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eve.They will pretend to be interested or even go so far as to date a Black woman to test this unfounded hypothesis. What they don’t realize is that doing so is hurtful and degrading to Black women because it objectifies us in the vilest of ways. We become just an object to be used for sexual gratification.Sometimes white men hide their game well and lead us to actually believe that they are genuinely attracted to us for our personalities. It’s always shocking to find out that it was their curiosity about sex with a Black woman that was their underlying motivation all along.“You’ve got big buttocks, there is so much you can do with them.” Here is yet again another comment rife with sexual undertones.White men assume that they are making us a compliment when they say this. Again, this type of comment objectifies Black women and is in essence, degrading.Sometimes I wonder how they would feel if I made a similar comment about their genitalia or if I objectified them in a similar way?“How much will it cost to have sex with you?” Openly propositioning Black women is something that white men often do. It may be shocking to you, but yes, it happens.What I personally find hurtful about this, is the fact that white men assume that Black women were put on earth to pleasure them. History is fraught with examples of how Black women were sexually coerced to pleasure the white man, whether it be on slave plantations or during colonialism. The fact that some assume they can still harass us to satisfy their urges is unacceptable.I often wonder if white men would dare proposition white women in the same way.“I haven’t tried a Black woman yet” Again another comment that Black and other minority women hear often from white men. I’ve never

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understood why a human being will refer to other human beings as something to try. Black and brown women aren’t flavors that one can try out in an ice cream parlor!When one takes a closer look at this, one realizes that white male privilege also plays into this, because the white man assumes that he is entitled to try all the ethnic women in the world, there is nothing wrong with this.Even more disturbing is that he feels it is normal to advertise that he is on a quest to try them all.Black women face microaggressions because of the color of their skin, but we also encounter sexual microaggressions as well. The latter sometimes leads to situations where we become victims of sexual harassment and more often than not, the power dynamics in these settings are not in our favor. Many of my Black female friends and colleagues have had to leave their jobs due to these situations.As mentioned at the start of the article, being a Black woman in a predominantly white society can be really challenging and one has to be strong mentally to deal with both racism and sexism. Most fathers of Black and brown girls that I have engaged with within the context of my antiracism work worry that their children will face these difficult situations at some point or other in their lives.This is why it is important to integrate both antiracism and anti-sexism education in order to make sure we are inclusive of the realities that Black women face.White supremacy has built layers of inequality into society over centuries and Black women have found themselves at the bottom of that artificial man-made racial hierarchy. The only way that this will change is through education. Because, for as long as Black women are not free, none of us will be free.Thank you for reading my perspective.</article></body>

5 Sexual Microaggressions White Men Say To Black Women

Being a Black woman in a predominantly white country isn’t easy. Due to the intersectionalities of gender and race, one can face either racism or sexism, or both at the same time. On top of that is the obscene sexual curiosity that white men have when it comes to Black women. It plays out in a number of ways — almost always humiliating for the woman who is subject to them.

Below are 5 types of sexual microaggressions that Black women hear from white men. Unfortunately, I have heard them all too:

“You have big lips, I can’t stop thinking about what they can do”. The sexual connotation behind this comment is painfully clear. Sadly, the first time I heard this, I was only twelve. I didn’t quite understand why the elderly white man on the bus was salivating while looking at my lips.

As I grew older, I began to understand what it meant and it made me feel very self-conscious. At one point, I started biting in my lips to make them look smaller. I also even didn’t wear lipstick for the longest time in order to not attract attention to my lips.

Today, these comments don’t get to me anymore, but if you’re a white father, how would you feel if someone said this to your daughter?

“I hear that Black women have large sexual appetites.” The false idea that Black women have voracious sexual appetites is yet another stubborn-to-erase racially charged stereotype that white men actually believe.

They will pretend to be interested or even go so far as to date a Black woman to test this unfounded hypothesis. What they don’t realize is that doing so is hurtful and degrading to Black women because it objectifies us in the vilest of ways. We become just an object to be used for sexual gratification.

Sometimes white men hide their game well and lead us to actually believe that they are genuinely attracted to us for our personalities. It’s always shocking to find out that it was their curiosity about sex with a Black woman that was their underlying motivation all along.

“You’ve got big buttocks, there is so much you can do with them.” Here is yet again another comment rife with sexual undertones.

White men assume that they are making us a compliment when they say this. Again, this type of comment objectifies Black women and is in essence, degrading.

Sometimes I wonder how they would feel if I made a similar comment about their genitalia or if I objectified them in a similar way?

“How much will it cost to have sex with you?” Openly propositioning Black women is something that white men often do. It may be shocking to you, but yes, it happens.

What I personally find hurtful about this, is the fact that white men assume that Black women were put on earth to pleasure them. History is fraught with examples of how Black women were sexually coerced to pleasure the white man, whether it be on slave plantations or during colonialism. The fact that some assume they can still harass us to satisfy their urges is unacceptable.

I often wonder if white men would dare proposition white women in the same way.

“I haven’t tried a Black woman yet” Again another comment that Black and other minority women hear often from white men. I’ve never understood why a human being will refer to other human beings as something to try. Black and brown women aren’t flavors that one can try out in an ice cream parlor!

When one takes a closer look at this, one realizes that white male privilege also plays into this, because the white man assumes that he is entitled to try all the ethnic women in the world, there is nothing wrong with this.

Even more disturbing is that he feels it is normal to advertise that he is on a quest to try them all.

Black women face microaggressions because of the color of their skin, but we also encounter sexual microaggressions as well. The latter sometimes leads to situations where we become victims of sexual harassment and more often than not, the power dynamics in these settings are not in our favor. Many of my Black female friends and colleagues have had to leave their jobs due to these situations.

As mentioned at the start of the article, being a Black woman in a predominantly white society can be really challenging and one has to be strong mentally to deal with both racism and sexism. Most fathers of Black and brown girls that I have engaged with within the context of my antiracism work worry that their children will face these difficult situations at some point or other in their lives.

This is why it is important to integrate both antiracism and anti-sexism education in order to make sure we are inclusive of the realities that Black women face.

White supremacy has built layers of inequality into society over centuries and Black women have found themselves at the bottom of that artificial man-made racial hierarchy. The only way that this will change is through education. Because, for as long as Black women are not free, none of us will be free.

Thank you for reading my perspective.