4 Habits of Self-Aware People
You turn your mistakes into lessons.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ~ C.G Jung.
Being aware of yourself is a very healthy thing. It means you’re a wise human who has a big consciousness and awareness. It’s everyone who is self-aware these days.
Albert Einstein was very self-aware because he always questioned things and that’s what made him one of the smartest people.
Most of the successful people like Tony Robbins and Robert Kiyosaki are self-aware people because they are always finding ways to be aware of what they can do to improve themselves.
Self-awareness is one of the habits of being wise and there are a lot of habits of being self-aware.
Being self-aware helps you to understand your life better.
If you want to know about the habits of self-aware people, here are the 4 habits you can apply to become more self-aware.
You Practice Self-Reflection Once In A While.
Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.” ~ Margaret J. Wheatley.
You’re wise if you do this. It means you can think for yourself and have the drive to know what you have learned from your life and what you could have done better.
One of the self-reflection can be you telling yourself “I’m proud of you!” because you said no earlier on. It also means you regret hurting someone days ago and how you should have reacted better.
(It blows my mind how some people can sleep at night knowing they’ve hurt someone)
Self-reflection doesn’t come when you’re always busy. It doesn’t come when you always have plans. It comes when you spend quiet days with yourself.
Tchiki Davis, Ph.D. said, “It became clear to me that we are super busy, distracted, and therefore, seem to have a harder time with self-reflection.”
She mentioned how self-reflection comes once we start to meditate, do deep breaths, and do rhythmic breathing to quiet our thoughts.
How To Apply.
- Take days off from being busy and meditate in your room.
- Make it up to your regret by not repeating the same mistake.
- Spend more alone time with yourself and you will naturally reflect on your life.
You Turn Your Mistakes Into Lessons.
“Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.” ~ Robert T. Kiyosaki.
You don’t punish yourself for making mistakes. Maybe you did it when you were younger because you got punished for making mistakes by your parents but it doesn’t mean you should punish yourself forever.
It’s better to go easy on yourself.
Barbara Markway, Ph.D. said, “Mistakes don’t halt your momentum; they help you figure out a better path.”
She added 3 keys to handling your mistakes by saying: acknowledge your feelings, don’t label yourself as a failure, and keep your sense of humor.
Mistakes are lessons that lead you to the right path for you.
You are very grateful for making all the mistakes you did in your life because it has shaped you into the best version of yourself.
You wouldn’t become better today if you didn’t make all the mistakes and failures in your life.
You’re very aware of your own actions, words, thoughts, behavior, and attitude towards life. You’re more aware than those people who are awake but mindfully asleep.
Just ask yourself, “What could I have done better?”
Change is painful but worth it.
How To Apply.
- Find out how much you’ve grown as a person in the last ten years.
- Have a daily journal on all the valuable lessons you’ve learned.
- Look at yourself in the mirror and forgive yourself for making horrible mistakes.
You Can Handle Criticism Without Feeling Hurt.
“Sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche.
Sometimes life doesn’t give you what you want, it gives you what you need. Life teaches us important lessons through the word of people’s mouths.
I know this is a difficult habit to improve. I used to be someone who couldn’t handle constructive criticism. I would be mad but I wouldn’t be a better person today if I didn’t hear what I needed to hear.
If you’re hurt by feedback, it means it’s the truth and you can’t handle the truth, so your emotions explode. There is a difference between criticism (feedback) and judgment.
It’s okay to get feedback on how you can approach someone better, but not okay to be judged based on your character/personality.
Self-aware people are calm when they receive feedback, they put themselves in the other people’s view and understand what they are trying to teach me.
Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. said “Sometimes criticism is delivered as an attempt to give helpful feedback. A colleague at work may be trying to make you aware of a behavior that is not helpful.”
The only way to get your delusions and illusions destroyed is by being hurt by the truth. It has an interesting way of teaching us something through other people.
Always experiencing heartbreak? Maybe life is showing you that you need to fill yourself with love on the inside, to get it on the outside.
How To Apply.
- See the feedback as a learning lesson.
- Find out what life is teaching you through tough times.
- Ask questions when you receive criticism instead of quick self-defense.
You Learn Something New Every Day.
“There is no greater journey than the one that you must take to discover all of the mysteries that lie within you.” ~ Michelle Sandlin.
You learn something new whether it’s through a book or from the wisdom of someone else.
You are open-minded when it comes to hearing the different perspectives from different people without being triggered.
Nick Morgan Ph.D. said “Thinking about times you’ve been successful increases your resilience.”
If you achieved being able to walk and talk as a baby, then you can achieve anything in life, even the “difficult” ones when they really are simple ones, if you believe it that way.
You even learn by sitting down and drinking a cup of tea because you find the importance of relaxing once in a while.
As a kid, you didn’t understand how some people never ate meat and now you’re the one going plant-based as an adult.
You’re learning about yourself through experiences and facing your fears.
How To Apply.
- Read more books on personal growth.
- Open your mind when you hear people’s different opinions.
- Look back at what you’ve learned through the last ten years of your life.
Affirmations For Self-Awareness.
- I am in control of everything I do and say.
- I allow myself to be myself in all things I do.
- I accept responsibility for the results in my life.
- Every challenge I face makes me stronger and wiser.
- I am blessed with a conscious mind that knows my inner self.
Final Thoughts.
When you become self-aware, you will grow every day as a person.
When you’re not self-aware, you will be stuck in the same pattern for the rest of your life.
Change can be painful because we don’t want to look inside of ourselves and face our shadow.
We are good at finding the issue in others but it’s because we have an issue with ourselves and we project it to others.
Change comes with growth and it starts with you.
