3 Steps to Understanding Unconditional Love on a Twin Flame Journey

Unconditional love goes far beyond the longing, obsession, or passion we feel for someone

Love is a basic emotion that we have from the beginning of our life. But even though it’s also ours, the one thing we miss the most is love. Although love is within us, we think we have to experience it to get it out. A child who does not receive love from their parents will be surprised when they start school and sees love from their teacher. Because he had never seen the physical form of love until now. Love is a common behavior of all.

But the evidence that there is love in all of us is abundant in the universe. The eyes of the person who feels the love shine with a smile. When you show compassion to someone, the part of them that longs for it softens. When we see a newly bloomed tree, we look with admiration. In admiration, there is great love that has not been revealed. Love always waits to be discovered within us.

Twin flame love is an important dimension of divine love. Our inner joy and energy are in harmony with our twin flame energy every day. What disrupts this harmony is our ego, which is always dependent on the result. In order to stay in our soul in the world of 3d-oriented consumption, we must understand the unconditional love within us very well. Twin flames are very open to higher forms of love. But first, we need to learn what love alone means.

In this article, we will talk about the stages that twin flames go through to learn the source of love within themselves on the path to unconditional love.

Where is the key to reaching the love within us?

Twin flames have a hard time understanding the source of love within them. This love is so strong that it can manifest itself in many emotions. We often confuse love with other complex emotions inside us. We can even feel love as passion, lust, anxiety, or fear. But it is up to us to find a way to separate the love within us from our subconscious thoughts. Love does not change its form, we just perceive love as we feel it. Because the love within us is our way of showing that the divine source is with us. When we reach the love within us, our eyes fill with tears and we feel the support of the universe within us.

In order to make sense of the presence of love in our hearts, we must learn to feel it only for ourselves. It is not enough to just provide our basic needs to survive. We also need to learn to feel love simply. People who are far from feeling love always live with a great emptiness inside. It is a great illusion to dedicate love to one person by reducing it to a purely romantic dimension.

Love is an emotion that grows inside of us. Love is not a reflection of the longing, obsession, or passion we feel for someone. We are the ones who confuse love with these conditional feelings. The essence of love has very little to do with our hormones. Love makes us sing. Love is the essence of our creativity. Love is the feeling that gets us out of bed every morning. Love is in everything that makes us laugh. Love is too great a feeling to be concerned with romantic love alone. Romantic feelings are only a small part of love.

Let’s look at the 3 basic steps we need to examine ourselves to understand unconditional love.

1. Understanding your love language

We all have a love language. The way we express love shows what we are really happy with. We may want to receive love the way we show it. This allows us to see the parts of us where we need love. Not only the twin flame runners but also the chasing twin can fear love. That’s why it’s important for everyone to know the love language.

Our love language can also reveal what drives us away from love. I know my language of love is quality time and receiving gifts. After spending quality time, I watch the feeling inside me inspire me. So I understand what makes me happy. And I don’t think of getting into more superficial or purposeless activities. Because I know that the things you do to distract me will hurt the love of my soul.

Our twin flame’s love language may not be the same as ours. Because we did not receive love from the same family or environment. But because our core is the same, we can easily understand and adapt to each other’s love language. The language of love describes the areas we want to be fed. I know that my twin flame’s love language is predominantly the words of affirmations and quality time. That’s why he uses phrases that support everyone because that’s what makes him feel brave and joyful when done to him. This is another deciphering of our love language. In fact, they tell us what we need most deeply. While they may feel embarrassed when you compliment someone who likes to compliment someone, deep down they know they need it.

I like to make my feelings physical. That’s why I sometimes make fun of myself saying, “I would write to my twin flame every day if he was near me.” Our love language is very important as it also shows the enjoyment we get from life.

2. Working on your emotions

I realized too late that I was confusing love with other feelings inside of me. When I felt love, my heart would beat so fast, I would tremble with excitement. This reflected the same feelings in my body as when I felt sudden anxiety. My body, which perceives love and anxiety as the same emotion, also saw love as a threat to its system. When the body labels an emotion or a person as a threat, it isn't easy to get rid of it. But now I allow myself to feel love every day just plain. I make affirmations by reminding myself that love is not pain or suffering. I try to replace the unpleasant feelings that love takes up in me with a light feeling of unconditional love and trust.

How does your body react when you feel the love? I’m crying. My body is starting to warm up. But when I feel love instead of the fearful burning sensation of anxiety, I get a very light and winging sense of security. I feel as if a warm breeze is hitting my face from the window. When I can feel love so plainly, I realize that I have kept this feeling in a cage for many years. I did not let the bird in me fly, and my love was stuck in the cage like the wings of a bird. That’s why when my bird feels love and wants to fly, its wings hurt so much that I perceive this feeling as suffering.

It is important for twin flames to soften their heart chakras to feel unconditional love. Our attachment to the material world and all our conditional sides are governed by our lower chakras. The root chakra is our survival mechanism. It will be much easier for them to feel unconditional love if twin flames start working from their lower chakras and ground themselves and then move to the upper chakras that connect to the divine. The connection of the crown chakra with the heart chakra enables us to accept our divine essence. Our soul, purified from the 3rd Dimension, sees that it actually has everything in the 5th Dimension, and makes a deal with its effort to bring them down to earth.

Twin flame love is far from all conditional love. We don’t have to hide all our flaws and look perfect for our twin flame to like us. It is our conditioned ego self that thinks this should be so. Of course, we want to appear our best to someone we love. This is also directly proportional to the value and attention we give ourselves. The point I want to emphasize is that as twin flames, our most stylish appearance in each other’s eyes is the same as when we first get out of bed in the morning.

3. Developing your self-esteem

Respect for ourselves is the cornerstone of universal love. Anyone who does not respect himself will not be able to love anything. Respect, in a broad context, is a state of appreciation and acceptance. A healthy love will not grow without respect. Because lack of respect can be one of the triggers of conditional love. When you don’t accept yourself as you are and constantly criticize it, it becomes harder to love yourself with each passing day.

Self-respect is also knowing your limits well. If you protect your own rights, this will send an “I care about you” message to your whole being. When you think that you can’t protect yourself and that people always treat you as they wish, you start to feel sorry for yourself here and hurt your value. The foundation of true unconditional love comes from behavior supported by respect. Being honest with yourself is without ignoring that you make the same mistakes over and over.

They who know the value of themself know the value of even the smallest things around them. And at the point where unconditional love arises, small things merge into great sources of love. Loving things that do not directly serve our interests strengthens unconditional love within us.

If you don’t feel the love inside you, there will never be a moment to share it. The one thing twin flames don’t know how to do is love themselves. Twin flames can feel the source of love burning inside of them every day, but they do not know how to use this source. The reason why we are sad every day is that we do not know how to use the source of love within us only for ourselves.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings, and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link