5 Signs That Tell You That Your Partner Is A Keeper

Tips to have a healthy relationship

I don’t know about you but finding a life partner is difficult, hard work, and sometimes stressful. If you somehow land someone based on physical attraction, it shouldn’t be the only criteria you look for. In fact, if you are not careful, your partner could be your worst nightmare, both financially and emotionally.

Consider these frightening statistics:1 in 5 women in the US experienced completed or attempted rape in their lifetime; nearly one-quarter of men experienced some form of sexual violence in their lifetime. Being picky about choosing your partner is good, and in fact, it could save your life.

I didn’t have the benefit of a good friend to tell me that the man I saw years ago was bad news.

It took me some years of soul searching, prayers and faith before I was able to find someone compatible.

What if you think you found the right person? What are the signs? I have done some research to expand your knowledge to help you out in matters of the heart.

1. You are relaxed and comfortable around your partner. Researchers also point out that couples who stay together often refer to each other as a unit, and say “we” instead of “I” more often. Couples also express joy about overcoming issues and don’t dwell on issues.

My husband almost always checks on me before he makes plans. Yes, I do hear him say “we” a lot when he is talking to his friends. But that’s not the only criteria to figure out if you got the right person.

2. You and your partner share in household duties.

Who's going to take out the garbage and other domestic things? Things related to the household should be discussed before tying the knot or joining the household. Is your mother-in-law going to stay with you? Will you be expected to do all the cooking and housework? Chore division can lead to issues in marriage if it is not equitable, according to a study.

Thankfully, my husband and I share in cooking duties. However, I know some households where the woman or man does the cooking because he or she loves it.

3. Compatible financial values. If he is a gambler and you are not, it may cause obvious stress in the relationship. I once knew a coworker who used his lunch break to gamble in the nearby casino. He was engaged to be married, and I don’t know if she called off the engagement.

Fights over finances are the top reason why people go to marriage counseling and others seek a divorce, according to a study. The frequency of the disagreements is a big thing. Couples who fight once a week were 30 percent more likely to head to divorce court.

We don’t have money issues but in the past, I stayed in relationships that were miserable because my partner misspent or was financially inept.

4. Trust. This is important in my book. If you don’t trust your hubby or wife to be, what’s the use of being together?

Do you sweat when your partner says he is going to the gym but makes a deter somewhere else? Does your partner answer phone calls in the next room?

Infidelity is a big issue in lots of relationships and it’s also a reason some couples split for good. It’s not just cheating other types of infidelity include porn addiction, and alcohol or drug abuse which leads to emotional disconnection from your partner.

Trust allows us to be vulnerable and open with our partner. When you lose that trust, nothing is the same. When I was with my ex-partner, he made me lose his trust when he openly sought out new galpals without my permission.

5. Your partner is respectful. What’s important to note is that strong relationships thrive on mutual respect and understanding.

Watch out if your partner or person you are dating is emotionally abusive, threatening, or controlling. A good partner does not criticize constantly, try to change how you look and dress, or embarrass you in front of others.

My ex-partner tried to control me by criticizing how I looked and changing my hairstyle before we went out to a dinner ceremony. It was pathetic how I allowed this.

If you see yourself in an abusive or controlling relationship that may threaten you or your family’s lives, get help now. Call your emergency services number (911 in the US and Canada) and look out for yourself.

I might add: make yourself invisible on the Internet by deleting all social media profiles and by changing your phone numbers. Run, don’t walk away.

These are just a few things I put together to describe a strong and healthy relationship. Keep in mind that no marriage is perfect and we bicker like regular couples. Still, there is a limit to conflict. If you feel that you are in an unhealthy relationship, it may be time to evaluate your marriage, and if necessary, you may need to consult with a professional.

If you want to explore healthy relationships more in-depth, I recommend buying a relationship book on Amazon. This book called, “The Relationship Handbook: A Simple Guide To Satisfying Relationships,” has some good reviews.

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