from Instagram, is the outcome the same?

Answer: no.

So how can you expect someone to do what’s in your mind?

Answer: you cannot.

So the ultimate solution is to appreciate the little efforts of people. Whatever they do, even if it’s not enough, appreciate it. Remember, it’s a big deal that they made you an effort in the first place.

You and I both know (people) who’d gladly reject doing anything. True.

So, if someone is doing something — better to be gratified and happy. Appreciate their small-ish efforts before you’ve no one standing up for you. Really!

Don’t be the person who appreciates it (too late.)

How to apply?

If appreciating is unfamiliar to you, follow these simple steps:

Comprehend their efforts
Accept and acknowledge them
Say thanks to them
Tell you “owe them.”
Repeat thanks until they tell you to “stop.’

The world is getting a hot big messy zone — spread positivity wherever possible.

I am a perfectionist, and I know I never like someone else’s work. So I always construct 2 options for myself:

Do the work myself, or
Let someone do it and stay quiet.

Remember that you can never do *both* things at one time. You can never sit in two ships at once. It’s got-cha hurt you then.

It’s impossible. If you try to ride on two ships at one, you’ll be left with nothing in the end.

5. You stay positive (1 point)

Many of us utter negative unconsciously.

When I was 15, an incident occurred to me:

I was walking back and forth inside the house to pet my dog. That’s when I heard a relative talking nonsense about me. She was saying about my body weight and how it’s a thing now. Girls with small belly and big hips. She accused me of being one of them.

The real reason: I am a writer and a lawful reader, so I sit most of the time. Although I do cardio and some exercise, I don’t know what part of my body it affects. I don’t know.

I felt so bad that day — I am not that person she described sitting in my house.

It was then that I became aware our negative judgments often come from a lack of knowledge. Can you give someone the benefit of the doubt and just stay positive? I often ask myself before I go along and say negative about something.

Remember: words are not taken back.

The tongue is a slice of soft meat, but it has no bones. Hence deadlier than any area of your body.

How to apply?

Speaking positively has a few benefits:

You never fear getting caught
You don’t have to remember what you said
One lie won’t lead to another

Most of the time, when we say negative, we say some more lies to conceal it. Since the invention of the cam recorder and audio recorder, things have been complicated.

Anyone can record you. Now that they have proof, you’re a “sociopath if you still lie.”

Mostly, when you lie, you have to remember what the other person has said to you, so if they stab you at the back, you take them down with you.

Huh! stop that nonsense!

Just speak positively. Speak outright that people would give verdicts for you.

Build connections. Don’t ruin it.

For the sake of salty gossip, don’t engulf the best people of your life. Don’t.

Feel free to share your maturity score in the comments — keep it honest.