5 Easy Ways To Flex Your Sexual Strengths

How to maximize sexual advantages and minimize disadvantages.

When it comes to sex, everyone arrives at the party with their own special set of skills.

Just like in every other area of life, we all have strengths and weaknesses. Our body size, body shape, skills, attractiveness, effort, and life experience get plugged into the equation.

Because sex is basically math. We all know that. 😉

During sex, there are ways to maximize your sexual strengths and minimize any weaknesses. This article is about five ways to flex your sexual strengths.

Strong & Muscular (Do You Lift, Bro?)

Being strong and muscular can be an asset in many areas of life, but it can also make it difficult to be intimate with a partner. The key is to be aware of your own strength and to use it in a way that is gentle and loving.

A great way to maximize being strong is to flex your strength in the bedroom.

In short, do things that non-strong people can’t do.

For example, you can carry your partner into the bedroom. You can pick them up and lean them against the wall. You can hold them into all sorts of unique sexual positions.

And you can hold yourself up, as well.

Positions where you stand or move around give you a chance to show off those muscular delts, traps, and quads.

Showing off your muscles is all about confidence.

First, make sure that your posture is good. Stand with your back straight and with your shoulders pulled back and your chest out.

This will not only make you look more muscular but can also help you appear taller and more self-assured.

Second, avoid wearing loose-fitting clothing. Baggy clothes can make you look smaller and weaker. Instead, opt for form-fitting clothing that shows off your physique.

And finally, don’t be afraid to flex. If you’ve got the muscles, flaunt them.

Flexible Like a Bavarian Pretzel

Though we often think of physical fitness in terms of strength and endurance, flexibility is just as important for overall health.

Not only does it help to prevent injuries, but it also allows us to move through the world with ease. For instance, if you’re physically flexible, you can be more intimate with your partner without feeling awkward or uncomfortable.

Here are a few ways to use physical flexibility and intimacy to your advantage.

Use physical flexibility to spice up your sex life. If you can contort your body into different positions, you and your partner can explore new sexual positions that you may not have been able to try before.

This can lead to more pleasurable and satisfying sex for both of you.

Again, it’s about doing things with your body and with your partner that other people can’t do.

Don’t be afraid to incorporate yoga moves into your repertoire. Experiment with a little tantric sex to really highlight your flexibility.

One way to show off your flexibility is to do the splits.

Start by warming up your muscles with some light stretching. Place your feet so that they are positioned at about a 90-degree angle to each other, slightly wider than shoulder-width apart. This will provide stability as well give you more room for movement in any direction without feeling cramped or awkward."Slowly lower your body down towards the floor, keeping your legs straight.

Once you reach the floor, hold the position for a while before slowly returning to a sitting or standing.

You can also try other deep split stretches during sex, such as the “sitting” or “upward” stretch.

You can also try a backbend position.

Start by standing with your feet about shoulder or hip-width apart and your arms at your sides. Then, bend backward from the waist, reaching your arms overhead as you arch your back.

If you can’t touch the floor, don’t worry — just go as far as you can.

Hold the position for a few deep breaths while giving your partner a kiss or oral sex before slowly coming back up to standing.

With regular practice, you’ll be able to show off your amazing flexibility in no time.

Champion Mouth (What That Mouth Do?)

If you have a mouth like a Hoover or a golden tongue, you’ll want to prioritize your sexual strength in the bedroom.

You want your championship mouth to shine.

Make sure to use your mouth in as many ways as possible during sex. Definitely invest time in pleasuring your partner orally.

Some people have mouths like vacuums which makes blowjobs incredibly enjoyable.

The same with people who can expertly control their tongues.

You probably want to move your mouth all over your partner’s body. Each time you have sex, prioritize oral activities.

That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy any other type of sex.

It just means that when you want to make the best sexual impression on another person, go heavy on oral.

Lick, suck, flick, and nibble gently where appropriate.

Large or Micro-Penis

If your penis is unusually large or unusually small, you’ll need to engage in sex differently than other people.

If you have a smaller or micropenis, you’re probably going to have to focus on positions where you can give your partner the most amount of pleasure. That can be different for different partners, so find the position and angle that works best for the two of you.

You can also spend more time on oral sex, using your fingers, and toys.

Men’s Health writers Eric Spitznagel and George Eckart call it becoming an “Obi-Wan Kenobi for vaginas.”

The writers interviewed a man named Jim with a micropenis and a happy wife, who said:

You have to become an adept at the sexual arts and a laboratory scientist of the female anatomy. You learn erogenous zones, secret lady glands, ancient Oriental techniques. As a micropenised, you have to be willing to be anything goes sexually. Leave your hang ups at the door.

I think we can all learn from Jim.

When you do practice intercourse, do so in a position that maximizes tightness and depth. For example, a guy with a smaller penis can stand or kneel behind a female with her legs tightly close together.

A woman can also climb on top and grind around on a micropenis.

A man with a very large penis should also use caution during sex. You don’t want to hurt your partner. You may have to do the opposite of what someone with a smaller penis might do.

In other words, you might have to use positions that maximize shallow penetration and wider, or less tight, penetration.

Use lots of lube, go slow, and try positions that maximize pleasure and minimize pain. Different partners will enjoy different amounts of depth and girth stuffed inside of them.

If you want to minimize depth, try the reverse cowgirl position or have your partner straddle you while you’re sitting upright.

If you want to maximize deep penetration, it’s hard to go wrong with classics.

Classics such as missionary and doggy style.

Super Willingness (Why, Hello, My Little Unicorn)

Being willing is not only a strength, it’s a superpower.

It requires courage to show vulnerability and to let someone in. When we are open and willing, we are present in the moment and focused on the other person.

We are not thinking about our own needs or what we want from the situation. Instead, we are focused on giving ourselves fully to the other person. This can be a strength in physical intimacy because it allows us to give and receive pleasure without any expectations or ulterior motives.

We can simply enjoy the moment for what it is and let ourselves be completely absorbed in the experience.

When we are willing to let go of our inhibitions, we open up the possibility of a deeply satisfying and fulfilling experience.

The key to maximizing the strength of willingness is to explore boundaries.

Let your partner know that you are down for anything. Then prove it to them by doing something that many other people won’t do. It could be anal sex or swallowing.

You can also ask, “What have you always wanted to do?”

Reassure your partner that nothing is off-limits and that you won’t judge them regardless of what they want.

Your partner may still be reluctant at first.

In this case, continue to slowly “up the ante” by demonstrating what you are willing to do. Ask them if they would like you to perform rimming on them, invite another person into the mix, or make a video.

Don’t go too fast, as this can frighten some partners.

Take things slowly by revealing all of the fun possibilities for your sex life.

Final Thoughts

There are other strengths, too, such as how well you talk, dress up, or take risks. The first step is to identify your strengths. The second is to brainstorm as many ways as possible to highlight your strength between the sheets.

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