3 Ways to Practice Unsewing Your Lips and Speaking Your Truth

Make yourself freer than yesterday

I lie.

With an infinite amount of truths available, I choose to lie.

More when I was younger, but I still do. And that’s the truth.

I lied about the massive things.

I lied about the minuscule things.

Most of my life was spent as the gum under the shoe of a shadow. Quiet. Scared. Who wants to be turned away? Not me. Not you, I bet.

My truths felt as big as Robert Wadlow stacked on a skyscraper stacked on a pyramid, and I was buried under the ground.

I’m bisexual. I don’t understand. I’m lonely. I need help. I don’t have the time. I’m scared you’ll hurt me. I have no idea who I am.

And my lies turned me into half a robot’s chest filled with a gushing heart.

That’s how a human dies, not how we live.

Eventually, I learned to cut the burning threads from my lips and speak more of my truth. Here’s how.

Be gentle

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete. — Jack Kornfield

The first person who needs to hear our truth is us. This is the hardest conversation we’ll have. It’s easy to ignore our truths.

Convince ourselves it’s better to hide. It’ll be better to stay hidden. To stay a shadow. But it’s not better. And it won’t be.

And that’s the truth.

The first thing I did was let myself fantasize — about everything.

Attractions, anger at feeling lost, sadness about being hurt.

Fantasize about all of it without shame. Without censor.

In your dreams, no one can see your truths. No one can judge you for them.

Understand your emotions

Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves. — Abraham Lincoln

To tell anyone our spirit-growing truths, it’s good to learn to communicate them.

Magma can’t be stuffed back into a volcano, and few people are gonna want to hear your pain if you’re causing them pain.

Going deep into your emotions and studying them helps you approach people calmly and without accusations — even if they’ve done you wrong.

• Name your emotions. Write them down. See who and what triggers each one. And when they do, how do you respond?
• Think about what childhood experiences could have caused psychological pains. What parts of you are younger than the age you are now?
• Think about adult experiences that left you scarred. How have you been holding on to these feelings?

“How are you?”

When someone asks you this, tell the truth.

If you're feeling like a bag of bananas, cherry Coke, and tuna in the desert, tell them that.

If you’re more excited than a snake with two cornered mice with one leg each, say that.

It can be tough to fight against “fine, and you?”, but it’s a small way to start speaking your truth.

Each snip of the thread is progress. And you deserve progress.

You deserve to meet the real you.

It took me years to learn these lessons, and I’m still asking myself all these questions every day.

Being honest isn’t easy, so I’ll leave you with this:

I lie.

And that’s the truth.

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