5 Reasons Why the Advice “Don’t give up on your dreams” Is Bullshit
Giving up can feel like you just had a really nice shit in the morning.
Dreams are overrated. People act as if not having a dream is the end of the world, and they deemed those who chose not to pursue or to give up on their dreams as cowards.
The truth is, not every dream should be fulfilled. It’s better if it stayed as a dream.
1. Giving up doesn’t mean misery.
When you give up on your dreams, your story will not be permanently paused like when you can’t complete a mission on RPG games. You won’t be a ghost similar to when you die in Among Us either, forced to look at others proceeding their lives while you’re just floating around unable to do anything.
But, you’ll feel like you just had a really nice shit in the morning.
You don’t have to think about how to achieve it anymore, you don’t have to feel envious of those who are in front of you, and you can find a better-suited dream for you.
It’s liberating.
Because now, instead of breaking and analyzing the nitty-gritty of a restaurant, you can enjoy the whole eating experience.
2. Dreams can come back.
When you give up on your dreams, it doesn’t mean that your dreams are dead forever. Sometimes, it’s like that ex in movies or novels that comes back into the main character’s life because they’re meant to be.
I wrote fiction about tooth fairies when I was four, locked it in a folder of the old, thick computer we used to have because I wanted to be a writer.
I didn’t know why, but I gave it up.
I was in elementary when I wanted to be a writer again. I picked up my pen and wrote poems about rainbows and colors. I even won a speech contest a year after, but I gave it up once more.
Now, here I am. Wanting to be a writer again and actually trying to pursue it. I don’t want to jinx it, but hey, maybe I’m meant to be one.
3. Our dreams can be too big.
People say, “Dream big, nothing is impossible.” — well, hear me out.
Three years ago, at seventeen, I had a dream of mastering how to make all kinds of French bread and desserts, I would then open a business back at home, make it big somehow, and the whole country would suddenly know that my business is the go-to place in the area. I would then branch out to other cities and eventually to neighboring countries.
It seems like a feasible dream at a glance. Yea, right.
Reality is, people in my country only eat desserts when they feel like it or during special occasions, and it’s won’t be cake (the way we call all unknown desserts). It will be something local, ice cream, or gelato, which is Italian.
As for bread, no one really cares if it’s French or not. They want something affordable, and when you put French in front of any product here, it won’t be cheap.
The business doesn’t have the potential to go big because my country’s culture is not similar to France. People would rather eat banana fritters than a cake or a fancy-ass dessert.
4. Dreams are ideas, not realities.
I wanted to befriend this one girl a few years back because she seems smart, has a fun personality, pretty and fit. It never happened, and we only became acquaintances.
It turned out that I was right about the pretty and fit, but not the other two. She was a habitual liar.
Similar to that, living dreams seem beautiful. But when you’re trying to achieve it or when you’ve already achieved it, it can be a different story. That’s why you see so many celebrities fulfilling their dreams, and yet, they still fall into a pit of misery.
5. You can become a slave of your dreams.
The process of reaching your dreams won’t be easy. Most of the time, it will be a slow burn, but it shouldn't be tormenting you.
Your wheel of life should still be in your hands and not be taken over by your dream.
However, sometimes it happens, and it’s better to give your dream up to save yourself from the misery of forcing yourself to follow your dreams because it won’t be pretty.
Final Thoughts
We live in a world that glorifies dreams and the act of pursuing them too much. We emphasize on how fulfilling our dreams will make us happy. But sometimes, doing the exact opposite will bring us the same result.
Giving up doesn’t always mean that you’re a coward. Giving up is a bold move, and you should be proud of knowing when to give up.
