5 Annoying Ways Players Manipulate Women

Players tend to breadcrumb their partners.

Your date can use breadcrumbing to keep you interested in them. Yet, the “butterflies in your stomach” feelings never leads to a relationship.

It is a manipulative strategy of toying with your emotions.

They go hot and cold on you. You can gush to friends about the fantastic experiences shared with the person. But you don’t know where you stand with this partner.

They give you enough attention to keep you around. Yet, the guy never defines the relationship status.

This article will talk about the most annoying behaviors players use to breadcrumb you. Notice them before you fall in love with someone unavailable.

Mischievous Reaching Out

This action is super hurtful. You move on from the guy, and then he reaches out to you. He has an explanation for his absence.

His reasons seem human and unavoidable. His boss called him into work. Or a friend of his was sick, and he wanted to help. The excuses cause you to reject your doubts.

If you listen to your instincts, he justifies his absence.

“Wouldn’t you volunteer to help in such situations too?”

He does not want to commit to you. But he cannot stand the idea of you being with someone else or happy without him.

Inconsistency

Lying is a tool for players. Their words are flowery and make you feel loved. They always know what to say to brighten your mood.

But their ability to follow through is low. If a guy is breadcrumbing you, his plans will often fall through. It doesn’t matter who did the planning. When the time comes, he is unavailable.

An event always makes it hard for him to show up.

A TikTok user did long distance dating for two years. The guy could never get to the airport for her to host him. Over time, their conversations fizzled out.

She became tired of his promises.

Even committed boyfriends can be players. You can meet their family and have their baby, but he might never propose.

Unexpected Contact

Some texts make you smile. These don’t.

Imagine seeing someone online, yet they don’t reply to your message until the next day.

Picture this. One day someone can’t stop texting you, and next week they pretend you don’t exist. They can’t find a second to text you back. Then, for no reason at all, they randomly have time for you again.

They never said some days or weeks are busier than others.

You do not know why it happens. And depending on how you ended the last conversation, you blame yourself. You wonder if your last text was too risky that you scared the guy off. What you don’t realize yet is that he is playing you.

He is Fifty Shades of Grey

He won’t try to plan dates or create romantic gestures.

If he does, the plans get hijacked by circumstances. The only time he is most available is when it is time for intimacy. It feels good. But there is no emotional connection after. Instead, he goes back to his hot and cold ways again.

This interaction could change your outlook on the relationship. You think. If you have sex with the guy more, he will be around more. You care more about his feeling than yours.

This sexy arrangement often backfires. The guy realizes you are using your body to keep him around. So, he makes himself only available when he wants bodily contact. Thus, you end up with the last and most annoying habit.

It’s Your Fault

When you decide to end the interactions, he blames you. When you share your insecurities, he complains about how you overthink things.

A player makes you the scapegoat. It is your fault the relationship is no longer in an excellent place. “Why did you have to bring up your feelings? Why do you want more?”

He makes you feel necessary within his life. But because of his excuses, he can’t commit. He can’t prove his feelings beyond words. This stance makes breaking up and moving on even more of a challenge.

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