Road to a Joyful Life
30 Reasons You’re Not Getting What You Want In Life
Only read this if you’re ready to face the truth….
👉Please do NOT scroll to the end without reading the intro; it’s important that you understand what you’re reading before you check those 30 reasons.🤗 People call me “the no b.s. coach” for a reason, so please enter at your own risk.
“Not Everything That Is Faced Can Be Changed, But Nothing Can Change Until It Is Faced.” — James Baldwin.
Have you ever wondered why some people seemingly get what they want with less effort while you’re pushing, chasing, doing what you’re told, and the results aren’t showing up for your life?
After teaching hundreds of students, I’ve noticed patterns that most people struggle with when it comes to creating a life they desire to live.
This list can come across as a list of your shortcomings, even triggering for some of you reading this, and I want you to know that:
🤗There is Nothing Wrong With You.
What I’ve learned is that, simply put, we cannot change what we don’t acknowledge.
I went through all of it myself, and it took me years to overcome these thoughts, habits, and beliefs that were ingrained into me as an abused child.
Over time, with gentle work, we all have the ability to overcome these challenges and live a life that is truly on our own terms.
Not on anyone else’s, but on our own loving terms.
Please enter with gentle care, take what you resonate with, and leave the rest behind.
⚠️One more warning:
If you find yourself noticing that you relate to many of the lists in here and you get triggered, simply stop reading, save it for later, and realize that there is NO WAY to change all these at once.
If you’re ready to look at them one by one, change one at a time, you can expect to see results within months.
Self-improvement is not a one-day done deal. It’s a continuous process, done with care and appreciation.
Love you, and please be kind to yourself
The problem isn’t that you cannot have whatever you want in your life; the problem is that:
- You don’t exactly know what you want — lack of clarity.
- Even if you do know what you want, you doubt yourself to achieve it — limiting beliefs.
- You’re not clear on ONE thing that you want at a time — confusion.
- You want it all at once; your focus is scattered — distracted.
- You want it now and don’t like the process — procrastinate.
- You are impatient — frustration.
- You’d rather rush to get, push to get, than create from an effortless place of calm — working hard rather than smart.
- You act from lack, insecurity, worry, doubt rather than trust, belief, love, and abundance — childhood programming.
- You want to prove yourself to others, rather than prove yourself to you — people-pleasing.
- You don’t believe in yourself enough to take the first or next steps — self-doubt.
- You blame others when things don’t go your way — blame/shame.
- You are afraid to look at yourself and challenge your beliefs — afraid of the truth.
- You fight for your limitations — closed-minded.
- You think you know it all — ego.
- You act from a place of never having enough, not from a place of there is enough for everyone — scarcity.
- You complain more than you appreciate — anger, frustration.
- You believe you can do it all alone — ego, defensiveness.
- You think you should know better and don’t ask for help — ego.
- You waste your time spying on others rather than facing your own demons — envy.
- You are afraid to step outside the norm; it’s uncomfortable — fear of uncertainty.
- Your life right now is not so bad, so you’d rather stay than try something new — complacent.
- You want to hold on to your past stories, rather than start writing a new story for your future — depressed, sad.
- You’re used to drama and find comfort in it — childhood programming.
- You believe you’re right, rather than have an open mind and become curious — ego.
- You know you WANT change but you’re not doing anything about it — disbelief in self.
- You beat yourself up for not keeping promises to yourself — disbelief in self.
- You want to jump from beginner to pro in one day — ego.
- You are inconsistent with the tools given to you that can change your life forever — lack of commitment.
- You keep looking for something or someone else outside of you to change — afraid to take responsibility for self.
- You are afraid to BECOME the BEST version of YOU — what if’s.
If you’ve read this far, I commend you for your courage and bravery to look at yourself on a deeper level.
Just imagine working through these one by one; in a year or two, your life can feel, sound, and look the way you truly want it to be.
I know I have sparked some neuro links in your mind and made you think about your life and your problems maybe in some different way.
You may recognize some of what you do daily, and you might find that this list of inspiration is enough for you to take an honest look at yourself and begin the steps needed to change your life
