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The article "5 Badass Reasons to Travel Solo" emphasizes the empowering and transformative experiences gained through solo travel, particularly for personal growth, independence, and self-discovery.

Abstract

The author of "5 Badass Reasons to Travel Solo" shares insights from over two and a half years of solo travel across various countries, highlighting the profound impact it has on one's self-esteem and competence. Solo travel is presented as a journey of self-reliance, where individuals learn to navigate unfamiliar environments, make decisions independently, and overcome challenges that enhance their street smarts. The autonomy of solo travel allows for personalized experiences, free from compromises, and encourages meeting new people and forming friendships. Additionally, the article underscores the value of solitude, providing time for reflection and enjoying one's own company. The author concludes by inviting readers to embrace the liberating and educational aspects of solo travel.

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  • The author believes that solo travel is an effective way to challenge and overcome self-doubt, proving to oneself that perceived limitations can be surpassed.
  • Solo travel is seen as an opportunity for complete autonomy, allowing travelers to tailor their experiences to their preferences and budget without having to compromise.
  • The article suggests that solo travelers develop heightened street smarts due to the necessity of being more aware of their surroundings and making safe choices.
  • The author posits that solo travelers are more approachable and likely to meet a wider array of people compared to traveling in pairs or groups.
  • The author values the alone time that comes with solo travel, viewing it as a chance for self-reflection and enjoying personal interests without distraction.
  • The author encourages readers to consider solo travel as a means of personal growth and to not be deterred by fears or the unknown.

Travel. Female solo travel. Personal Growth.

5 Badass Reasons to Travel Solo

Lessons learned from two and a half years of solo travel

Couples having their photo taken in this heart and I step in “I love me” (Photo credit to the author)

Intro

Traveling solo I didn’t necessarily set out to “find myself” but rather to find out just what I could do if I put my mind to it. And it turns out that what you can do when you travel solo is pretty badass.

I spent over two and a half years backpacking India, Myanmar, Singapore, Indonesia, and Australia. I met incredible people and wildlife alike, made numerous mistakes and triumphs in equal measure, and even encountered the odd near-death experience.

I’m here to tell you why solo travel is the coolest and why you should jump right in.

1. You will find out that you are more competent than you think you are

I’d always suffered from low self-esteem and underestimated myself. There are certain things that I thought that I was bad at and couldn’t do, so I resigned myself to not doing them. I thought that I was bad at languages, directions, haggling, talking to people, and figuring out local transport. Those things, I let my friends or my ex do while I shrank into the background.

But, like anything, it only takes practice, and if you don’t do something, of course, you’re not going to get any better at it.

Traveling solo, you can’t be dependent on other people. You have to depend on yourself. You will realize that these things aren’t as big or scary as you’d built them up to be in your head.

You will find that not only can you do them, but often you can do them well. You’ll surprise yourself by quickly navigating to the hotel, buying tickets, and ordering dinner in Spanish. You’ll see out how to get places at a crowded Indian bus station.

You’ll chat to tour guides and ask all the questions that you need. You’ll haggle the price of that beach throw down at the market. Then you’ll smile at yourself and think, “See. I can do it.” It will push you to do things that you thought you couldn’t do. You will become completely independent and self-reliant.

2. Autonomy — do whatever you want, whenever you want.

Ariel yoga in Canggu and cooking course in Ubud, Bali (Photo credit to the author)

I can not stress what a wonderful and liberating thing this is! You don’t need to compromise with anyone. No-one. You are free to do as you please. The first time I went to Bali, we stayed in Kuta. It was not my personal choice of place, but my ex wanted to go surfing. I tried surfing, and I was happy to try it, but it’s not for me, as it turns out.

I was stuck then in a part of the island I didn’t like, doing an activity I didn’t like either. When I went back to Bali on my own, I stayed in Canggu, a much more chill, boho vibe that’s more me. I made the holiday into a personalized yoga retreat. I enjoyed lots of yoga classes, massages, shopping at little markets, long walks, a wonderful trip to Ubud, and a glorious cooking course. It was nice to be selfish and to do things for me.

Traveling alone, you only have your budget to consider. You don’t have to miss out on something because your friend can’t afford it. You don’t have to be talked into doing something that you can’t afford. Same with your comfort zone. You don’t have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. You don’t have to miss out on that gondola ride because your friend is scared of heights.

Decide that you don’t like a place, no worries, you can leave early. Fall in love with somewhere, you can stay longer. The world is your oyster: yours and yours alone. Learn what it is that you want. Yes, it’s a cliché, but you will find out a lot about yourself and what makes a trip for you.

3. You will develop some serious street smarts

One of the many incredible moments traveling solo in India. Taj Mahal (Photo credit to the author)

There’s something about traveling alone that heightens your senses. You become very aware of your safety, make the right decisions, and look after yourself. You pay more attention. You listen to your gut instinct. Your Spidey senses will tingle. You will learn how to spot red flags and to sniff out bullshit because you have to.

My first solo trip was something of a baptism of fire. I backpacked India alone. Was it safe? Not always. Was it easy? No. Would I do it again? Absolutely. As a young, white, single female, there was so much to worry about. Simple things like making sure I covered up and dressed appropriately. I didn’t walk alone anywhere at night.

I did my transport during the day as much as possible. I was aware if someone was following me and had an exit strategy. I was always skeptical of trusting men who appeared to be overly friendly. I made sure I had my bearing and knew where I was and how I could get home.

This hyper-awareness wasn’t always comfortable or fun, but it helped stop me from making mistakes. Mistakes that I may have made had I been lured into a sense of false security from being with someone else.

4. You’ll meet more people

Some of the many friends I met backpacking Australia, at a bar in Newtown, Sydney (Photo credit to the author)

The first time I went away backpacking, it was with an ex-boyfriend. We met people but nowhere near as many as I met on my own on later solo travels. This is for several reasons.

Firstly, a problem when you travel as a couple is that you aren’t as approachable. People make the assumption. “Oh, they’re a couple, they want to do couple things, they want to be together, and they don’t want a third wheel.” Now sometimes that’s true.

Sometimes you might want a romantic day, but for the most part, you are already spending 24 hours a day together. You are desperate to talk to SOMEONE ELSE!

Secondly, we came as a package. You weren’t just my friend; you were also his friend. He was what you might call “A bit of a character”. I think that many people who weren’t OUR friends would have been MY friend and vice versa.

Lastly, you never have to worry about being alone; you always have company. It’s comfortable, it easy, and it’s dependable. If you don’t want to put yourself outside of your comfort zone and talk to strangers, then you don’t have to.

It’s similar when you travel with a friend or with a group. People aren’t afraid to spoil your romance, but it might still be a bit intimidating. It’s hard to interrupt people who already have a history and a connection. To fit in when they tell in-jokes, and reference stories you don’t know.

When it’s only you, you’re approachable. Sometimes people even want to take you under their wing, “Awww, that girl’s on her own. Shall we ask her if she wants to come with us?”

It’s effortless to tag along, change, or make new plans because you don’t need to check in with your partner or friend. That autonomy I talked about makes it very easy to flow and go along with new people and say yes. “Yes, I’d love to go on that day trip.” “Yes, I’d love to go with you to that museum.” “Yes, let’s all go out tonight!”

You will speak to people because you have to, you need to. You will be fun, outgoing, and confident because you can be. Before this, you may think that you can’t, but you can. You will ask if you can join that fun table’s quiz group, go on the hostel pub crawl, speak to that sweet girl at breakfast and invite people along to that day trip you’ve got planned.

You’ll become more confident and realize that you are a person that people want to be friends with. Social confidence and the ability to talk to anybody is something that you can carry with you for the rest of your life. You’ll never feel as awkward at a party again.

5. You will also have a lot of alone time to self-reflect

Gazing at Whitehaven beach at the Whitsundays (photo credit to the author)

So yes, you will make lots of new friends, but there will also be periods where you will have to spend time alone. You will learn how to be comfortable in your own company. And that’s not a bad thing. You will find out that you can go for dinner alone, savor the taste of your meal, and get lost in a book.

You can stroll around a museum or art gallery unaccompanied and take as long as you like to stare at your favorite piece. You will sit and watch the sunset by yourself and bask in your memories of your trip and your life so far.

It will feel awkward and uncomfortable at first. But one day you will relish this time. You will even start to crave it if you’re around lots of people for too long.

One of my favorite days in India was the first day I enjoyed being alone. I was in Rishikesh, and I went to the Beatle’s ashram. It’s abandoned and covered in street art. I put my headphones in and blasted my most upbeat tunes. I didn’t care what I looked like as there was nobody there to see me.

I danced and bopped around the ashram, exploring all the rooftops and honeycomb pods, climbing up ladders, and peering into empty rooms. I got used to using my tripod and timer on my camera to take photographs of myself with the art.

I laughed at some of the fails and how quick I had to try and run to beat the timer. I had a blast and a completely different experience than I would have quietly and politely wandering around with somebody else. It was reckless abandon, and I loved it.

Pretending to be series at the Beatle’s ashram in Rishikesh, India (photo credit to the author)
Running to beat the timer! Beatle’s ashram in Rishikesh, India (photo credit to the author)
Alone! Beatles Ashram, Rishikesh, India (photo credit to the author)

Final Thoughts

I hope these reasons were badass enough for you. Let me know if you can think of any more! I’m sure that you can because solo travel is as liberating as it is terrifying! It’s been the best couple of years of my life and a steep learning curve. I invite you to give it a try and to find out just what you’re capable of.

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Georgina Nelson. Traveler. Writer. Photographer. Yoga teacher.

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