Reclaim Your Power | Abuse & Emotional Trauma
3 Secrets to Shed the Legacy of Abuse
Break the Chains of Emotional Trauma & Create Your Future Your Way
Reclaiming your power is a great way to shed the legacy of abuse and create your life your way.
Embracing your dreams and turning them into your reality is why you are reading this article, right?
Great! So here are 3 great strategies to shed the legacy of abuse and emotional trauma.
3 Secrets to Shed the Legacy of Abuse
In this article, you are going to discover how to comfortably shed the legacy of emotional trauma and abuse.
Secret#1 You Are Not Responsible
The most common line an abuser will use is “If you hadn’t _________ then I wouldn’t have had to_____________” or something similar. An abuser has a quiver full of arrows designed to make you responsible. If one fails they will simply go into their quiver and select another. It might be “This is our secret. If you tell anyone I will have to kill them and it will be your fault.” This threat is frequently used with children. When an adult is being abused their arrow of choice might be “No one will believe you because they know you are crazy.”
Their objective is to make you responsible for their choices. You are never responsible for the choices of another. No matter how they spin it, it is their choice and their responsibility. Drop the albatross of the responsibility off of your shoulders. It is not yours to carry.
But First
Before this article is complete, I’m going to show you how to reclaim your power and embrace the life of your dreams but first let’s look at Secret #2 for Shedding the Legacy of Abuse.
Secret #2 It’s Not About You, It’s About Them
Your abuser wants you to believe it is all about you when in fact it is all about them. They will tell you that you are stupid, incompetent, unlovable, or…They are telling you that it is only because of their benevolence, that you even have a life. They may say or imply you are so irredeemably flawed that no one else would accept you. That is bogus!
It is their own insecurity that seeks validation and power by demeaning you. It is their selfishness that is seeking gratification at your expense.
Alternately they may say you are irresistible and only they can appreciate you as you deserve to be appreciated. Yet they will not treat you with appreciation and respect.
As I tell my clients in The Power to Choose you have the power to reject the cruel manipulations of others (and even your own past decisions) that have created a soul-crushing history. You can choose to embrace your capacity to create the future you choose so let’s take a look at Secret #3 in Shedding the Legacy of Abuse.
Secret #3 Embrace The Real You
This starts with knowing who you are and what matters the most to you. This is the process of creating the foundation on which to build the future you choose. This is not about how society defines success. This is not about how mom and dad define success. It is about how you define it in your heart.
It involves creating a road map from where you are to where you want to go. We all know “successful” people who are unhappy because the success they have achieved is not in alignment with what matters to them. When you embrace the power of choice you reject all of those bogus ideas that your abusers were selling. You embrace the freedom to be your authentic self unencumbered by the past.
As you walk this road hold tight to the 3 C’s.
You might ask “But Ada what are the 3 C’s?”
Clarity about who you are becoming and where you are going.
Compassion for the road you have traveled.
Courage & Commitment to make the hard choices and persevere because you are worth it.
As you incorporate these 3 Secrets to Shed the Legacy of Abuse into your life you will find the hope, healing, and progress that have felt so elusive for so long. Step by step you will see your dream becoming your reality.
If You Are Truly Ready to Shed the Legacy of Abuse Then the Next Step is to Take Action!
Step #1 Absolute Clarity
Depending on your current level of clarity use The 7 Pillars of a Happy & Successful Life to confirm it or achieve it.
Step #2 Implement the Secrets
What will you do today to start the process?
The Bottom Line
This is your time to shed the legacy of abuse and break the chains of your history so you can embrace your dreams and become the you that you have always known you could be.
Bonus Tip
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