5 Nearly Undetectable Clues That Your Partner Is Madly In Love

They think you are a keeper if they exhibit these behaviors.

Love is a complex whirlwind sometimes. No matter how intelligent you are or how cool you look … we all get a pang of self-doubt on occasion. And yes we all know we should be mature and talk about our insecurities but blah blah blah… Have you ever been the one doing the reassuring when someone you are dating is not totally sure of themselves?

Sure, it is tolerable and sometimes even admirable to discuss this “emo” stuff a couple of times. Just do not make it a constant thing. NOBODY wants to have a deep, emotional talk that addresses fears and relationship issues every single day. That is just called nagging. So before you sit your husband or wife down for another talk about feelings consult with this short checklist first.

There is a good chance your sweetheart is utterly into you if they exhibit any of these five subtle, tell-tale signs of devotion.

1. He or she remembers your favorite snacks and drinks.

Does your other half come home with his or her own favorite pizza and offer you a slice? That is polite and acceptable, to be fair. You would be surprised how many people bring home food and eat it in front of their family or housemates without even thinking to ask if anyone else is hungry. So, if your boyfriend or girlfriend is at least offering something that is a step in the right direction. What we are REALLY looking for here is the one that does more than just include you in the meal. When someone is head-over-heels they have noticed what makes you happy and satisfied and they try to provide it. They will get your specific tastes usually. Perhaps a pizza that has one half with your usual toppings, and the other half will have theirs. Plus a lemonade mixed with iced tea. You get the idea. They know you and they want to give you what you prefer to have.

2. He or she places a hand over yours when your touch them

When you touch your lover's hair or face how do they physically respond? When someone cherishes the one they have they will often place a hand on top of yours when you touch them on the face, arm, or shoulders. It is a subtle but reliable way to gauge your partner. A warm and receptive hand over yours signifies they are taking in the offered affection, and appreciating the attention.

A group of doctors found physical touch that mimics a partner, such as placing one’s hand over their partner over the dinner table or in a similar setting is a sign of confidence and acceptance. Such affections have been interpreted as a non-verbal clue that the person has a supportive intention rather than a purely sexual goal. In other words — if your partner places a hand over yours at any time it should be considered an act of devotion manifesting in a measurable, physical way. It means he or she is likely to be falling in love.

Jakubiak BK and Feeney BC. conducted a series of studies as seen in Affectionate Touch to Promote Relational, Psychological, and Physical Well-Being in Adulthood. They assert that adult recipients of physical affection are better off than those who ignore their instinct and desires to reach out to someone in a romantic way. They further assert that signs of such readiness for devotion start with gestures of love shown with hands in non-sexual ways with their love interest.

“Affectionate touch receipt promotes relational, psychological, and physical well-being in adulthood and is a hint of intended devotion.” Feeny CC in Affectionate Touch to Promote Relational, Psychological, and Physical Well-Being in Adulthood.

3. Your partner gets angry when you cry.

This particular clue used to baffle me. I thought a man had to be cruel and heartless to become more irritated from the tears of his woman. It used to make small fights much worse in my personal love relationships. I simply did not understand how my tears could cause a reaction such as anger and even rage in my love. It was at times devastating to feel such a negative response to my apparent unhappy mood. Something changed in my viewpoint recently. The aggressive tone a love partner takes when they see their partner crying doesn’t always mean there is a relationship problem. After many years it finally became clear what is happening when tears cause my partner to go bonkers. He wants to fix the things that are broken in my life. He wants to solve problems for me. When he sees tears that means he has not solved my most pressing problem, and it makes him lose his mind a little.

Even though that sounds like caveman shit, the sentiment is sincere and even endearing. It seems all that caveman rage stems from a place of sweet, genuine love. So if you find yourselves in a squabble and the reaction to tears is all wrong and rude … imagine that your partner may be experiencing discomfort because their main instinct is to keep you happy — so tears might feel like a failure to them. Try to see it that way and watch the beast turn back into your loving protector.

4. He or she playfully holds your hand and tugs you back when you try to walk away. This little act of love is saying big things. It says “No don’t stop yet.” and “More please.” But even more importantly, your partner is conveying the fact that they are comfortable enough with you to show you, in their way that you are needed. It takes guts to yank someone back for one more kiss. Reward them with two. Showing need is a huge love signal.

5. Your partner will not let you say bad things about yourself. If your significant other gets defensive when you insult yourself in the mirror — this is a sign that they cherish you and won't stand around and let people be mean to you. Even if it is you dishing out the dis. Next time you say you're having a bad hair day — if your lover says something snarky like “Don’t talk about my girl that way.” It is a signal that they are feeling protective and that they see more than what is physical. It is sweet when someone stands up for you to your own inner critic.

What to take from all this:

Devoted but subtle is ok. Let yourself breathe before engaging in another emotional discussion.

If you are wondering if your lover is in it for the long haul- you don’t have to sit him down and ask a bunch of feely-grabby questions every time. Instead of repeating the nagging cycle just think about your lover’s subtle behaviors. You can read the signs being sent through actions much easier than constantly bombarding them with your feelings. Pay attention to their signals and don’t forget to enjoy the ride.