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better life for his own family.</li></ul><div id="873a" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/5-of-the-simplest-yet-most-essential-marriage-tips-e031b9923730"> <div> <div> <h2>5 of the Simplest Yet Most Essential Marriage Tips</h2> <div><h3>That I want my newly married son to know</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*_bZjdnjWjiTqSBuv)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><ul><li>My second son, J, is 25-years-old. He is smart, bright, and independent, and one of the funniest people I know.</li><li>My baby, A, is 20-years-old. He is the last one at home and is creating a financially secure future for himself while he is here.</li></ul><h2 id="dbf3">What I learned over the years</h2><p id="95c6">My situation with E was a little different than it was with the other two. E’s dad was not around after my son turned 1-year-old. I raised E on my own until he was 5-years-old. I made quite a few mistakes with my little experiment baby!</p><p id="d5ba"><b>I fed him way too many Happy Meals</b>. Being poor and single with a baby, the lure of the dollar menu, and Happy Meals at McDonald’s was unavoidable in my young, innocent mind. Vegetables were scarce, if at all. It wasn’t until I met my husband and we had J that veggies were introduced to E.</p><p id="3b4f"><i>Fast-forward to our current timeline:</i> My 2 younger sons love a variety of vegetables, E does not like any except for corn.</p><p id="1328"><i>Takeaway:</i> Even though E was under the age of 5 and he doesn’t mentally remember all of the trips through McDonald’s drive-thru’s, his taste buds do.</p><p id="a8cd"><i>Advice:</i> Start introducing a wide variety of fruits, vegetables, all different types of foods as soon as your child starts eating solid foods. It may make all the difference in how healthy they eat when they grow up.</p><p id="ee49"><b>I never criticized his absent father.</b> Raising a child on your own can certainly be stressful. Money, time, day-to-day help, all of this can become overwhelming. Even though E’s father had a drug problem and spent many years in prison, I resolved to never speak ill of him. I didn’t praise or acknowledge his activities in a positive light to his son. I only spoke the truth. “Your dad cannot see you this weekend” was the most common phrase my son heard growing up about his dad.</p><p id="5852"><i>Fast-forward to our current timeline: </i>My son grew up knowing which parent was always there for him and which one wasn’t. Without me ever having to denounce his father.</p><p id="b312"><i>Takeaway:</i> Actions speak louder than words. Always have, always will.</p><p id="09b6"><i>Advice:</i> It doesn’t matter if you are a single

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parent or two parents raising a child together, never speak badly about the child’s other parent. Children are too young and impressionable to be able to discern a negative comment said out of anger or frustration. There is never a need or reason to subject a child to that type of conversation.</p><p id="d9d0"><b>SpongeBob babysat my son quite often.</b> Cartoons and video games become an easy distraction for a busy mom. Attempting to do all of the daily chores after working a full day can get tiresome with a toddler following you around. Plop the child in front of the television and you have a free 25 minutes to get something done. Unfortunately, the time spent in front of the TV instead of sitting down and reading with my son affected his reading ability in school.</p><p id="9269">I was babysitting a friend’s daughter one day, who was the same age as E. They were both in 1st grade at the time. As E was watching cartoons, I noticed the little girl was reading a chapter book. The next day I went to the school and spoke to E’s teacher, and she let me know that he was way behind in his reading skills. She had sent home notes in his backpack, but since E never mentioned the notes, I never saw them. As a first-time parent, it didn’t even dawn on me to look through his backpack except for the homework!</p><p id="b3ed"><i>Fast forward to our current timeline:</i> I was able to get E into an afterschool program that helped him learn how to read, then we had to work on his comprehension. All of this should have been caught while he was in kindergarten. He can read and comprehend just fine now, but he does not enjoy reading as a hobby because it was so much trouble when he was younger.</p><p id="126c"><i>Takeaway:</i> I learned from that huge mistake with E and spent a lot of time with J and A learning how to read.</p><p id="9991"><i>Advice:</i> Spend time with your child as often as possible reading books. Start practicing sound out words and reinforce reading comprehension along the way.</p><p id="d19c" type="7">“Many times what we perceive as an error or failure is actually a gift. And eventually, we find that lessons learned from that discouraging experience prove to be of great worth.” — Richelle E. Goodrich</p><p id="452d">These are but a few of the many mistakes I made with my experiment child. Luckily, none of them were life-threatening or insurmountable!</p><p id="83da">Please do not worry first-time parents! You too shall follow the path the rest of us constructed on first-hand fumbles and come out just fine on the other side.</p><p id="16a3">Know that everything you are doing for your child is out of pure love, and all will be fine in the long run.</p><p id="decf"><a href="https://forms.aweber.com/form/94/1904492394.htm"><b>Tap Here to sign up for Julene’s Musings newsletter and get your FREE PDF of the 500 most commonly misspelled words and their definitions!</b></a></p></article></body>

3 simple steps to start facing childhood traumas for a flourishing life

Do you find yourself fighting to find happiness or worth in your everyday life?

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As Jillian Michaels said: “The past doesn’t define you. Your present does”

If you find yourself feeling stuck in your personal life, and your professional journey feels like it’s missing the mark, the root might go deeper than your current circumstances.

Childhood traumas, often overlooked, can cast a long shadow over our lives, shaping our beliefs, fears, and insecurities. The good news? You have the power to rewrite this narrative and find the way to a successful and fulfilling life. Let’s explore how.

The Impact of Childhood Traumas: Breaking the Chains

Childhood traumas can be deeply stored in our hearts making us feel disconnected from reality. They even develop the power to build a life making us believe it’s our truth even though it’s not.

What do you still keep from your childhood passions in your daily routine? Answering questions like this one will let you know how far you are from your real being.

Limiting beliefs, rooted fears, and insecurities often find their origin in early experiences. Perhaps it was a toxic relationship, an unstable environment, or an emotionally distant caregiver. These experiences shape our perception of self, success, and the world around us.

Life is worth living, I promise you. Your circumstances only define your present but there’s so much beyond that. Here are some simple steps to start getting out of the loop.

Step 1: Unmasking Limiting Thoughts

The first step to transforming your life is to identify and challenge those limiting thoughts that have been holding you back. These thoughts often manifest as self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or a persistent belief that you’re not worthy of success. Take a moment to reflect on these thoughts. Are they based on your current reality, or are they echoes of the past?

By bringing awareness to these thoughts, you reconnect with the power to reshape them. Replace “I can’t” with “I can learn,” and “I’m not good enough” with “I am a work in progress, and that’s okay.” Challenge the validity of these thoughts, and watch as new possibilities emerge.

Step 2: Confronting Rooted Fears

Rooted fears from childhood traumas often act as invisible barriers, preventing you from taking bold steps toward success. These fears can be related to rejection, failure, or even success itself. Delve into the core of these fears. What’s the worst that could happen? More often than not, the imagined outcome is far scarier than reality.

Facing these fears head-on is liberating. Start with small, manageable steps that push you slightly out of your comfort zone. Each triumph, no matter how small, weakens the grip of these fears. Whether it’s initiating a challenging conversation or taking up a new skill, these incremental victories build resilience and confidence.

Our brains receive every message as an absolute truth. They reshape them and start working from that place. This is the main reason why self-talk is so important and, using kind and uplifting words creates a huge impact in our lives.

Step 3: Rewriting Relationship Scripts

Past relationships, especially those marked by trauma, can leave lasting imprints on how we perceive ourselves and others. If you’ve experienced toxic relationships, you might carry the weight of distrust, fear of vulnerability, or a belief that relationships are bound to end in disappointment.

Challenge these relationship scripts by fostering healthy connections. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and inspire you. Seek professional guidance if needed to navigate the complexities of building and maintaining positive relationships. As you rewrite these scripts, you pave the way for fulfilling connections that fuel your journey to success.

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Cultivating Habits of Success: Small Changes, Big Impact

Success is often the result of consistent, positive habits. Start by incorporating small changes into your daily routine. Set achievable goals, celebrate your victories, and be kind to yourself in setbacks.

A morning routine that includes affirmations or mindfulness can set a positive tone for the day. Consider a regular practice of gratitude to shift your focus towards what’s going well in your life. You can find guidance in my free new E-book “Heal with Gratitude”.

Remember, the key is consistency. These small changes, when practiced daily, create a ripple effect that transforms your mindset, boosts your confidence, and sets the stage for a successful life.

In Conclusion: Your Journey to Success Begins Within

Dealing with childhood traumas is a courageous act of self-love and empowerment. By working on limiting thoughts, confronting rooted fears, and rewriting relationship scripts, you take charge of your narrative. Cultivating habits of success through small, intentional changes propels you toward the life you desire.

Remember: “Your past doesn’t define your future”.

Your journey to success begins within, with a commitment to self-discovery, healing, and intentional growth. Embrace the power within you, and watch as your life transforms into a synergy of resilience, strength, and triumph.

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