3 Things That Could Make You Unhappy In A Relationship
Create a peaceful mind which births a peaceful togetherness leading to a peaceful home
The sweetness of every togetherness is based on understanding between the partners. Love can be nicer when both parties try to sacrifice for the betterment of it.
While past experiences, especially bad ones, can be devastating to one's current state of being, finding ways to not be be drowned in those past events as as it can leave you unsettled and unhappy.
It's very necessary to try and distance oneself from certain things if one actually wants to find happiness in a relationship.
Many with a good heart has wrongly been treated despite their truism and commitment to see their partner happy and not to look elsewhere for the love they seek at home which they may not get.
For the fact that some human might not appreciate what they have at their disposal until they lose it, it's sometimes very important to let some things be the way it wants to without stressing much while trying to make it to be in the right.
You just have to let go of things that might be toxic to your mental and physical well-being.
Below are the things that when you don't let them go off from your mind, you might not see the effort of your partner and derive a source of happiness from your home.
1. Fearing to accept change.
Human by nature is dynamic in character, the same person you had a lively conversation with during the day might turn entirely to a different person you never talk of.
The best of all thing is to understand and know when to let things be the way it is.
While some people become so comfortable with the old side of their partner and ready to accept and take things exactly the way they may appear thereafter, others find it difficult to adapt and accept changes.
As a human, you can get the best from a person but, you don't have to think you will continuously see that good from them, this is why it is very necessary to always expect the unexpected from your partner.
Fearing to accept changes from your partner and wishing to keep drowning in the old good days is one of the rarest things you will see among the human race.
Expectations do come with failure, you can not keep receiving the good things that sweetened your taste from your partner and you cannot force them to do things the way it pleases you always.
You just have to take things the way they come at a time.
2. Living in the past.
It is a normal thing not to expect life to be fair with you, life can not be fair with you especially when you're a good person.
Your receiving end might be the opposite of what you gave out.
I have heard so many people ( man or woman) saying to their friends or family how well they have been good to their partner but only to be treated in the wrong way and they thereby concluded never to be good just to people that will ever come their way as a partner again.
Albeit, things might not work the way we ever planned it to, but we must note that; everybody cannot be the same in their way of life.
Living in the past due to the awful experience one has encountered may leave you with bruises that will not allow you to see the good from others that might come your way.
You cannot please everybody with your loving behavior but, don't stop being good to others either.
Sometimes, if you want to live happily in your current relationship, you've got to let go of the past from the present.
Doing this will allow you to see the good from them.
I once had a girlfriend who narrated to me how bad she had been treated by her ex-boyfriend despite her sincerity and other things expected of a woman to demonstrate to her partner.
This, in turn, made her have the perception that men can never be trusted.
I tried every possibility to do things in the right ways for her but, instead, she will say to me: I don't trust men again.
Indirectly, all that I am doing is nothing to her, she never feels appreciated because of her past experience.
You see, when you allow yourself to keep drowning in the past, you might lose the sweetness of the present.
A philosopher once said: "The past was not perfect, the present is not satisfactory and the future will partially be controllable".
You deserve to be happy, leaving alone what leaves you in a state of worrying.
3. Over thinking.
Over-thinking will never solve you any problem, all it does is keep you worried and unhappy.
Learn to take things the way they come and turn to your Lord to always do the best for you.
Stop thinking over things that don't want to be in your favor.
Find solace in the present and push life forward.
Ranging from family, business, life-threatening issues: All these might be very dangerous to your health.
Distance yourself from overthinking if you want to enjoy the happiness of the present.
All that is happening to you is a reflection of what you may probably not know of.
Some partners live in an unhappy home as a result of what is roving in the mind, they tend to fake a smile to conceal their worries in the presence of their man/woman.
Look, your partner should be your best friend where you will be able to voice out to them what keeps your heart off-peace.
Discuss issues with them, forget the fact that some might give a deafening ear to your complaint, believe me, no man will like to see their partner with an unhappy face and be comfortable with it.
Your peace of mind matters to you, when you overthink, you're indirectly inviting hypertension to your health which is very dangerous to one's health.
If you want to be happy with your partner, trust them enough to tell them things that worried you, seek their opinions and if need be, go to a therapist together and seek more solutions from them.
It is better that way than to keep them to yourself and be living a lonely life.
Remember, you only live and die once, your health is wealth, be careful with it. A peaceful mind birthed a peaceful togetherness leading to a peaceful home.
You can't keep living in a state of no benefit, you're a human and you don't expect life to throw at you what you throw at life, accept what the present has for you and distance yourself from that which leaves you unhappy.
Above all, you're the architect of yourself, peaceful with what thrives in, and know what you let out…