4 Habits of Highly Attractive People
2# They are very smart people.
What I’ve noticed in my life is that if I’m being nice to people in general they go cold on me. When I unapologetically defend myself from being disrespected, they wanted me more. They wanted to be my friend.
When it comes to dating, I once heard a guy say in a group conversation say “I like a girl who sticks up for herself!” he wasn’t wrong.
As a woman? I like a guy who sticks up for himself and his loved ones. Generally speaking, I like people who genuinely say no and stick up for themselves.
Even kids are better at saying no than adults!
^ I’ve never thought about it until I heard Marisa Peer saying it. It’s time to get that bravery back.
Anyone who gets mad at you for defending yourself and saying no is lying. They love it, they’re attracted to you They just won’t admit it. They’ve probably never had anyone challenging them because everyone around them is a yes person. To them, you’ve hacked into their manipulation and they hate it and love it at the same time. They just won’t admit it, but they will respect you more.
Confidence can truly make you attractive overall as a person. You can be attracted to someone romantically or platonically, it doesn’t matter but we automatically become attracted to people who are confident in themselves.
This is because they show signs of strength and bravery which inspires us to do the same. The strong survive in nature so it’s natural for us to be around strong people. This is what makes someone confident. This could be you or someone you know.
1. They Have A Bold Unapologetic Opinion.
They don’t care what people think of them.
You speak from your heart. You don’t speak behind filtered words; you say it exactly as it is. And as it should be.
Bold, transparent, and without a filter.
“Sorry, not sorry.” — Demi Lovato.
You should say what you feel, even if everyone is against you and calling you crazy. If you never speak up, people will never give you the space you need. It’s completely fine if you’re not everyone’s cup of tea.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. The right people will be on your side.
Don’t speak up and you will get ill. Speak up and you will be healthy.
It’s truly attractive to witness a person who is self-assertive and educated in what they’re talking about. It makes people want to work with them because they’re reliable in their own resources.
How to apply:
- Don’t run away from a challenging situation.
- Watch how other people defend themself and learn from them.
- The more you speak up, the more your fear will be desensitized.
- Just say no. It’s that simple. Don’t care how offended they are.
2. They Are Very Smart People.
They are intelligent people. They may not be Einstein but they are very smart about certain topics. They could be book smart or street smart. These people are always trying to learn something new every day. They would see someone with anger problems and know it stems from their childhood abuse. They are calm if someone yells at them because they know they are emotionally hurt by something else. They observe troubled-minded people before they react or say anything to them.
“Surround yourself with people smarter than you are” — Unknown.
Surround yourself with dumb people and you’ll become dumber. Surround yourself with smart people and you’ll become smarter.
When you’re smart, you know people are on a different journey in their life. You know it takes time for people to grow and evolve. It’s their journey and they’ve to make mistakes in their own way. You don’t claim to know better than them so you stay humble.
You don’t want to show you’re smart because you know you’ll meet a person smarter than you and that’s when you have to be humble and listen. There will always be someone smarter than you out there and it’s important to hear what they have to say so you can evolve for the better.
Intelligence is a threat.
Manipulative people dislike smart people because smart people don’t fall for their tricks. This is because manipulative people can’t manipulate smart people and it hurts their ego to know this. This is why manipulative people target weak people because they’re easier to manipulate.
When you don’t fall for a manipulative person, you’ve won because you’re smart.
Famous quote:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” — Albert Einstein
Everyone can be smart in their own way.
Some are good at math and some at good at making art. You can’t judge people because they are good at art but bad at math. We all have strengths and weaknesses in something. We don’t have strength in all and it’s not realistic to think that.
How to apply:
- Hang out with people smarter than you with a bold opinion.
- Be a free thinker instead of having people think for you.
- “Study the greats and become greater.” — Michael Jackson.
- Don’t make a quick decision, think about it for a while.
- Read books that have your best interest.
3. They Make Sh*t Happen.
They don’t sit around on the couch and think of “positive thoughts” magically thinking it’s gonna land on their lap one day. They take action, they make things happen. They work hard because they’ll achieve delayed gratification from it.
Late rewards are worth the hard work.
I’ve realized this late in my life. I could visualize all day but I only achieve my desire when I take action.
When you have a goal, you stick to the plan because your dream is your passion. You don’t change your plan all the time. Fulfilling your desire will never work if you want it today and give up the next day. You have to be consistent every day. Be specific and precise in what you want. Write down what you want on paper with details.
This is the routine of confident people. They are precise in what they want and they make it happen. They want the sweat and hard work. They don’t give up when obstacles are in their way. No matter how much everyone convinces them how their dream is unachievable.
How to apply:
- Do more action than wishful thinking.
- Find out what you can do today to be closer to your dream. One day at a time.
- Build up social connection (you never know who can help you reach your dream)
- Stay in a field that can make your dream successful.
4. They’re Big Believers.
I’ve once encountered a guy who had extreme insecurity but who also was toxic and a mess in the head. God, I want to get away from the situation and have it be over soon. It was the insecurity that made me uncomfortable. I like a guy who has confidence, this one had not and it turned me off so bad.
I basically like being around confident people because they’re a team of strength and courage. You can rely on them 100%
Only the strong survive in nature.
Here’s a thought:
Let’s say you’re at a cafe with your insecure friend and the employer is being rude to both of you. You stand up and defend yourself but your friend does nothing but observe. Now that’s really bad teamwork.
That is a bad friendship that won’t survive because one of them is showing weakness and not speaking up when being treated unfairly. You want a friend who can back you up during uncomfortable moments.
When you’re in a football club, you want a strong team to win, not a weak time otherwise you will lose in a game if you’re the only strong player.
How to apply:
- Find out what you‘re passionate about and not what other people want you to be passionate about.
- Do daily meditation because silence has an answer for you if you let it. It can reveal who you really are.
- Spend some alone time. It can give you time to get to know yourself better.
- Be your own influencer, instead of being influenced by the influencers.
- Confidence leads to big faith.
Useful Affirmations To Boost Your Self-Esteem:
- I am so beautiful and people love me for being me.
- I am enough and always will be enough just the way that I am.
- I am a f*cking awesome human being.
- Things are always working out for me. There is always a way out of a problem.
- There is no one like me and there will never be another one like me.
The Final Thoughts:
Confidence is sexy. Confidence is attractive. Confidence makes people rely on you. It makes you a reliable person to count on. People have faith in you because you have faith in yourself.
Confidence means you can laugh at yourself for doing something silly and embarrassing. You don’t take yourself too seriously..
All the famous people who made a change in this world were beautiful souls They had an opinion. They spoke out from their heart. They were hella confident.
That is why people loved them and remember them to this day: There was no one like them. There will never be another one like Gandhi or Nelson Mandela or Princess Diana.
Okay, you don’t have to be a wild spirit; everyone is different. It’s more important to be your authentic self than pretending to be this “smart, peaceful leader.” who make big changes.
The more authentic you are, the more unique you become.
When you pretend to be someone you’re not, you’re an actor living in a lie. Soon you’ll wonder who you really are. Which will cause confusion.
When you know who you are, you’ll be confident.
Don’t pretend, be.
