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5 Reasons Why I Dislike Talking To You
No, not you….
This article is based on real-life experiences with people whom I absolutely dislike having conversations with. For me, these conversations are often frustrating and annoying. Who knows, maybe I fall into one of these categories myself, but hopefully not!
- Poor communication skills — You love interrupting others during conversations instead of engaging in a two-way dialogue. You frequently change the topic and never truly listen, as if you are more interested in hearing the sound of your own voice than having an actual conversation. Even when you are not interrupting, you simply wait for the other person to stop talking so that you can jump in with your own thoughts. You also never acknowledge what the other person has said, but rather launch into your own story or opinion when it is your turn to speak. I have written about this in a previous article / story. Will include the link at the end of this post in case some of you haven’t read it before.
- Disrespectfulness — You do not respond at all when someone talks to you. Sometimes, you do not even pretend to listen as you engage in other activities such as playing with your phone, while the other person is in the midst of talking. When you are called out for your lack of attentiveness, you either feign interest while letting your mind zone out completely or you offer occasional nods, the latter being completely rude and belittling. On the rare occasion that you do listen, you fail to provide any response, leaving the other person to wonder if you have even heard a single word. When confronted about your lack of interest towards the conversation, you often become defensive and repeat the words back to them irritably, as if being asked to pay attention is a personal insult. This attitude of indifference is really annoying because you act as if your time and attention are too valuable to be wasted on even acknowledging what has been said to you.
- Arrogance — You have an insatiable desire to act as a know-it-all in conversations. You rarely consider alternative perspectives or opinions and instead opt to argue relentlessly just for the sake of arguing. You have a tendency to one-up others by showing off your knowledge, even going so far as to challenge them on facts you yourself are not sure of. If someone has a different opinion, you automatically turn the conversation into a debate, in which you resort to Google search right there and then in order to “win” the argument. Your favourite phrase is “See! I told you so. I’m right!” Most of the time, you prefer to have a lecture-style conversation where you hold the floor and expect others to listen without interruption. If anyone asks a question or requests for clarification, you often respond with irritation and dismissiveness, insisting that you finish your monologue before any discussion or question is allowed.
- Boastfulness — Your every word is laden with self-praise or humble bragging. You have great confidence in your own superiority and feel the need to share that with every person you talk to. You dominate every conversation by steering it towards your own accomplishments and success even when the topic has nothing to do with you at all. Every time you open your mouth, you take full advantage to boast about your accomplishments. When you are complimented, you dismiss the praise with a thinly-veiled humble brag, while taking the opportunity to recount each and every one of your achievements. Your favourite activity on any given day is self-promotion.
- Toxic behaviour — You are always complaining or talking negatively about someone else. Your perpetual dissatisfaction with nearly everything and everyone speaks volumes about your inherent negativity. You have a special talent in playing the victim in every situation by constantly harping on the perceived wrongs done to you. In your mind, everyone is out to get you. Talking to you feels like walking on eggshells as overreaction seems to be your mantra in life. You tend to get very angry whenever someone disagrees with you or has a different opinion from yours. On one hand you are overly sensitive, but on the other hand, you have no problem gossiping and bullying others. Even when you do not know a person well, you seem to have no trouble finding a way to talk bad about them. You love to find fault in others and are especially thrilled if you can use their weaknesses to your advantage. You also enjoy keeping track of their perceived wrongdoings so that you can gossip about them repeatedly to others. Your life seems so miserable that the only satisfaction you get is from bringing other people down.
So, there you have it. Let me know in the comments if this article resonates with you. Is there someone in your life that you absolutely dislike talking to?
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