3 Signs You Are Actually Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

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ring. In other words, it is difficult to determine if you are now aware of the characteristics of a disordered person and you will no longer fall for it. If the relationship was long-term, or even worse if you were raised by a narcissist the signs of recovery can be quite paradoxical. Here are three signs that you are positively recovering from narcissistic abuse.</p><h2 id="d44f">You experience drastic ups and downs</h2><p id="6bc5">Despite being entangled in a trauma bond with a narcissist, your life may have had much predictability. The way narcs maintain control over you is through establishing some type of structure. This actually is a factor of why so many people stay in abusive relationships. It begins to feel normal.</p><p id="91c1">Once you leave that structure, a series of ups and downs follow. Not because you are incapable of taking care of yourself or you’re doing something wrong. This is simply the undoing of the nature of your life. Maybe you’re experiencing uncommon physical ailments such as stomach aches, headaches, tight muscles. Or maybe you can’t get a hold on your finances. Money becomes scarce even though you’ve always worked hard and saved money. You may have some good days. But the days when you feel imbalanced or down are the hardest. Know that when you are down, you are growing. You are discovering who you are outside of the cycle of abuse. When you come up, you will do so with more purpose and intention. Keep going.</p><h2 id="cbee">Stable situations break down</h2><p id="623e">Depending on the relationship, whether it was a working relationship, intimate relationship, or familial, there was an element of stabi

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lity within the abuse. For example, I grew up in a narcissistic home, but I never had to worry about eating every day, having new clothes for school, a warm home, toys, TV, etc. My life was stable and even privileged. When I decided to speak up against the abuse and voice my feelings, the stability regarding my connection to family broke down. The communication broke down…even more. And I started to experience challenges in other areas of my life. Again, this is the undoing of things that are not in alignment with you. An abusive relationship would be one of those things.</p><h2 id="30f6">Disengagement from those you were once close to</h2><p id="ed34">You may begin to notice that people that you could once tolerate now energetically and physically drain you. They didn’t do anything to you necessarily but they get under your skin by just being in your presence. This could be that you haven’t fully accepted people for who they are. So you are energetically repelling them. It could even feel like you need to shield yourself from them, retreating into a corner or leaving the room. Do not feel bad or weird about this. It simply means you are transcending a previous part of your life.</p><p id="c0d8">These points are not limited to recovery after narcissistic abuse. They are actually relevant to any transformation or awakening period. But as it relates to narcissistic abuse recovery, these may be experienced during the first stage of recovery. This is perhaps the most uncomfortable and painful stage. Do not become afraid and retreat back to abuse. Know that this is the way to recovery, becoming happy, healthy, and whole.</p></article></body>

3 Signs You Are Actually Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic abuse is cyclical. We experience trauma bonds because of the pattern or manipulation tactics the abuser employs to hurt us and control us. Typically she/he love bombs then devalues. The high we get from the heightened endorphins during the “good times” or brief periods of happiness causes us to become addicted to the treatment of the narcissist. We feel terrible when we are hurt but crave to get that feel good from the narc. Whatever that good feeling is. It could be your favorite food, a brief getaway, money, excess compliments, etc. etc.

The cycle of abuse leaves us utterly confused. Confused about their actions and maybe even confused about yourself. You probably have found yourself asking, “what did I do?” “Was it something I said?” You become gravid with self-blame and self-doubt. Your thoughts become so overwhelming, back and forth. “It was my fault.” “I can’t believe he did that to me.” “Maybe I should call.” And then your mind short circuits. It can no longer process the feelings and emotions. For a temporary period, you become blank. And when or if you actually make it out of that cycle of abuse, there are no predetermined signs or pointers that indicate you are recovering. In other words, it is difficult to determine if you are now aware of the characteristics of a disordered person and you will no longer fall for it. If the relationship was long-term, or even worse if you were raised by a narcissist the signs of recovery can be quite paradoxical. Here are three signs that you are positively recovering from narcissistic abuse.

You experience drastic ups and downs

Despite being entangled in a trauma bond with a narcissist, your life may have had much predictability. The way narcs maintain control over you is through establishing some type of structure. This actually is a factor of why so many people stay in abusive relationships. It begins to feel normal.

Once you leave that structure, a series of ups and downs follow. Not because you are incapable of taking care of yourself or you’re doing something wrong. This is simply the undoing of the nature of your life. Maybe you’re experiencing uncommon physical ailments such as stomach aches, headaches, tight muscles. Or maybe you can’t get a hold on your finances. Money becomes scarce even though you’ve always worked hard and saved money. You may have some good days. But the days when you feel imbalanced or down are the hardest. Know that when you are down, you are growing. You are discovering who you are outside of the cycle of abuse. When you come up, you will do so with more purpose and intention. Keep going.

Stable situations break down

Depending on the relationship, whether it was a working relationship, intimate relationship, or familial, there was an element of stability within the abuse. For example, I grew up in a narcissistic home, but I never had to worry about eating every day, having new clothes for school, a warm home, toys, TV, etc. My life was stable and even privileged. When I decided to speak up against the abuse and voice my feelings, the stability regarding my connection to family broke down. The communication broke down…even more. And I started to experience challenges in other areas of my life. Again, this is the undoing of things that are not in alignment with you. An abusive relationship would be one of those things.

Disengagement from those you were once close to

You may begin to notice that people that you could once tolerate now energetically and physically drain you. They didn’t do anything to you necessarily but they get under your skin by just being in your presence. This could be that you haven’t fully accepted people for who they are. So you are energetically repelling them. It could even feel like you need to shield yourself from them, retreating into a corner or leaving the room. Do not feel bad or weird about this. It simply means you are transcending a previous part of your life.

These points are not limited to recovery after narcissistic abuse. They are actually relevant to any transformation or awakening period. But as it relates to narcissistic abuse recovery, these may be experienced during the first stage of recovery. This is perhaps the most uncomfortable and painful stage. Do not become afraid and retreat back to abuse. Know that this is the way to recovery, becoming happy, healthy, and whole.